ut of fear of repercussions?

4. If you asked your closest friend if you were an honest person how would they answer?

We lie without thinking about it because that is what we are conditioned to do. We soften them by calling them little white lies. A lie is a lie. Of course, there are the other extremists who lack tact in their honesty. They try to belittle people. Both sides are not good. As you start living authentic you must make honesty your priority. Why? How can you be honest with someone else if you are not honest with yourself? F

Humanity seems to be the only species that never seems pleased with its own. People tend to spend the majority of their life living up to an illusion that no one has ever been able to attain. It is the illusion of perfection. The problem is, that is a course that is marked with failure and pain. Someone came up with the concept that people should be wafting through the fields picking lilies and singing songs of the angels. If you stay on this course you will never measure up. You were not meant to.

There are too many people walking around under condemnation by this illusion. They feel they have failed at the game of life. It is not true. You have not failed. You cannot fail at something that is unattainable. Instead, you should be pleased that you got as far as you did. There are many that check out of this life because they refuse to fail at anything. Lets talk about how you can live authentically with the life you have.

One, you must make the decision to live in the moment. We have too many who are living in the past, with its mistakes, or in the future, with its uncertainties. In order for you to be authentic, you are going to have to take the proverbial bull by the horn and live in the here and now. We all know that we cannot change the past, yet many of us have set up camp there in hopes that we can make sense of it. Then there is the other group that is off to a time that hasn’t happened yet. Neither group is useful. Life is happening now.

So, how do you live now? Start by taking off the mask. Admit that life hasn’t been what you expected and then forgive yourself and God. Yourself, for chasing an illusion, and God, for blaming Him when it didn’t happen as you expected.

Second, Be honest with yourself. Honesty is a lost commodity in the era we live in. People love to lie. The only problem is that you take your lies internally and they judge you. You might say, “I don’t lie.” Let’s take a short quiz.

1. Do you make promises to yourself that you don’t keep? (I’m going on a diet.)

2. Do you make promises to others that you don’t keep? (I’ll be on time.)

3. Do you tell others what they want to hear instead of what they need to hear out of fear of repercussions?

4. If you asked your closest friend if you were an honest person how would they answer?

We lie without thinking about it because that is what we are conditioned to do. We soften them by calling them little white lies. A lie is a lie. Of course, there are the other extremists who lack tact in their honesty. They try to belittle people. Both sides are not good. As you start living authentic you must make honesty your priority. Why? How can you be honest with someone else if you are not honest with yourself? Fu

der condemnation by this illusion. They feel they have failed at the game of life. It is not true. You have not failed. You cannot fail at something that is unattainable. Instead, you should be pleased that you got as far as you did. There are many that check out of this life because they refuse to fail at anything. Lets talk about how you can live authentically with the life you have.

One, you must make the decision to live in the moment. We have too many who are living in the past, with its mistakes, or in the future, with its uncertainties. In order for you to be authentic, you are going to have to take the proverbial bull by the horn and live in the here and now. We all know that we cannot change the past, yet many of us have set up camp there in hopes that we can make sense of it. Then there is the other group that is off to a time that hasn’t happened yet. Neither group is useful. Life is happening now.

So, how do you live now? Start by taking off the mask. Admit that life hasn’t been what you expected and then forgive yourself and God. Yourself, for chasing an illusion, and God, for blaming Him when it didn’t happen as you expected.

Second, Be honest with yourself. Honesty is a lost commodity in the era we live in. People love to lie. The only problem is that you take your lies internally and they judge you. You might say, “I don’t lie.” Let’s take a short quiz.

1. Do you make promises to yourself that you don’t keep? (I’m going on a diet.)

2. Do you make promises to others that you don’t keep? (I’ll be on time.)

3. Do you tell others what they want to hear instead of what they need to hear out of fear of repercussions?

4. If you asked your closest friend if you were an honest person how would they answer?

We lie without thinking about it because that is what we are conditioned to do. We soften them by calling them little white lies. A lie is a lie. Of course, there are the other extremists who lack tact in their honesty. They try to belittle people. Both sides are not good. As you start living authentic you must make honesty your priority. Why? How can you be honest with someone else if you are not honest with yourself? F

. In order for you to be authentic, you are going to have to take the proverbial bull by the horn and live in the here and now. We all know that we cannot change the past, yet many of us have set up camp there in hopes that we can make sense of it. Then there is the other group that is off to a time that hasn’t happened yet. Neither group is useful. Life is happening now.

