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Actual for You - Four Simple Secrets to Planning the Wedding You Really Want
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But as you’re getting down to the week or so before your wedding, the balance between the importance of planning your dream wedding and the importance of living your dream wedding will shift. It’s time to stop with the planning and start with the living.
Unfortunately, the planning won’t actually be finished a week or two before your wedding. Some of the most important things you have to do to stop others from taking over your dream wedding have to be done right before your wedding. In fact, many of them have to be done the day before or the day of your wedding.
But, repeat after me: “I don’t want to be planning my wedding on my wedding day.”
You want to be living your wedding on the day of your wedding. And if you can manage to start living your wedding several days or even a couple weeks before your wedding, the better off you’ll be.
To hand over the reigns in the right way and at the right time comes down to (a) being prepared to tell others exactly what you want and (b) handing the reigns to the right person/people.
One excellent reason to hire a wedding planner is if you don’t know the right kind of people in your personal life to do (b). If you ended up with a lot of unreliable or free-spirited or wimpy friends and family,
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• Eat the elephant one bite at a time.
• Stand strong, sister!
• Give yourself time.
• Hand over the reigns . . . at the END.
Eat the Elephant One Bite at a Time
Have you ever heard about how to eat an elephant? The answer is “One bite at a time.”
It’s the same with planning something as elephant-sized as your wedding. Even if your wedding is relatively small in terms of the number of guests or the number of vendors, planning a wedding is an elephant. There are many, many decisions you have to make.
Wedding task check lists make it clear that you don't need to find a florist or invitations first thing. Finding a venue and a caterer are tasks that need to be addressed earlier on.
Even if flowers and invitations are crucial pieces of your wedding dreams, don't worry about them until it's time. Don't try to jam the entire elephant into your mouth at once.
Stand Strong, Sister!
Do you want the wedding of YOUR dreams? Or are you relatively happy if you get half the wedding that you want and half the wedding that other people think you should want?
If it’s the latter, that'll be no problem. Other people are more than willing to take over your wedding. You don’t have to put any effort into getting people to bully you around to creating the wedding of their dreams.
It’s a little more effort (although about 90% of it is purely psychological effort) to be sure that you get the wedding of YOUR dreams.
There are essentially two types of people who will try to take over your wedding:
• Family members (including soon-to-be in-laws)
• Vendors
Handling these two types of “controllers” takes different approaches.
Vendors are with you just for this wedding. Family you have to live with for the rest of your life!
Where do your priorities lie in managing these two types of controllers?
With professional vendors, your top priority may be getting what you want, at the price you've negotiated, and it really doesn't matter if you have to step on a few toes to get it. You'll be polite and professional when dealing with vendors, but you must not be a push-over.
With family, your priority may lie with maintaining loving relationships for a lifetime. You should be no more of a pushover with family than with other vendors, but you SHOULD make sure to hear their side of any issues that arise and to continually emphasize (both with your words and with your actions) your gratitude for this loving effort they're putting forth for your very special day.
A third possible type of controller is a combination of the other two:
• friends or family providing services for your wedding.
This can be a little trickier, because you’re both dealing with them as a vendor and planning to have a relationship with them for the rest of your life. This requires a balance of the strategies used with family members and the strategies used with vendors.
You’ll need to find the right balance between treating a particular person as a vendor who is a friend/family member vs. a friend/family member who is doing you a favor by providing something you’d otherwise get from a vendor.
Give Yourself Time
To have the most flexibility, you should start your wedding planning anywhere from a year to eighteen months before you’d like to actually get married.
Don’t panic! People have successfully pulled together weddings with a few weeks or even a few days of planning. The 12-18 month suggestion is just that, a suggestion. It’s based on the idea that spreading the tasks out over time will cause you less stress.
A longer timetable also allows for those chunks of time when you’re lying on your couch thinking, “I could not care less if I had a wedding!”
But, for those who find the last minute approach preferable (or necessary), timetables can be completely ignored.
If you’re planning your wedding under a tight timeline, controlling your own brain is one of the most important things you can do. If you panic, you’ll not only make yourself miserable at the time of panic, you’ll be more likely to ruin your wedding.
