ed the material in a more appealing fashion. When I told her my concern was that the new girl might end up adopting her negative opinion of the presenter and miss out on the important content of the presentation. She looked very sheepish as she admitted that wasn't beiThere is a great deal of wisdom in what my mother told me, "If you can't say anything nice don't say anything at all." Recently I was in the front row (which by the way is known as the millionaire's row because winners don't hide at the back) of a company training event. A colleague of mine was not impressed with one of the trainers. She could not or would not contain her disdain and proceeded to make a series of noises to express her lack of approval for the presenter's style and delivery. The noises ranged from; exaggerated sighs, low groans and mumbled words.

Normally I would have ignored the rudeness and written the person off as being discourteous and immature but my concern was for the young woman who sat between us. It was her first time at this kind of event and I didn't want it tainted by the rude person's antics. When there was a break in the day's training I asked the demonstrative woman to step outside with me. I told her I could appreciate her negative opinion of the presenter's style and admitted that there were others who might have delivered the material in a more appealing fashion. When I told her my concern was that the new girl might end up adopting her negative opinion of the presenter and miss out on the important content of the presentation. She looked very sheepish as she admitted that wasn't bein

nt. A colleague of mine was not impressed with one of the trainers. She could not or would not contain her disdain and proceeded to make a series of noises to express her lack of approval for the presenter's style and delivery. The noises ranged from; exaggerated sighs, low groans and mumbled words.

Normally I would have ignored the rudeness and written the person off as being discourteous and immature but my concern was for the young woman who sat between us. It was her first time at this kind of event and I didn't want it tainted by the rude person's antics. When there was a break in the day's training I asked the demonstrative woman to step outside with me. I told her I could appreciate her negative opinion of the presenter's style and admitted that there were others who might have delivered the material in a more appealing fashion. When I told her my concern was that the new girl might end up adopting her negative opinion of the presenter and miss out on the important content of the presentation. She looked very sheepish as she admitted that wasn't bei

low groans and mumbled words.

Normally I would have ignored the rudeness and written the person off as being discourteous and immature but my concern was for the young woman who sat between us. It was her first time at this kind of event and I didn't want it tainted by the rude person's antics. When there was a break in the day's training I asked the demonstrative woman to step outside with me. I told her I could appreciate her negative opinion of the presenter's style and admitted that there were others who might have delivered the material in a more appealing fashion. When I told her my concern was that the new girl might end up adopting her negative opinion of the presenter and miss out on the important content of the presentation. She looked very sheepish as she admitted that wasn't bei

nted by the rude person's antics. When there was a break in the day's training I asked the demonstrative woman to step outside with me. I told her I could appreciate her negative opinion of the presenter's style and admitted that there were others who might have delivered the material in a more appealing fashion. When I told her my concern was that the new girl might end up adopting her negative opinion of the presenter and miss out on the important content of the presentation. She looked very sheepish as she admitted that wasn't beied the material in a more appealing fashion. When I told her my concern was that the new girl might end up adopting her negative opinion of the presenter and miss out on the important content of the presentation. She looked very sheepish as she admitted that wasn't being fair to young woman.

I'm reminded of something I have to caution my wife with in certain situations, "Inside voice, outside voice." Even the most positive of us entertains a negative thought from time to time. It is your responsibility to determine which thoughts get shared out loud and which remain silent. When you put down others or express your negative judgments to those around you, you are polluting the room. At best you will contaminate the others and eliminate any value they may have gotten from the presenter. At worst you will have portrayed yourself as someone who is negative, judgmental and inconsiderate, not the traits of a winner.

If you ever find yourself in a training or educational event and start to think the presenter or instructor is inept, catch yourself. Instead of looking for where he or she is not reaching your expectations start imaging yourself up on stage. Ask yourself, "How would I present this information? How would I do a better job?" If you don't like the way trainings are done then become a trainer and do a better job.