So, how do you live now? Start by taking off the mask. Admit that life hasn’t been what you expected and then forgive yourself and God. Yourself, for chasing an illusion, and God, for blaming Him when it didn’t happen as you expected.

Second, Be honest with yourself. Honesty is a lost commodity in the era we live in. People love to lie. The only problem is that you take your lies internally and they judge you. You might say, “I don’t lie.” Let’s take a short quiz.

1. Do you make promises to yourself that you don’t keep? (I’m going on a diet.)

2. Do you make promises to others that you don’t keep? (I’ll be on time.)

3. Do you tell others what they want to hear instead of what they need to hear out of fear of repercussions?

4. If you asked your closest friend if you were an honest person how would they answer?

We lie without thinking about it because that is what we are conditioned to do. We soften them by calling them little white lies. A lie is a lie. Of course, there are the other extremists who lack tact in their honesty. They try to belittle people. Both sides are not good. As you start living authentic you must make honesty your priority. Why? How can you be honest with someone else if you are not honest with yourself? F

d God, for blaming Him when it didn’t happen as you expected.

Second, Be honest with yourself. Honesty is a lost commodity in the era we live in. People love to lie. The only problem is that you take your lies internally and they judge you. You might say, “I don’t lie.” Let’s take a short quiz.

1. Do you make promises to yourself that you don’t keep? (I’m going on a diet.)

2. Do you make promises to others that you don’t keep? (I’ll be on time.)

3. Do you tell others what they want to hear instead of what they need to hear out of fear of repercussions?

4. If you asked your closest friend if you were an honest person how would they answer?

We lie without thinking about it because that is what we are conditioned to do. We soften them by calling them little white lies. A lie is a lie. Of course, there are the other extremists who lack tact in their honesty. They try to belittle people. Both sides are not good. As you start living authentic you must make honesty your priority. Why? How can you be honest with someone else if you are not honest with yourself? F

ut of fear of repercussions?

4. If you asked your closest friend if you were an honest person how would they answer?

We lie without thinking about it because that is what we are conditioned to do. We soften them by calling them little white lies. A lie is a lie. Of course, there are the other extremists who lack tact in their honesty. They try to belittle people. Both sides are not good. As you start living authentic you must make honesty your priority. Why? How can you be honest with someone else if you are not honest with yourself? Further, you project it onto other people. By projection, I mean that you put the burden on another person to be what you cannot be. You will find fault with the person who is just a mirror of yourself. Since you do not have the compassion to love the shadow of yourself, you will not have compassion on the other person. Let me give you an example, I have a friend that is a procrastinator to a fault. It used to aggravate me until I saw I was the same way. When I dealt with that aspect in myself her procrastination no longer bothered me.

Jung says, “Man turns a blind eye to the shadow-side of human nature. Blindly he strives against the salutary dogma of original sin, which is yet so prodigiously true. Yes, he even hesitates to admit the conflict of which he is so painfully aware.”

Third, is what I call the peel and reveal method. You have to go down into the depth of your soul and find the parts of you that you thought were not good enough to exist. This is intense, but the only way I know of to let you know that the world is waiting for the person you were originally created to be. That person has something to offer humanity, not the person that you pretend to be.

Many of you are so miserable that you go home and cry through the night. You are holding on by a thread because you don’t know if you can keep this illusion going for much longer. I promise you if you will do the work it will be worth it. I have been where you are, so I know from whence I speak.

How do you peal and reveal? I recommend you get a journal that is for your eyes-only. Write down the five things that you hate about yourself. For example, angry, hostile, pessimistic, etc. Then write down what is good about those aspects. This will take some searching, but I promise you there is a hidden gift. Part of it is just the idea of admitting that you hate something about yourself. When you get rid of the secret you get rid of its hold on you. What is hidden will ultimately be revealed, so why not reveal it on your terms. There is a saying, What you don’t own will own you. We all have heard of the guy who is real sweet but sometimes beats up his wife. This is what hiding anger does. It comes out