Even if you’re working under a tight timeline, plan in rest periods. You need to take a couple days (or at least a few hours) here or there where you don’t work on your wedding. Spend this time just having fun with your beloved and remembering why you wanted to marry him in the first place. Or spend the time by yourself, resting and doing things you enjoy (other than wedding planning).
When you’re working on your wedding, work on it, concentrate and move forward. When you’re not working on it, put it from your mind and remember that your wedding is but one day in the wonderful life you have ahead. Don’t screw up the life just to have the wedding.
Hand Over the Reigns . . . At the END
Even if you hire a wedding planner, don’t completely hand over the reigns early on. Not if you want to achieve the wedding of YOUR dreams.
But as you’re getting down to the week or so before your wedding, the balance between the importance of planning your dream wedding and the importance of living your dream wedding will shift. It’s time to stop with the planning and start with the living.
Unfortunately, the planning won’t actually be finished a week or two before your wedding. Some of the most important things you have to do to stop others from taking over your dream wedding have to be done right before your wedding. In fact, many of them have to be done the day before or the day of your wedding.
But, repeat after me: “I don’t want to be planning my wedding on my wedding day.”
You want to be living your wedding on the day of your wedding. And if you can manage to start living your wedding several days or even a couple weeks before your wedding, the better off you’ll be.
To hand over the reigns in the right way and at the right time comes down to (a) being prepared to tell others exactly what you want and (b) handing the reigns to the right person/people.
One excellent reason to hire a wedding planner is if you don’t know the right kind of people in your personal life to do (b). If you ended up with a lot of unreliable or free-spirited or wimpy friends and family,
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It’s a little more effort (although about 90% of it is purely psychological effort) to be sure that you get the wedding of YOUR dreams.
There are essentially two types of people who will try to take over your wedding:
• Family members (including soon-to-be in-laws)
• Vendors
Handling these two types of “controllers” takes different approaches.
Vendors are with you just for this wedding. Family you have to live with for the rest of your life!
Where do your priorities lie in managing these two types of controllers?
With professional vendors, your top priority may be getting what you want, at the price you've negotiated, and it really doesn't matter if you have to step on a few toes to get it. You'll be polite and professional when dealing with vendors, but you must not be a push-over.
With family, your priority may lie with maintaining loving relationships for a lifetime. You should be no more of a pushover with family than with other vendors, but you SHOULD make sure to hear their side of any issues that arise and to continually emphasize (both with your words and with your actions) your gratitude for this loving effort they're putting forth for your very special day.
A third possible type of controller is a combination of the other two:
• friends or family providing services for your wedding.
This can be a little trickier, because you’re both dealing with them as a vendor and planning to have a relationship with them for the rest of your life. This requires a balance of the strategies used with family members and the strategies used with vendors.
You’ll need to find the right balance between treating a particular person as a vendor who is a friend/family member vs. a friend/family member who is doing you a favor by providing something you’d otherwise get from a vendor.
Give Yourself Time
To have the most flexibility, you should start your wedding planning anywhere from a year to eighteen months before you’d like to actually get married.
Don’t panic! People have successfully pulled together weddings with a few weeks or even a few days of planning. The 12-18 month suggestion is just that, a suggestion. It’s based on the idea that spreading the tasks out over time will cause you less stress.
A longer timetable also allows for those chunks of time when you’re lying on your couch thinking, “I could not care less if I had a wedding!”
But, for those who find the last minute approach preferable (or necessary), timetables can be completely ignored.
If you’re planning your wedding under a tight timeline, controlling your own brain is one of the most important things you can do. If you panic, you’ll not only make yourself miserable at the time of panic, you’ll be more likely to ruin your wedding.
Even if you’re working under a tight timeline, plan in rest periods. You need to take a couple days (or at least a few hours) here or there where you don’t work on your wedding. Spend this time just having fun with your beloved and remembering why you wanted to marry him in the first place. Or spend the time by yourself, resting and doing things you enjoy (other than wedding planning).
