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Do Words We Use Really Matter

I was thinking the other day (No cracks from my friends please.) about the subtle differences between words that are commonly used, sometimes not used or mis-used. Let me give you an example. I'm sorry. This simple two word sentence can be interpreted so many ways and have so many different meanings for both the person who speaks them and the person who they are directed toward.


The Intricacies of Family Relationships

This is the 21st century. There are so many more factors and issues that add stress to relationships. There are more demands on time, higher expectations, more toys and gadgets, high-stress careers or profession. Each member of a family need more space, more independence and freedom


Relationship: Listen Really Listen

Listen - do you really listen to your partner. Here listening to your partner does not mean listening to your spouse at the dinning table or when you are just sitting together and talking. Listening here really means listening with care. Listening to what has been unsaid.


Relationship: Special Greetings

Everyone wants fun and excitement in a relationship. Greet our partner in such a way that is exciting. Get your lover addicted to you with your different way of greeting him. Your partner should always feel a wave of excitement on meeting you while returning from work or any place, after a long break or a short break whatever the gap the meeting should be exciting.


How Do I Trust Again?

I came across a question recently. In brief the poster wanted to know how she could trust any man again. Two men one after other ditched her and the second one was very close. She wanted to know if she should try any new relationship at all or forget it.


Sacred Love - Healing a Broken Heart; Part 3

But if you want love. Well that’s a different story. Love means naked, raw, honest, exposed, vulnerability. I hear people say, “I need to trust before I become vulnerable” and that is a horrible lie. The only person you need to trust in being vulnerable is you. Shame makes us worry about trust. Why would we be holding back anything if it weren’t for shame. Shame means we are not worthy of love, therefore, we can’t trust ourselves being open and natural and vulnerable. So we seek out people with the same ego issues and open up to them, only because they agree that we are victims.


Sacred Love Growing through Challenges; Part 1

All emotion is only half the truth, an illusion; a complete lie. Life is balanced, we distort it by projecting out opinion onto it. We interpret it with our ego and spin it left or right and therefore emotionalise it. By emotionalising things, we can make it safe. And from a love aspect, then we see where we are – out of integrity – and could bring our ego back to balance, if we chose to.


Sacred Love - Building a Relationship on Truth and Trust, Beyond Emotion and Blame

Emotion is the language of the ego. Emotion is the most wonderful honesty about how you feel, think and see life. But if you think your emotions are anything but a witnessing of your own “unconsciousness”, you may have a big problem in life. Emotions block love. No relationship, sacred or otherwise, can thrive when a couple considers their emotions a foundation. Those emotions are so changeable.


Sacred Love - Getting Past Our Lies and Stories - Learning to Love Again

All our stories of the past are actually a balance of pleasure and pain. But that is not how we remember them. We want to protect ourselves, because we don’t want to admit how much we loved a person, and still do. We hold onto those stories and try to crease a life around them.


Know Your Man: Appreciation

We give them to our children. We give them to your friends and family; we give them to our pets. Heck, we even give them to strangers. Let’s encourage, admire, and appreciate our men and they will do whatever we wish.


Verbal Abuse is Never About You

Verbal abuse says far more about the abuser than it ever says about you. If you were to give that abuse a physical image, what would you choose? You can use that image to reject the power that verbal abuse exerted over you once and for all.


Is This Just A Female Thing Or What?

I don’t know about you, but I have often wondered why people disguise statements, needs or expectations in the form of questions. Let me explain.


How To Get The Most Out Of Marriage Counseling

If you are thinking of employing the services of a marriage counselor, here are some tips to ensure you get the most value for your time and money.


Emotions Are More Accurate Than Your Partner's Words

We communicate on many levels but there are two primary methods of sharing information with others. They are verbal communication and non-verbal communication. About 7-10 % of our total communication in any given day is verbal. This may change slightly depending on your career, age and what is going on in your life.


What Everyone In A Relationship Wants

Most people are searching for only four or five things in life. I believe the major ones are: love, acceptance, appreciation, validation and to connect with other humans in a meaningful way. What are you searching for that you don’t have in your life? Let’s take a brief look at each of these:


People Who Pester You

Do you have people in your life who truly bother you in big ways? I call them our soul attachments. Some people come into our lives for many reasons and a few are certainly intended to make us pay some debts to our karma bank or to our thought patterns. They feel and look like those bugs that you want to get rid of but never succeed.


Inspiration in the Workplace

Hard work is bad management. What is inspiration in the workplace? Thanks for this question. Truth is, there is no such thing as inspiration. You can't create it, do it or have it. You can’t cause it or lose it.


Sending Money To Russian Women

If you are sending money, send it Western Union. Do not send money in the mail. It won't get there. Send the money to be paid in U.S. currency. Spell her name exactly or she won't be able to pick it up.


Boredom is a Killer, One of Many Common Marriage Problems

One of the common marriage problems, which often materialises early on in a relationship, is boredom. Couples often find that after the honeymoon period is behind them and they have settled in to married life it isn’t quite the constant bed of roses that they imagined it to be.


Fear Of Losing Your Spouse - Watch Out For Those Spouse Stealers!

Mate poaching is more common than we think. Why it's so exciting for someone to make off with someone else's spouse? Here is what we find out...


Friends! Are They For Lifetime?

Friendship in today’s world has lost much of its meaning. How has the concept of Friendship changed over the years. What it truly means to be a friend. Read on to know more about it.


For Women: What To Do With A Man Who Is Still With You, But Keeps Leaving For Someone Else

The wandering man is a real problem for many women. A man can feel challenged by other women, afraid of how close your relationship is turning, and a man can also feel unneeded or unwanted at home.


The Ultimate Relationship Advice for Women

The ultimate and perfect relationship is something that most of us dream of. So many of us yearn to be that perfect woman, that every man will fall in love with, and constantly visualize that fairytale romance and the rest of our life with our perfect soul mate.


Honor and Respect Your Partner's Feelings As If They Are Your Own

Our feelings are the barometer of our outside existential lives. Our feelings let us know how things are going for us inside ourselves. Feelings exist because they do, in and of themselves.



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