d” on somebody, it can become a trigger for our anger. For example, if we run the sentence “that driver should not have cut in front of me” over and over in our heads, the response is not likely to be prettyThe Law of Everyone - It is not necessarily wrong to get angry. You get angry, I get angry, all God’s children get angry. It’s what we do with our anger that makes the difference.

The Law of Stress - Although we don’t often think of anger as a form of stress, it is by far one of the largest and most destructive forms of daily stress. Manage your anger, and you manage a large amount of your stress.

The Law of Choice - Anger is rarely if ever an automatic response. It’s a choice. It’s a choice because we have to think about something before we get angry.

The Law of Shoulds - We all have beliefs about how the world and the people around us should behave. When these beliefs are violated, anger is a natural, and sometimes reasonable response. The problem is that when we “should” on somebody, it can become a trigger for our anger. For example, if we run the sentence “that driver should not have cut in front of me” over and over in our heads, the response is not likely to be pretty.

Stress - Although we don’t often think of anger as a form of stress, it is by far one of the largest and most destructive forms of daily stress. Manage your anger, and you manage a large amount of your stress.

The Law of Choice - Anger is rarely if ever an automatic response. It’s a choice. It’s a choice because we have to think about something before we get angry.

The Law of Shoulds - We all have beliefs about how the world and the people around us should behave. When these beliefs are violated, anger is a natural, and sometimes reasonable response. The problem is that when we “should” on somebody, it can become a trigger for our anger. For example, if we run the sentence “that driver should not have cut in front of me” over and over in our heads, the response is not likely to be pretty

tress.

The Law of Choice - Anger is rarely if ever an automatic response. It’s a choice. It’s a choice because we have to think about something before we get angry.

The Law of Shoulds - We all have beliefs about how the world and the people around us should behave. When these beliefs are violated, anger is a natural, and sometimes reasonable response. The problem is that when we “should” on somebody, it can become a trigger for our anger. For example, if we run the sentence “that driver should not have cut in front of me” over and over in our heads, the response is not likely to be pretty

B> - We all have beliefs about how the world and the people around us should behave. When these beliefs are violated, anger is a natural, and sometimes reasonable response. The problem is that when we “should” on somebody, it can become a trigger for our anger. For example, if we run the sentence “that driver should not have cut in front of me” over and over in our heads, the response is not likely to be prettyd” on somebody, it can become a trigger for our anger. For example, if we run the sentence “that driver should not have cut in front of me” over and over in our heads, the response is not likely to be pretty. At best we’ll raise our blood pressure, and at worst do something really stupid.

The Law of Blame - Another one of our thoughts that lead quickly to anger involves blaming someone or something. The dance of blame is a deadly two step:

1) someone is at fault, and

2) they should be punished - anger can be very punishing.

The Law of Cause - This one is closely related to the law of blame. There is a myth in our culture that very few people ever question. The best example is the phrase “he made me angry.” Well, bull! No one can make us angry without our cooperation.

The Law of Enflaming - Another myth is that if we are able to vent our anger it will automatically decrease. That is not necessarily so. I once watched a neighbor stomp around the side of his house, grumblin