When you’re working on your wedding, work on it, concentrate and move forward. When you’re not working on it, put it from your mind and remember that your wedding is but one day in the wonderful life you have ahead. Don’t screw up the life just to have the wedding.
Hand Over the Reigns . . . At the END
Even if you hire a wedding planner, don’t completely hand over the reigns early on. Not if you want to achieve the wedding of YOUR dreams.
But as you’re getting down to the week or so before your wedding, the balance between the importance of planning your dream wedding and the importance of living your dream wedding will shift. It’s time to stop with the planning and start with the living.
Unfortunately, the planning won’t actually be finished a week or two before your wedding. Some of the most important things you have to do to stop others from taking over your dream wedding have to be done right before your wedding. In fact, many of them have to be done the day before or the day of your wedding.
But, repeat after me: “I don’t want to be planning my wedding on my wedding day.”
You want to be living your wedding on the day of your wedding. And if you can manage to start living your wedding several days or even a couple weeks before your wedding, the better off you’ll be.
To hand over the reigns in the right way and at the right time comes down to (a) being prepared to tell others exactly what you want and (b) handing the reigns to the right person/people.
One excellent reason to hire a wedding planner is if you don’t know the right kind of people in your personal life to do (b). If you ended up with a lot of unreliable or free-spirited or wimpy friends and family,
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A third possible type of controller is a combination of the other two:
• friends or family providing services for your wedding.
This can be a little trickier, because you’re both dealing with them as a vendor and planning to have a relationship with them for the rest of your life. This requires a balance of the strategies used with family members and the strategies used with vendors.
You’ll need to find the right balance between treating a particular person as a vendor who is a friend/family member vs. a friend/family member who is doing you a favor by providing something you’d otherwise get from a vendor.
Give Yourself Time
To have the most flexibility, you should start your wedding planning anywhere from a year to eighteen months before you’d like to actually get married.
Don’t panic! People have successfully pulled together weddings with a few weeks or even a few days of planning. The 12-18 month suggestion is just that, a suggestion. It’s based on the idea that spreading the tasks out over time will cause you less stress.
A longer timetable also allows for those chunks of time when you’re lying on your couch thinking, “I could not care less if I had a wedding!”
But, for those who find the last minute approach preferable (or necessary), timetables can be completely ignored.
If you’re planning your wedding under a tight timeline, controlling your own brain is one of the most important things you can do. If you panic, you’ll not only make yourself miserable at the time of panic, you’ll be more likely to ruin your wedding.
Even if you’re working under a tight timeline, plan in rest periods. You need to take a couple days (or at least a few hours) here or there where you don’t work on your wedding. Spend this time just having fun with your beloved and remembering why you wanted to marry him in the first place. Or spend the time by yourself, resting and doing things you enjoy (other than wedding planning).
When you’re working on your wedding, work on it, concentrate and move forward. When you’re not working on it, put it from your mind and remember that your wedding is but one day in the wonderful life you have ahead. Don’t screw up the life just to have the wedding.
Hand Over the Reigns . . . At the END
Even if you hire a wedding planner, don’t completely hand over the reigns early on. Not if you want to achieve the wedding of YOUR dreams.
But as you’re getting down to the week or so before your wedding, the balance between the importance of planning your dream wedding and the importance of living your dream wedding will shift. It’s time to stop with the planning and start with the living.
Unfortunately, the planning won’t actually be finished a week or two before your wedding. Some of the most important things you have to do to stop others from taking over your dream wedding have to be done right before your wedding. In fact, many of them have to be done the day before or the day of your wedding.
But, repeat after me: “I don’t want to be planning my wedding on my wedding day.”
You want to be living your wedding on the day of your wedding. And if you can manage to start living your wedding several days or even a couple weeks before your wedding, the better off you’ll be.
To hand over the reigns in the right way and at the right time comes down to (a) being prepared to tell others exactly what you want and (b) handing the reigns to the right person/people.
