which is attractive. It’s also sexy.

The tip to show neck may sound elementary if you’re a woman and already wearing down-to-there necklines, but displaying too much skin is even worse than showing too little: You’ll attract the very men you want to avoid. Oh, and if you're a guy, remove the baseball cap, please! Who cares if you're bald? Get rid of it. A bare head is so much more attractive than a baseball cap (or, worse, a cap with your mechanic's lo

Do you get tongue-tied when you meet a person of the opposite sex? Or when you’re meeting people for the first time?

I did. Being shy gave me a reputation for being a snob, being “hard to reach,” and worst of all, “having a superior attitude.” Whether you're a man or a woman, it's hardly the image you hope to project when you want to make a love match or even a new friend.

I met a woman who taught me a thing or two about looking approachable. One was to use my eyes when the right words locked up in my mouth. “It’s all in the eyes,” this master flirt said, and she’d never suffered a shortage of suitors, despite the fact that she was no Marilyn Monroe. Her boyish figure and the gap between her teeth discouraged nobody, though—people were drawn to her because of what she was saying with her eyes!

So I learned to convey interest in a guy with my eyes, even if I couldn’t think of a pertinent response. I also learned to smile with my eyes, instead of just my mouth (smiling is so important; why oh why do people neglect to do it?).

If shyness isn’t your problem, speaking with your eyes is also the antidote to speaking too much with your mouth. I’ve heard it said that God gave us two ears and one mouth for a reason, and face it, good listeners often come off as brilliant conversationalists. Bonus: By listening carefully, you get to really know the person you're interested in and figure out whether he or she's worth your time.

Another thing the flirt taught me was to nix turtlenecks in favor of V-neck blouses. Turtlenecks can make your neck look short, and they make you look uptight. If you're a woman, wear a blouse in a flattering shade and keep the top two buttons open. If you're a guy, go with a v-neck. The goal is to give that neck of yours a little exposure. It suggests vulnerability, which is attractive. It’s also sexy.

The tip to show neck may sound elementary if you’re a woman and already wearing down-to-there necklines, but displaying too much skin is even worse than showing too little: You’ll attract the very men you want to avoid. Oh, and if you're a guy, remove the baseball cap, please! Who cares if you're bald? Get rid of it. A bare head is so much more attractive than a baseball cap (or, worse, a cap with your mechanic's log

was to use my eyes when the right words locked up in my mouth. “It’s all in the eyes,” this master flirt said, and she’d never suffered a shortage of suitors, despite the fact that she was no Marilyn Monroe. Her boyish figure and the gap between her teeth discouraged nobody, though—people were drawn to her because of what she was saying with her eyes!

So I learned to convey interest in a guy with my eyes, even if I couldn’t think of a pertinent response. I also learned to smile with my eyes, instead of just my mouth (smiling is so important; why oh why do people neglect to do it?).

If shyness isn’t your problem, speaking with your eyes is also the antidote to speaking too much with your mouth. I’ve heard it said that God gave us two ears and one mouth for a reason, and face it, good listeners often come off as brilliant conversationalists. Bonus: By listening carefully, you get to really know the person you're interested in and figure out whether he or she's worth your time.

Another thing the flirt taught me was to nix turtlenecks in favor of V-neck blouses. Turtlenecks can make your neck look short, and they make you look uptight. If you're a woman, wear a blouse in a flattering shade and keep the top two buttons open. If you're a guy, go with a v-neck. The goal is to give that neck of yours a little exposure. It suggests vulnerability, which is attractive. It’s also sexy.

The tip to show neck may sound elementary if you’re a woman and already wearing down-to-there necklines, but displaying too much skin is even worse than showing too little: You’ll attract the very men you want to avoid. Oh, and if you're a guy, remove the baseball cap, please! Who cares if you're bald? Get rid of it. A bare head is so much more attractive than a baseball cap (or, worse, a cap with your mechanic's lo

se. I also learned to smile with my eyes, instead of just my mouth (smiling is so important; why oh why do people neglect to do it?).

If shyness isn’t your problem, speaking with your eyes is also the antidote to speaking too much with your mouth. I’ve heard it said that God gave us two ears and one mouth for a reason, and face it, good listeners often come off as brilliant conversationalists. Bonus: By listening carefully, you get to really know the person you're interested in and figure out whether he or she's worth your time.

Another thing the flirt taught me was to nix turtlenecks in favor of V-neck blouses. Turtlenecks can make your neck look short, and they make you look uptight. If you're a woman, wear a blouse in a flattering shade and keep the top two buttons open. If you're a guy, go with a v-neck. The goal is to give that neck of yours a little exposure. It suggests vulnerability, which is attractive. It’s also sexy.

The tip to show neck may sound elementary if you’re a woman and already wearing down-to-there necklines, but displaying too much skin is even worse than showing too little: You’ll attract the very men you want to avoid. Oh, and if you're a guy, remove the baseball cap, please! Who cares if you're bald? Get rid of it. A bare head is so much more attractive than a baseball cap (or, worse, a cap with your mechanic's lo

w the person you're interested in and figure out whether he or she's worth your time.

Another thing the flirt taught me was to nix turtlenecks in favor of V-neck blouses. Turtlenecks can make your neck look short, and they make you look uptight. If you're a woman, wear a blouse in a flattering shade and keep the top two buttons open. If you're a guy, go with a v-neck. The goal is to give that neck of yours a little exposure. It suggests vulnerability, which is attractive. It’s also sexy.

The tip to show neck may sound elementary if you’re a woman and already wearing down-to-there necklines, but displaying too much skin is even worse than showing too little: You’ll attract the very men you want to avoid. Oh, and if you're a guy, remove the baseball cap, please! Who cares if you're bald? Get rid of it. A bare head is so much more attractive than a baseball cap (or, worse, a cap with your mechanic's lo

which is attractive. It’s also sexy.

The tip to show neck may sound elementary if you’re a woman and already wearing down-to-there necklines, but displaying too much skin is even worse than showing too little: You’ll attract the very men you want to avoid. Oh, and if you're a guy, remove the baseball cap, please! Who cares if you're bald? Get rid of it. A bare head is so much more attractive than a baseball cap (or, worse, a cap with your mechanic's logo on it).

Now that you know how to make yourself approachable, it's time for the next step: To get out and meet somebody. Turn off your computer and go for it!