If you want more out of your relationship then you have to be more. Relationship Specialist, Mark Webb, shares an excerpt from his bestselling book, How To Be A Great Partner.

10 situations that call for an apology, and how they can put you in the limelight

Dating is not a matching game. You are not out there to find a suitable match for yourself. Are you? You are there to find someone you could spend quality time with and also have a few nice moments. Whether or not this encounter concretes into anything lasting is best left to the future.

A relationship can not be properly built and nurtured with only one “hand”, one person. In order for a relationship to work with optimal success, there must be frequent and sufficient help and input. There must be honest non-critical and loving feedback on a continual basis.

Every woman and man get motivated and empowered with the power of love, and kiss is one way to express your love. So always make sure to kiss your partner to feel motivated and loved and let your love life never fade. Remember what has been said earlier, “If you love somebody show it”. Your love is doubled. Your partner too will react to the love expressed by you.

Many times we do things in life for no particular reason or occasion, we do those things because something from inside tells us to do it, as such in a relationship too love should be showed for no reason but simply the fact that you love your partner and it is the heart within us that tells to do it. Doesn’t your heart tell you to simply buy a gift for your lover when you come across something that reminds you of him or her? You gift should not necessarily be an expensive one as it is just a way to express your love and love is not big or small.

It seems that in our society it has come to be expected that women will get together and criticize their husbands and boyfriends and men will get together and put down their wives and girlfriends. Everyone has to have a few sarcastic comments to fling at their partner, especially when there is an audience around to laugh at their expense. We tend to tear down the very person we claim to love. I think it has become so common in our society that sometimes people don’t even realize they are doing it.

I am no expert at love. The very word makes me nauseous and sets my body to a defensive mode. But I have had my heart broken once or twice. Badly. By some pathetic loser by the way. Lucky for me, I'm a quick learner. I made ridiculous mistakes of cosmic proportions and learnt a thing or two.

One habit worth developing, is the habit of youthfulness. Avoid the collapse of old age, where the lower abdomen protrudes, the shoulders slump, the head drops forward. That is the posture of collapse into old age. Keep the neck muscles strong and your neck long, abdominal muscles firm (inner core muscles as developed in Yoga and Pilates) to support the internal organs. The potbelly on so many men is the true reflection, not of old age, but of collapse of the vitality of youth, the surrender to gravity. To overcome it, is simply a habit of youthfulness.

Emotion is the language of the ego. Emotion is the most wonderful honesty about how you feel, think and see life. But if you think your emotions are anything but a witnessing of your own “unconsciousness”, you may have a big problem in life. Emotions block love. No relationship, sacred or otherwise, can thrive when a couple considers their emotions a foundation. Those emotions are so changeable.

We can so easily judge ourselves, and our lovers, against some ideal. This usually relates back to our judgments on our parents. They are the key. If you can’t love your parents, you will not find love for yourself or your loved one. Unblocking love for one person is unblocking love for every person and no one affects this equation more than your parents.

In matters of love and sex, of course, as with many other things, men and women are not in the same page. Men need sex to give love; women need love to have sex.

Granted, most men have no clue how to dress appropriately. They truly need help. I wonder why their mothers never taught them that, or perhaps, they never learned.

Have you noticed that couples who laugh together remain together and seem incredibly happy? How can we better dissolve an argument or a marital storm but with a joke and some hearty laughter?

Reliability of our partner is a primary concern for all of us. It is not only in cheating in relationship but also in wider perspective. If you lose your job for a long time, will your partner stay with you or leave you? Can you rely on your partner? Quiz yourself.

Growing up can be really tough for adolescents in the United States. The media portrays perfect celebrities which many children feel dwarfed by, causing them to experience a poor self image.

I got an email from out of the blue from ICQ, which asked if I wanted to post my picture and bio on their website.I sent the info to them on a lark. Shorty, I received an email from a Ukrainian woman.

Send ALL correspondence by registered mail. Overland mail to Russia and other CIS countries takes about two to three weeks to arrive from the US first class. I recommend that you pay all the letter-writing expenses of the women you write to, as it is significantly more expensive for them than it is for you as a percentage of their income.

When you were dating you carved out time for each other, no matter the pressures of everyday life. You could not fall in love without that time together. This begs the question; don’t you think to sustain that love that you must also make time for one another even now?

It’s so tempting to take things easy once the ring is on your finger. So many of us decide that the hard work is done and that going forward a marriage doesn’t require any effort. One of the most common marriage problems is to just take a back seat, let life pass you by and assume that married life is for every no matter how little effort you make.

Pen pals are gradually becoming more technology savvy. Days are gone when people used to write letter to their pen pals. The approach was very personal. People used to receive letters written on attractive stationery from their pen pals. Recipients would be so overjoyed when they saw a letter from their pen pals in the mailbox. It was a real treat. People share their thoughts, joys and sorrows with their pen pals through letters. But, with the introduction of Internet, handwritten letters have become quite an obsolete phenomenon. Email has pretty much replaced handwritten letters.

Don’t you feel special when somebody remembers you? A call from an old friend or tap from the back from your favorite cousin. The feeling of delight spurs in the air, right? What more if you receive a greeting card, wouldn’t you be ecstatic? Then how about sending that delight to your loved ones. In the past you may have to walk through you nearest shop to pick up those greeting cards. Now you just have to go online, browse, few clicks here and there then it’s on its way!

Many men in relationships might find themselves in situations similar to that of Kevin Spacey’s character Lester Burnham in American Beauty. Somewhere along the way after meeting a woman who you thought made you happy, you ended up making sacrifice after sacrifice. Now, you live day to day numb to reality because you have allowed it to take so much. Your only hope in life is for it all too just end and the sooner the better.

For a series of reasons one can be a little paranoid. Sometimes the need to be a little nosy can influence you to investigate things a little further.