A broken heart cannot exist unless you are withholding love. This can be confusing because how can you love someone who hurt you, broke your trust? But you need to see these as two separate things. One is love, what is hurting you, holding it back. The other is your pain, which is caused by the assault on your expectations.

I am a survivor of domestic abuse. I made the decision to recover from the effects of living life in an abusive relationship. This is my way of trying to make a difference. I hope this helps at least one woman get out of a dangerous situation, then this article and my recovery have been worth it.

Most people stay too long in a bad relationship because they don't have a way to end it. They feel guilty or they want to avoid arguments and hurt feelings. So they stay too long and become more and more resentful. And the longer they stay, the longer they out off the market and unable to find the right partner. Read the article and learn an ethical, comfortable way to leave a bad situation.

Some of the best lessons come directly from the counseling office. Here's some of the wisdom my clients are sending you this week: 5 things to avoid, and 5 things to do in relationships.