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Cheap And Easy Book Marketing And Promotion Tips For Self Publishers alents and abilities haven’t gone anywhere. Wherever you go, they are still with you!It's one thing to write a book, but an entirely different thing to write one that's saleable, viable, and marketable. With careful planning you can market, promote, and get (free) publicity (publicity is always free) on a limited budget; you can take the cheap and easy way. Assuming you're a self publisher or book publisher and you've already published your book, you need to immediately implement a strong, no-holds barred, book marketing and promotion strategy to sell your books fast.Don't underestimate the value of a good press release for making book sales. Press releases can generate thousands of dollars in sales when picked up by national trade or print media. Invest in press release submitting software and set aside time every week to send out a press release online to the press directories.Make sure your press release spells out the 'who, what, where, when, and why.' Send out at least 10 press releases to the print and broadcast media in your area every month. Using press releases can be a very effective marketing tool if used properly.Using press releases for marketing or promoting your book or book's website has become increasingly popular as publishers discover the powerful benefits of using press releases. Send out the same press release to the editor of your local daily newspaper every week until you are called for an interview or are written up.I've not found that boo LEFT FOR DEAD IN THE ANDES MOUNTAINS In 1985, Joe Simpson broke his leg on his descent of a 20,000 foot mountain in the Peruvian Andes. Then after a second fall left him dangling in mid-air off a cliff, his partner, Simon Yates, cut the rope that tied them together. This rope was Simpson’s last and only hope for survival. Simpson dropped into a long, narrow ice tube that went straight down. His body came to rest precariously on a narrow ice bridge between two much deeper vertical drops. He had two choices. He could either sit there until death slowly overtook his freezing body, or he could plunge into the dark unknown to meet death on his own terms. He had one ice screw left, which he banged into the wall of ice. Then he threaded his rope through it and somehow managed to tie a crude knot in the end of it. This became his anchor as he lowered his body into the deep, dark, icy unknown. To his surprise, his body eventually c Business Coaching #2 - Work-Life Balance & Fulfilled Living It might have been your best friend, your partner, your boss, your brother or even your lover. It burns deep inside. You can’t sleep for the anger, the shock and dismay. You may find yourself still not believing it’s happened to you. But it has!The first time I heard about the term work-life balance I was surprised that anybody even thought of balancing the two. Wasn’t that like counting apples and oranges? Still, the idea was quite exciting and I thought I’d explore it a bit more:I thought long and hard about what kind of working hours I wanted to have, what kind of office, how many people. By means of visualization all of that became a clear image that I was drawn to. I could see myself in a setting being fulfilled and happy with the way I lived and worked. Interestingly enough my enjoyment of the visions lasted only until the moment I realized that all my dreams and visions had come true! There is a Chinese curse: May you reach all your goals – that is exactly how I felt: empty and cursed - dreamless. So I pondered what I could do differently.First of all I learned that constant striving for new actions creates a mess of outcomes that are not necessarily beneficial. It is like attempting to weave a rug using thread that is in a tangled mass. Imagine yourself inspired by the idea of the colors you want to use, the thread choice and the size of the rug – your vision is clear and you slowly start working on it until you meet the first obstacle: knots that start taking you away from the initial goal. As you are solving the unpredicted problem, emotions arise, impatience, confusion – you end up working on untying the knot rather than w When those we have entrusted with our money, our plans, our strategies, our loyalty or even our love betray us, we feel violated deep inside. We feel crushed. We wonder if we can ever recover from this. It is at this moment of realization that you will make some of the most important decisions of your entire life. The three most critical choices you will make – whether you realize it or not are: (1) what to focus on; (2) what to believe; and (3) what to expect from this point forward. These three choices will determine the final impact this betrayal has on your life. A LESSON FROM MICKEY Most people don’t know that Walt Disney suffered a great business defeat early in his career. While living and working out of his uncle’s garage, Walt Disney had created a cartoon character called “Oswald the Lucky Rabbit” and signed a contract with Universal Studios to create animated short films about the little fury critter that would be shown before the main feature film at theaters. The short films