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Living Tribal in a Democracy

Tribal living has survived for millions of years. Yet today few choose it as their lifestyle.


Lusty Lovers: Seize Your Fears!

When the lovin' has turned to cussin' it's time to take out the Big Secret... change...


Sacred Love - Different Love Comes from Different Motive: Relationships Thrive at All Levels of Love

There are 7 realms of love. In each we see the world so different. Why? Because each realm holds love with a different motive. The lowest is purely physical, the highest is purely spiritual. Relationships slide up and down this scale. Can you free yourself to enjoy the journey?


Actions Speak Louder Than Words

There are no truer words spoken than, “Talk is cheap.” If you are in a relationship with someone who is unreliable and has a knack for disappointing you, is it worth it?


Hard Work Is Bad Management - Business and Personal

Bad management has so many, and far reaching consequences. Jenny woke tired. Her business was growing and the hours she was putting in demanded more and more of her time. She raised her head from the pillow, stumbled out of her now empty bed, and went to the kitchen. Still half asleep she put the kettle on for her morning cuppa and slowly walked to the bathroom. There on the floor were yesterday's clothes. She'd barely had the energy to slip from her work gear and climb into the bath to sip her chardonnay before bed, let alone pack her clothes away tidily.


Christmas Cards At The Click Of A Button

Christmas is a time of year that we all enjoy. But, Christmas can also be a stressful time. There are so many things to do! Thank goodness, most stores will gift-wrap for you!


Learning To Let Go With Love

One of the hardest things for any person, man or woman, is letting go of a relationship that's not meant to be. We have to learn to let go of our partners with love, so we can move past our hurt and learn to love again.


Escaping the Power of Lies

Lying: Obviously not a trait that one hopes for in a potential mate. Lying: A possible form of mistreatment in a relationship that can have you questioning you own sanity.


What Everybody Ought To Know... About the Tipping Point of Relationships

Recognize your own personal tipping points in a personal relationship and how to evaluate both positive and challenging relationships.


12 Qualities Of Romance In A Conscious Relationship

How do you put romance into your relationship? Real, long-lasting romance is necessary to Co-Create a conscious Relationship. If you need direction to make some romance, look at these. You may have some personal qualities to make them even more meaningful.


International Pen Pals

The Internet has helped revive the lost art of pen pal corresponding. You can talk with pals from all over the world and learn about their country and their culture. You can exchange recipes, make plans to travel to your pen pal's country to meet or just exchange every day thoughts.


For Women: What To Do If Your Man Is Shutting Down for No Reasons - Why Has He Become Distanced?

A couple, as man and woman, will share feelings and each other constantly during a relationship. Often times a man can become self centered, distant and uninterested in what you do or how you are.


Men - The Two Types of Relationships That Will Make You Truly Happy

When it comes to relationships in order for a man to be truly happy it needs to fall under 1 of 2 categories. 1. Male Dominated- Man Controls Pretty Much Everything 2. She Controls Herself/He Controls Himself Anything else and you will have a man that is unhappy and has chosen to accept his new place in life.


Cougar Women? Older Women Should Ignore The Age Gap And Have Fun

I have recently encountered the words 'Cougar Women' - a term dreamt up by some male or possibly jealous young female to describe an older woman engaged in a relationship with a younger man. The description 'Cougar Woman' infers a predatory mature woman (35-50+) who hunts, stalks, lusts after and imposes her attentions upon some innocent, inexperienced young male. The traditional description for the older male who does likewise is, 'Sugar Daddy' -- Would it not be appropriate, in light of today's touted 'equality of the sexes' to apply the description of Panther Daddy? Or, where the male is a cheating spouse, then perhaps 'Cheetah Daddy' may fit the bill?


Hey, Watchya Doin?

What friendship can be when one or the other perseveres, and the other is humbled.


On Finding Mr. Right

You think you know exactly what you want in a man, right? You can probably even list the attributes, qualities and qualifications that your future husband needs in order to apply for the job of your mate. I had a three-tiered system myself.


The First Touchdown - Creating Deeper Intimacy

Men and women have different values and different ways of accessing intimacy in their relationships. We all desire intimacy and want our partner to also be our best friend. Men are generally motivated visually and tactilely, initially looking for a physical bonding. Women, by contrast, are generally auditory, motivated by emotion and initially looking for emotional bonding. So how do we bridge the gap? There are a few easy and simple techniques that can help you bond and obtain a deeper intimacy.


Women Issues - Domestic Violence Against Women

In a newspaper last November 25, there was article about observing an International day for elimination of violence against women. It is heart-warming that finally the international world is starting to recognize that violence against women is a growing issue and they need to find a solution to it but after pondering this issue for quite some time I came to the following conclusions:


A Perfect World

While we have our own diverse and cultural differences, there are some common basics upon which we can all agree and move forward to build up a truly perfect world.


Seven Ways to Defang Difficult People

You can control yourself when dealing with difficult people and turn the tables on them. Here are concise statements you can say silently to yourself that change everything! Difficult people will sense your new and calm power and be thrown off balance.


Domestic Violence is Alive and Well

Unfortunately, domestic violence is very much alive and well - and thriving. According to the National Victims Center, one woman is raped every minute, and 30% of all women murdered in this country are murdered by their boyfriends or husbands.


Do You Know That Love At First Sight Is An Illusion?

Learn to understand why it is an illusion, say more of an appearance than a substance.


Friendship And Love

Friendship and love. Both are so much related to each other. And both are so dissimilar! What are the differences between friendship and love? Is platonic friendship possible between persons of opposite sex? Let us try and understand.


How You Can Avoid Bad Relationships and Find Your One True Love

Do you find 'decent' men boring and 'creeps' exciting? Then you're among the majority. But, as you've learned, creeps make for disastrous relationships. So why are you attracted to them? The short answer is that although you live in the 21st century, your basic biology and psychology are still Stone Age. So you (unconsciously) look for a 'tough guy' to protect you and your children from the sabre-toothed tigers. This article -- based on my four decades as a psychotherapist and 25 years of marriage to a wonderful woman -- will show you how to choose the right man.



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