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Surviving a Break-Up - Why Non Contact is So Important

Find out why you should not contact your ex after a break up and ways to help you conquer the urge to do so.


Do Words We Use Really Matter

I was thinking the other day (No cracks from my friends please.) about the subtle differences between words that are commonly used, sometimes not used or mis-used. Let me give you an example. I'm sorry. This simple two word sentence can be interpreted so many ways and have so many different meanings for both the person who speaks them and the person who they are directed toward.


Apologies can Kickstart that Flagging Relationship

10 situations that call for an apology, and how they can put you in the limelight


The New Marriage - Part Three of Four

Harry Stack Sullivan, in The Interpersonal Theory of Psychiatry , argues that human beings have a biological drive to develop and establish interpersonal relationships. In Biological Basis for Human Social Behavior , R.A. Hind suggests that a person’s “attachment style”—the way in which they relate to other human beings and form relationships with them—is developed mostly during childhood. The attachment style tends to persist into adulthood but is not fixed and can be modified either positively or negatively as the result of further interactions.


Stop Dragging Your Past into Present Relationships - Part Two of Two

The rapture phase of love gives each partner a feeling that is buoyant, lively, and fulfilling. You project onto your partner images of beauty, goodness, and love as if your partner were a canvas waiting to be painted on. The energy of this consciousness shines a bright light across the world, obliterating all the differences in your characters, lifting you and your partner to a higher state of being. You are atop the summit, and you sparkle to one another like diamonds with many facets of light.


Relationship: Special Greetings

Everyone wants fun and excitement in a relationship. Greet our partner in such a way that is exciting. Get your lover addicted to you with your different way of greeting him. Your partner should always feel a wave of excitement on meeting you while returning from work or any place, after a long break or a short break whatever the gap the meeting should be exciting.


Know Your Man: Luxuries

Men complain that some women are unrealistic in their expectations and want too much. They think that, instead of wanting fancy cars and homes and credit cards and jewelry, women should be content in having a good man. They say that when women don't have these things, they complain about having a terrible life.


Yours, Mine, and Our Emotional Needs - The Marriage Makers and Breakers

A common theme in my articles, on my website, and in my coaching practice is on needs. For our purposes we define a need as a condition requiring relief. There are quite obviously many needs that you meet on a daily basis. Hunger may be one of the first things to come to mind when we think of needs, however, this is more of a physical need and we want to focus on our emotional needs!


Breaking Out of the Circle of Abuse

Has a bad relationship left you feeling drained and powerless? One simple change in your thinking will give you the motivation to move forward and the strength to rebuild your life.


How To Heal A Broken Heart

Is your relationship over? Learn how to get through it so you can get to the other side. Remember, what you tell yourself is everything. Learn how to change your thoughts and you'll change your life; just give yourself some time.


A Failing Relationship: How to Let Go

When we are in an established relationship, we quite normally have expectations of our partner. What do we do when the other person in the relationship is failing to meet our needs?


How To Keep Your Husband

Men Love The Fact They Can Come Home To A Strong Woman!


Long Lost Kids

It was 1967 and I was overseas in a recon outfit. It had been many months since I had experienced any contact with a love interest from the good old USA. I had gone to mail call almost daily and received nothing but an occasional letter from my folks.


Affection in Relationships

Lonely. That's what Janette felt when her husband didn't kiss her goodbye before leaving for work. Sometimes his forgetfulness in this area brought her to tears.


Codependent Relationships: Takers and Caretakers

Takers and caretakers - they often seem to find each other! As a counselor who has worked with relationships for 37 years, I can tell you that this is the most frequent relationship dynamic that I en...


How to be Involved With a Narcissist

I get asked this alot. How to you be in a relationship with a narcissist at best is difficult. My honestly advice, is to stop. End that relationship, end it as soon as possible. I can't emphasize that no one needs to be in a relationship with a narcissist.


Relationship - Have You Forgotten Your Desires To Keep Your Partner Happy?

I used to paint when I was young. I was a dancer. I loved hiking. I loved outdoor sports and so it goes on. I used to be is the common theme. I have forgotten about all that, because my partner does not like that?


Are You in Relationship Remission?

Everyone's been burned, cheated on and totally deflated by their loved one at some point. It's not a fun thing to go through, and sometimes it causes the person to become disillusioned with the whole idea of romance, relationships or beginning anew.


Keeping the Love Alive: Maintaining Good Feelings in Any Kind of Relationship (Part One of Two)

Have you ever noticed how enthusiasm and affection between two people can dwindle as time goes on? Whether it’s a romance, friendship, or work relationship, sometimes the air goes right out of your sails, seemingly for no reason.


Relationship Advice: From Soul Mates to Room Mates

Do you know the signs of drifting from soul mates to room mates in your relationship? Read on to discover the warning signs.


Know your Man: Relatives

This is a series of short articles about men and their preferences. Men are not difficult beings, or the enemy, as some women would like us to belief. They are simply different. By understanding and accepting their men, women can save their relationships and keep their sanity.



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