enjoyed great success, but in his youth and naivete, Walt did not realize that he had signed away the rights to the character. When his contract came up for renewal, Universal Studios refused to renew the contract and announced that it owned the exclusive rights to produce films using “Oswald The Lucky Rabbit.” Walt was devastated. Starting over from scratch, Walt desperately needed to come up with a new character. The garage he was living in was infested with rats and mice. Instead of sulking in his misery, instead of turning bitter, instead of filing a lawsuit, Walt focused on what he had left - his gifts, talents and abilities - and his incredible imagination. Walt actually made a pet out of one of the mice and kept it in a cage on his desk. Drawing inspiration from his miserable surroundings, Walt created a cute little mouse character that he named “Mickey Mouse.” And the rest, as they say, is history! THREE CRITICAL CHOICES AT WORK What made the difference? Walt Disney made the same three critical choices that heroes have made for thousands of years in order to turn tragedy into triumph. HE CHOSE HIS FOCUS First, Walt chose his focus. Instead of focusing on his bitterness and anger, instead of focusing on his miserable rat and mouse infested environment, he focused on the next most immediate steps he needed to take in order to survive. He chose to move forward. He chose to focus on what was in front of him, not what was behind him. He focused on the few resources he had left. He poured himself into his work and he started over. HE CHOSE HIS BELIEFS Second, Walt chose to believe. He could have decided his career as a cartoonist was over, and that he could never make it in Hollywood. He could have chosen to believe he could not compete against the “big boys” and disappeared into oblivion. After all, at that time, the only movies being made in Hollywood had real live actors, not cartoon characters. There was no full-length cartoon movie industry at that time, and no one knew whether there was even a viable market for full-length cartoon movies. Despite all this, Walt chose to believe, and he chose to keep believing every new day that the sun came up. Through this tenacious belief, and hard work, he single handedly created a whole new industry. HE CHOSE HIS EXPECTATIONS Third, Walt chose his expectations. He knew he could create cartoon characters that audiences would love because he had done it before. Failure was not an option. He expected to succeed, and this gave him the motivation to keep moving forward. Remember, “they” may take away your office, your status, and your income. But they can’t take away your determination to succeed, your inherent abilities, your intelligence or your creativity. These are the very things that have brought you all of your past successes. These gifts, talents and abilities haven’t gone anywhere. Wherever you go, they are still with you! LEFT FOR DEAD IN THE ANDES MOUNTAINS In 1985, Joe Simpson broke his leg on his descent of a 20,000 foot mountain in the Peruvian Andes. Then after a second fall left him dangling in mid-air off a cliff, his partner, Simon Yates, cut the rope that tied them together. This rope was Simpson’s last and only hope for survival. Simpson dropped into a long, narrow ice tube that went straight down. His body came to rest precariously on a narrow ice bridge between two much deeper vertical drops. He had two choices. He could either sit there until death slowly overtook his freezing body, or he could plunge into the dark unknown to meet death on his own terms. He had one ice screw left, which he banged into the wall of ice. Then he threaded his rope through it and somehow managed to tie a crude knot in the end of it. This became his anchor as he lowered his body into the deep, dark, icy unknown. To his surprise, his body eventually ca A New Scam Hits The Web toon character called “Oswald the Lucky Rabbit” and signed a contract with Universal Studios to create animated short films about the little fury critter that would be shown before the main feature film at theaters. The short films enjoyed great success, but in his youth and naivete, Walt did not realize that he had signed away the rights to the character. When his contract came up for renewal, Universal Studios refused to renew the contract and announced that it owned the exclusive rights to produce films using “Oswald The Lucky Rabbit.” Walt was devastated.New Twist On An Old ScamVirtually anyone with an email account eventually receives a message running one of the oldest scams in the book.Often referred to as the "Nigerian Letter," this scam involves getting a message from someone in a foreign country claiming to need a way to get 21.5 million dollars out of the country (the first country used in this scam was Nigeria, hence the scam's name).He knows that you "are a trustworthy individual" and if you'll just send him your bank account information he will deposit the money in your account and give you 15% of the deposit.Of course, after you give up your banking information the scammer empties YOUR account.Well a new scam has spawned to take advantage of one of the web's most successful and widespread activities - online auctions.The scammer sends you an