cts like.' So where there's one comment, there's usually one more, then another. Before you know it, that particular conversation - and likely many of your subsequent interactions - take on the low-vibrational tone of proving what's wrong with everyone else.

The need to compare is the real villain here. When you think or say something derogatory abo

I was talking with a friend today. We were having this nice, empowering conversation, sharing ideas - and then we started analyzing another mutual acquaintance (already sound familiar?). Nothing terrible, but my friend astutely pointed out when our focus started slipping more toward the other person's shortcomings, and suggested we shift the discussion back to our own affairs. I, of course, being a (sometimes defensive!) Law of Attraction coach tried to validate the merits of our digression, saying there was no malice in our words - that we were just using the other person's behavior as a vehicle for learning. Thankfully, my friend wasn't completely buying in.

Talking about others is not the issue here by itself. People naturally come up in our thoughts and conversations, and it's entirely normal to reflect on them. The distinction arises in our tone of observation, in the way we feel. When we view others in kind, accepting, and complimentary light, good feelings are prevalent, and our vibrations are high. It's when we plunge into negativity and nit-picking that our vibrational levels take a turn south.

Unfortunately, killing off good feelings and high vibrations isn't difficult. It could start with something as 'harmless' as "Can you believe what that person is wearing?" And with that seemingly small judgment, the snowball is off and rolling. Law of Attraction plainly states 'Like attracts like.' So where there's one comment, there's usually one more, then another. Before you know it, that particular conversation - and likely many of your subsequent interactions - take on the low-vibrational tone of proving what's wrong with everyone else.

The need to compare is the real villain here. When you think or say something derogatory abou

ck to our own affairs. I, of course, being a (sometimes defensive!) Law of Attraction coach tried to validate the merits of our digression, saying there was no malice in our words - that we were just using the other person's behavior as a vehicle for learning. Thankfully, my friend wasn't completely buying in.

Talking about others is not the issue here by itself. People naturally come up in our thoughts and conversations, and it's entirely normal to reflect on them. The distinction arises in our tone of observation, in the way we feel. When we view others in kind, accepting, and complimentary light, good feelings are prevalent, and our vibrations are high. It's when we plunge into negativity and nit-picking that our vibrational levels take a turn south.

Unfortunately, killing off good feelings and high vibrations isn't difficult. It could start with something as 'harmless' as "Can you believe what that person is wearing?" And with that seemingly small judgment, the snowball is off and rolling. Law of Attraction plainly states 'Like attracts like.' So where there's one comment, there's usually one more, then another. Before you know it, that particular conversation - and likely many of your subsequent interactions - take on the low-vibrational tone of proving what's wrong with everyone else.

The need to compare is the real villain here. When you think or say something derogatory abo

ere by itself. People naturally come up in our thoughts and conversations, and it's entirely normal to reflect on them. The distinction arises in our tone of observation, in the way we feel. When we view others in kind, accepting, and complimentary light, good feelings are prevalent, and our vibrations are high. It's when we plunge into negativity and nit-picking that our vibrational levels take a turn south.

Unfortunately, killing off good feelings and high vibrations isn't difficult. It could start with something as 'harmless' as "Can you believe what that person is wearing?" And with that seemingly small judgment, the snowball is off and rolling. Law of Attraction plainly states 'Like attracts like.' So where there's one comment, there's usually one more, then another. Before you know it, that particular conversation - and likely many of your subsequent interactions - take on the low-vibrational tone of proving what's wrong with everyone else.

The need to compare is the real villain here. When you think or say something derogatory abo

nd nit-picking that our vibrational levels take a turn south.

Unfortunately, killing off good feelings and high vibrations isn't difficult. It could start with something as 'harmless' as "Can you believe what that person is wearing?" And with that seemingly small judgment, the snowball is off and rolling. Law of Attraction plainly states 'Like attracts like.' So where there's one comment, there's usually one more, then another. Before you know it, that particular conversation - and likely many of your subsequent interactions - take on the low-vibrational tone of proving what's wrong with everyone else.

The need to compare is the real villain here. When you think or say something derogatory abo

cts like.' So where there's one comment, there's usually one more, then another. Before you know it, that particular conversation - and likely many of your subsequent interactions - take on the low-vibrational tone of proving what's wrong with everyone else.

The need to compare is the real villain here. When you think or say something derogatory about another person, you're basically comparing yourself to them. What you're really saying is, "At least I'm not as bad as they are!" And in that moment, you create separation, vainly attempting to elevate yourself by diminishing another. You rise to the top by default, so to speak.

In reality though, up is not where you're heading. In fact, you're not moving anywhere at all. Comparing ourselves to others gives us a built-in excuse to stand still. By making ourselves appear better, we become convinced that we don't have to forward our own agendas (since we're already 'not as bad' as those people). It's a ticket to stagnation. Rather than focus on how WE could be growing, we shine a spotlight on exploited voids in another's life. Then, of course, we don't have to look to the one place which really matters - ourselves.

The good news is, like anything else, the lights can flip on at any moment. And just as my friend and I shifted our own thoughts and words to higher ground, so can you. In those moments when you find yourself magnetically diverting to finding fault and flaw with others, ask yourself this empowering question: "What does this say about ME?" Because if we're being completely honest, that's often the one place we don't dare look. What we find might not be the rosy picture we're venturing to paint. When we hold up the proverbial mirror, we are likely to discover we're no different