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Risk and Vulnerability

The commitment we surrender amounts to a level of sacrifice and joy that can not be calculated in human terms. It is the price of the heart. It is the gift of the mind. It is the joy of the soul. It is the ultimate discovery of consummate peace.


The New Marriage - Part Four of Four

When we are children we do not yet have an identity. We learn about who we are through the mirroring that we get from our parents. It is called mirroring to describe the ability of good parents to gently hold up an imaginary mirror in front of the child until they learn to see themselves clearly without harsh judgments. If we do not get enough realistic mirroring during the years we live with them, we remain pretty clueless about who we really are.


Encourage Your Spouse and Build a Relationship That Lasts

It seems that in our society it has come to be expected that women will get together and criticize their husbands and boyfriends and men will get together and put down their wives and girlfriends. Everyone has to have a few sarcastic comments to fling at their partner, especially when there is an audience around to laugh at their expense. We tend to tear down the very person we claim to love. I think it has become so common in our society that sometimes people don’t even realize they are doing it.


Sacred Love - Compassion is Understanding and Understanding is Wisdom

Each day count your blessings to be alive and able to love. Although emotion may suggest that life is not always fair, never allow the pains, hurdles, and disappointments of the moment to overwhelm your loving attitude and plans for yourself and your beloved. What you don’t appreciate, depreciates. You can never win when you wear the resentful mask of self-pity, and the bitter taste of accusation. They will certainly frighten away any opportunity for love. Never again hold a critical thought for yourself or your beloved. There is a better way.


Sacred Love - Never Go Back

A sacred relationship takes two. Sometimes one or both people, are just not ready. To move into a sacred relationship, the individual you choose must be ready. If they are desperate, they say, “Got to this” and “Got to that”, and they are not ready. If they are always saying, “You should be like this”, or “You should be like that” then they are not ready.


Know Your Man: Humor

Have you noticed that couples who laugh together remain together and seem incredibly happy? How can we better dissolve an argument or a marital storm but with a joke and some hearty laughter?


Being Normal - Learning the Art of Happiness

Here are a few laws, a few simple laws. If you apply these laws, you might change the cause of your own, and others unhappiness. I hope they are of interest to you. Then, instead of trying to fix and make yourself better (which you can’t) you might start to smile and celebrate the beauty of life, by trekking up to the summit of a hill in Nepal, or kiss a baby instead of trying to fix what isn’t broken.


Emotions Are More Accurate Than Your Partner's Words

We communicate on many levels but there are two primary methods of sharing information with others. They are verbal communication and non-verbal communication. About 7-10 % of our total communication in any given day is verbal. This may change slightly depending on your career, age and what is going on in your life.


Traits Of Successful Relationships

After researching numerous books and attending seminars on effective relationships I have found that the following behaviors are pretty consistent in relationships that last and are filled with love, happiness and friendship. Yhey are and in no particular order of importance.


Community Support Transforms Lives of Ex-Offenders

The lives of ex-offenders and their families are being changed through an innovative program: Community Support Advisory Council (CSAC). The program helps ex-offenders become productive citizens while providing needed support to their families. Weekly Overcomers meetings with the community's support makes this a unique program, which is being regarded as a model for future programs around the country.


My First Exposure to Russian Women

I got an email from out of the blue from ICQ, which asked if I wanted to post my picture and bio on their website.I sent the info to them on a lark. Shorty, I received an email from a Ukrainian woman.


The Thrill is Gone - What’s Your Relationship Missing?

Are you just ‘going through the motions’ in your relationship? Do the words ‘I love you, but I’m not IN LOVE with you’ describe what you’re feeling? Find out what’s missing and how you can put the spark back into your relationship.


How to Organise a Fab Birthday Present for Your Man this Year

It's that time of the year to buy your beau a birthday present and whilst hours spent perusing the aisles of department stores usually seems like so much fun when it's getting a present for him the fun seems to stop for some reason.


Recognizing Emotional Shoplifting and Relationship Bankruptcy Part 1

Questions with Answers 1. What is Emotional Shoplifting? 2. How Can I Recognize the warning signs of Emotional Shoplifting? 3. What is Relationship Bankruptcy? 4. How Can I Spot it or Turn it Around? THE ANSWERS


How To Break Up With Your Girlfriend

So you started a relationship with a cute, sweet girl who turned out to be an emotional wreck and possibly mentally insane. No problem, follow these seven steps to break up with your girlfriend.


Sometimes Things Are Better Left Wrapped

If it's true you can't judge a book by its cover, that also applies to meeting people. They aren't always what they seem.


Breaking Out of the Circle of Abuse

Has a bad relationship left you feeling drained and powerless? One simple change in your thinking will give you the motivation to move forward and the strength to rebuild your life.


5 Things No Man Wants to Hear!

What are the things that no man never wants to hear? Here is the code to getting any man to become puffy in your hands.


The 6 Conscious Listening Rules for the Receiver in Discussions

Do people tell you that you are a good listener? You could be an even better listener, especially when your partner is doing the talking. Conscious Listening is an essential part of Co-Creating a Conscious Relationship, and there are rules to help you master it. Read on to see how you can become that even better listener.


Everyday Gift Ideas That Will Make SPARKS Fly!

Guys serenade her by getting up in the middle of a fully crowded restaurant (not a cheap “all you can eat” type) and declaring your undying love for her in front of a bunch of “I don’t need a man to make me happy” man-hating women. Blaring “our song” outside her window in the middle of the night after you’ve had a nasty fight will get you back in the house quicker than you can say “Halle Berry”.


Tips to a Great Marriage - Expectations, The Relationship Killer

Expectations are relationship killers. I bet you’re thinking that I must be batty, you have to have expectations of your spouse otherwise they won’t do the things that you want them to do or they might turn into somebody that you hate.


Feeling Connected in Relationships

What can your relationships feel like? Often the most beautiful feelings we experience in relationship happen when no one is talking. There is a lot to be present with using just the power of attention on each other and what we are feeling. The beauty and intensity of connection when two people silently listen to each other transcends words.


Are You Loyal To Your Boundaries Or To Someone Else's?

Clear boundaries are essential to attracting the love of your life. Have you defined yours?


Know your Man: Relatives

This is a series of short articles about men and their preferences. Men are not difficult beings, or the enemy, as some women would like us to belief. They are simply different. By understanding and accepting their men, women can save their relationships and keep their sanity.



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