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How to Write an Ebook I blame you for their problems. ‘I am depressed because you….If it hadn’t been for what you did then things would be different’. They may not say it, but may sulk in ways designed to make you feel guilty. You may simply feel guilty in the way that many people are programmed to feel guilty about anything bad that’s going on around them, regardless of whether it is their fault. Remind yourself that it is a problem for you in that this is your partner who is sufferinAn ebook is a book written using a computer that is distributed electronically. Although it can be printed out, the definition of an ebook is one that can be downloaded or emailed. It is not a hard product such as a book you can purchase from a bookseller. 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It’s very easy to start feeling stressed and guilty when you feel ‘I should be doing more….I should be able to help this person….Surely there is something more that I could do…’ Accept that you are doing everything you can. Recognise that solving the problem will take professional help. It may be psychotherapy or counselling, it may be pharmaceutical treatments or it may simply be the passage of time. It’s not within your power to solve this other person’s problem however much you may want to or feel that you should. BE AWARE OF HOW YOUR PARTNER’S PROBLEMS COULD PROVOKE PROBLEMS IN YOURSELF. We all have areas within us of weakness, low self esteem, feelings of helplessness, or feelings of repressed anger. It often happens that we are drawn towards partners who have similar characteristics tous. This maybe positive but it can also be negative. Having a partner who is depressed and is showing those sort of feelings very clearly can also provoke the corresponding feelings in ourselves. This makes things very difficult for us. You need to recognise that this can be happening and if necessary look for appropriate help yourself. TRY TO SHOW COMPASSION AND DEAL WITH YOUR OWN FEELINGS. Having a partner who is depressed could provoke a whole range of unhelpful feelings in
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