One excellent reason to hire a wedding planner is if you don’t know the right kind of people in your personal life to do (b). If you ended up with a lot of unreliable or free-spirited or wimpy friends and family,
You are the only one who controls your destiny. Yes you. And you know what; you are preprogrammed to do so. Most of the time we are the one who gets in our own way. So when you want to change what happens, how do you do it? That is what I will talk about today. There are a few steps that you must take to become who you want to be. And that is the same in anything, a business person, athlete, teacher, coach, whatever it is; here are the steps that you need to follow. Oh, and before we get to work, I must include this does not come from me. This comes from people who are much smarter and much more successful then me.1) Set Goals. You have to set goals, and they have to be specific. On top of that you have to write them down. Here is why. A goal without action is not a goal, it is a dream. A dream becomes a goal thr
But, for those who find the last minute approach preferable (or necessary), timetables can be completely ignored.
If you’re planning your wedding under a tight timeline, controlling your own brain is one of the most important things you can do. If you panic, you’ll not only make yourself miserable at the time of panic, you’ll be more likely to ruin your wedding.
Even if you’re working under a tight timeline, plan in rest periods. You need to take a couple days (or at least a few hours) here or there where you don’t work on your wedding. Spend this time just having fun with your beloved and remembering why you wanted to marry him in the first place. Or spend the time by yourself, resting and doing things you enjoy (other than wedding planning).
When you’re working on your wedding, work on it, concentrate and move forward. When you’re not working on it, put it from your mind and remember that your wedding is but one day in the wonderful life you have ahead. Don’t screw up the life just to have the wedding.
Hand Over the Reigns . . . At the END
Even if you hire a wedding planner, don’t completely hand over the reigns early on. Not if you want to achieve the wedding of YOUR dreams.
But as you’re getting down to the week or so before your wedding, the balance between the importance of planning your dream wedding and the importance of living your dream wedding will shift. It’s time to stop with the planning and start with the living.
Unfortunately, the planning won’t actually be finished a week or two before your wedding. Some of the most important things you have to do to stop others from taking over your dream wedding have to be done right before your wedding. In fact, many of them have to be done the day before or the day of your wedding.
But, repeat after me: “I don’t want to be planning my wedding on my wedding day.”
You want to be living your wedding on the day of your wedding. And if you can manage to start living your wedding several days or even a couple weeks before your wedding, the better off you’ll be.
To hand over the reigns in the right way and at the right time comes down to (a) being prepared to tell others exactly what you want and (b) handing the reigns to the right person/people.
One excellent reason to hire a wedding planner is if you don’t know the right kind of people in your personal life to do (b). If you ended up with a lot of unreliable or free-spirited or wimpy friends and family,
Having written dozens of articles on the subject of wealth, I thought it was time to write a brief, straight-to-the-point, crash course, no-frills article on wealth creation that anybody could use to improve their financial future.In keeping with making this article as simple as I can I just want to list the main points without any elaboration. If you want any further information you are most welcome to visit my websites listed below. So, here are my main points: Include wealthy people in your circle of friends so that you may learn directly from them; Find a mentor or a role model who is wealthy who you can model yourself on; Follow the steps that wealthy people take to speed up the wealth process; Take advice from people who are qualified, knowledgeable and trustworthy; Go to seminars on w
But as you’re getting down to the week or so before your wedding, the balance between the importance of planning your dream wedding and the importance of living your dream wedding will shift. It’s time to stop with the planning and start with the living.
Unfortunately, the planning won’t actually be finished a week or two before your wedding. Some of the most important things you have to do to stop others from taking over your dream wedding have to be done right before your wedding. In fact, many of them have to be done the day before or the day of your wedding.
But, repeat after me: “I don’t want to be planning my wedding on my wedding day.”
You want to be living your wedding on the day of your wedding. And if you can manage to start living your wedding several days or even a couple weeks before your wedding, the better off you’ll be.
To hand over the reigns in the right way and at the right time comes down to (a) being prepared to tell others exactly what you want and (b) handing the reigns to the right person/people.
One excellent reason to hire a wedding planner is if you don’t know the right kind of people in your personal life to do (b). If you ended up with a lot of unreliable or free-spirited or wimpy friends and family, you’ll need to hire someone to hand the reigns off to. It’s critical to be able to hand off the reigns and live your wedding day!
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