Love is the most universally sought, most profoundly cherished, the most humanly persued element in the universe. Yet, it is the most abused, misunderstood, undervalued commodity in all of human existence. Why? We are stupid. How do we deal with this? Here are 22 suggestions that will turn the tide in your life and the lives of anyone who chooses to read and follow them.

All our stories of the past are actually a balance of pleasure and pain. But that is not how we remember them. We want to protect ourselves, because we don’t want to admit how much we loved a person, and still do. We hold onto those stories and try to crease a life around them.

Your attitude is not dependent on something happening, or people living up or down to your expectations; no matter what happens, your love is there. You now have the ultimate power; there is no need to react, or to run away from situations. To love means to hold deep happiness within, no matter what transpires. It is a loving intent to see that all your disturbances or blockage in love come from you, not from the way the world is.

One of the common marriage problems, which often materialises early on in a relationship, is boredom. Couples often find that after the honeymoon period is behind them and they have settled in to married life it isn’t quite the constant bed of roses that they imagined it to be.

It's very simple, but some people won't believe it. If you want love from another, if you want the perfect mate, you first have to LOVE YOURSELF.

Giving your relationship a regular tune up, is a great way to keep it running smoothly.

What can your relationships feel like? Often the most beautiful feelings we experience in relationship happen when no one is talking. There is a lot to be present with using just the power of attention on each other and what we are feeling. The beauty and intensity of connection when two people silently listen to each other transcends words.

Here's what it means to be personally honest in a relationship.

I am a survivor of domestic abuse. I made the decision to recover from the effects of living life in an abusive relationship. This is my way of trying to make a difference. I hope this helps at least one woman get out of a dangerous situation, then this article and my recovery have been worth it.