Divorced spouses are usually no happier after divorce than before except in marriages where there is physical violence. On the other hand, many married couples who had once been unhappy together for an extended period of time were able to turn their marriages around to become happily married even in spite of serious problems.

Most people are searching for only four or five things in life. I believe the major ones are: love, acceptance, appreciation, validation and to connect with other humans in a meaningful way. What are you searching for that you don’t have in your life? Let’s take a brief look at each of these:

One of the hardest things for any person, man or woman, is letting go of a relationship that's not meant to be. We have to learn to let go of our partners with love, so we can move past our hurt and learn to love again.

Relationships in the early phase of formation are guided by heart and physical attraction and needs. How many of us give a chance to our head to decide whether we will relate to a person using our head? Very few of us do that.

Anger is the natural reaction of helplessness and frustration. When we feel that we are being forced to suffer, we get either angry or feel very helpless. When we feel victimized, we get angry with our abuser. What about your relationship? Are you getting angry with your partner for any reason? Can we quiz on that?

You can bring back the butterflies. Here's how to fashion your net.

I was watching an episode of the Home and Garden show 'NEAT,' which is a show where a crew comes in to help clutterbugs reorganize and systematize their homes. There is major change going on for the homeowners, including a lot of tossing out, giving away and rearranging of their home and life.

Each of us has some typical images in mind: an ideal man, an ideal mother, miss Perfection and so on. It doesn’t mean we try to make our fellow mates fit all these criteria. But cliches can help us understand what we want.

In a good relationship, we pay compliments to each other all the time. We love receiving positive feedback and try to go out of our way to let our partner know how happy we are to be with them. But verbal remarks fade so quickly. Make them last by putting them in writing where they can be revisited later to re-trigger their positive response.