Recognizing that your relationship has dulled is heart breaking. Luckily there are many fun and exciting ways to spice things up again.

One habit worth developing, is the habit of youthfulness. Avoid the collapse of old age, where the lower abdomen protrudes, the shoulders slump, the head drops forward. That is the posture of collapse into old age. Keep the neck muscles strong and your neck long, abdominal muscles firm (inner core muscles as developed in Yoga and Pilates) to support the internal organs. The potbelly on so many men is the true reflection, not of old age, but of collapse of the vitality of youth, the surrender to gravity. To overcome it, is simply a habit of youthfulness.

The speed of life is complex, exciting and wonderful, but if this is at the cost of love, then the ego has won and love has lost. In our modern world this ego can easily overtake love so we must learn to stop, really stop and be still with our beloved, to turn up. So learning the art of stillness is a major key to sustaining sacred relationships amongst this busy-ness.

Complacency like many other common marriage problems is a bit like the plague. It's catching and it spreads, you don't hear it and you don't see it and by the time you realise what is happening the damage is done.

How do you know if this is the right relationship for you? How do you know if the chemistry between you and your partner is lust or love? I have written many serious articles lately and I wanted to share a light hearted but true thought I have.

The heart has been discredited for too long for what it does not generate; feelings of infatuation.

How much space do you give to your partner/spouse? Or you are one of those who have advice on everything and who want to be with their partner at all times. Meeting your friends? Let me come with you. Going for shopping? I will also come. Going for a walk? Let me join you?

There are very few marriages, where both the partners are satisfied fully. Go around and make a small survey. The results may look shocking but they are true. Everyone has one or the other complain about the married life.

Stress Factors on a Relationship and what to do about them

Many of us had difficult, even rough childhoods, full of ridicule, poverty, or other limitations. While we may, and do, envy other people and their seeming lack of trials, there are few we would really want to trade places with, if the facades were stripped away. And worse, attempts to get even with other people only cause us to lose traction on the slippery slope we're attempting to scale.

This Holiday Season, instead of fighting the unsettling feelings,sink into them. Remember that all transitions have wonderful moments and scary moments, and that by staying connected to your feelings, you can navigate yourself to a more fulfilling and authentic New Year.