email offering to purchase an item you're selling through an online auction or in the classified section of your local paper.They tell you a relative living in the area will pick up the goods, however, when the check arrives, it's made out for more than the agreed price (often thousands more).The bidder asks you to refund the difference and keep a percentage for your "trouble."Of course the check is forged and, if you refund the difference, you can kiss your money goodbye.Moral of the story: free money is only free for the Starting over from scratch, Walt desperately needed to come up with a new character. The garage he was living in was infested with rats and mice. Instead of sulking in his misery, instead of turning bitter, instead of filing a lawsuit, Walt focused on what he had left - his gifts, talents and abilities - and his incredible imagination. Walt actually made a pet out of one of the mice and kept it in a cage on his desk. Drawing inspiration from his miserable surroundings, Walt created a cute little mouse character that he named “Mickey Mouse.” And the rest, as they say, is history! THREE CRITICAL CHOICES AT WORK What made the difference? Walt Disney made the same three critical choices that heroes have made for thousands of years in order to turn tragedy into triumph. HE CHOSE HIS FOCUS First, Walt chose his focus. Instead of focusing on his bitterness and anger, instead of focusing on his miserable rat and mouse infested environment, he focused on the next most immediate steps he needed to take in order to survive. He chose to move forward. He chose to focus on what was in front of him, not what was behind him. He focused on the few resources he had left. He poured himself into his work and he started over. HE CHOSE HIS BELIEFS Second, Walt chose to believe. He could have decided his career as a cartoonist was over, and that he could never make it in Hollywood. He could have chosen to believe he could not compete against the “big boys” and disappeared into oblivion. After all, at that time, the only movies being made in Hollywood had real live actors, not cartoon characters. There was no full-length cartoon movie industry at that time, and no one knew whether there was even a viable market for full-length cartoon movies. Despite all this, Walt chose to believe, and he chose to keep believing every new day that the sun came up. Through this tenacious belief, and hard work, he single handedly created a whole new industry. HE CHOSE HIS EXPECTATIONS Third, Walt chose his expectations. He knew he could create cartoon characters that audiences would love because he had done it before. Failure was not an option. He expected to succeed, and this gave him the motivation to keep moving forward. Remember, “they” may take away your office, your status, and your income. But they can’t take away your determination to succeed, your inherent abilities, your intelligence or your creativity. These are the very things that have brought you all of your past successes. These gifts, talents and abilities haven’t gone anywhere. Wherever you go, they are still with you! LEFT FOR DEAD IN THE ANDES MOUNTAINS In 1985, Joe Simpson broke his leg on his descent of a 20,000 foot mountain in the Peruvian Andes. Then after a second fall left him dangling in mid-air off a cliff, his partner, Simon Yates, cut the rope that tied them together. This rope was Simpson’s last and only hope for survival. Simpson dropped into a long, narrow ice tube that went straight down. His body came to rest precariously on a narrow ice bridge between two much deeper vertical drops. He had two choices. He could either sit there until death slowly overtook his freezing body, or he could plunge into the dark unknown to meet death on his own terms. He had one ice screw left, which he banged into the wall of ice. Then he threaded his rope through it and somehow managed to tie a crude knot in the end of it. This became his anchor as he lowered his body into the deep, dark, icy unknown. To his surprise, his body eventually c Personal Fall Arrest And Positioning Devices , Walt created a cute little mouse character that he named “Mickey Mouse.” And the rest, as they say, is history!Subpart M - Floor and Wall Openings Section 1926 Code of Federal Regulations for the construction industry was revised to read as follows: Subpart M - Fall Protection.This revised subpart sets forth the requirements and criteria for fall protection in the construction workplace. Exception: The provision of this subpart does not apply when employees are making an inspection, investigation, or assessment of conditions prior to the actual start of construction work or after all construction work has been completed.Section 1926.501 Duty to have fall protection Indicates the conditions, operations, and circumstances for which fall protection shall be provided. However, contractors who perform steel erection, tunneling, electrical transmission work, or who work on cranes, stairways, or scaffolds are covered under those respective subparts of the CFR, not Subpart M.The following outlines the requirements under duty to have fall protection regarding personal fall arrest systems. Fall protection is required when: each employee is performing a task (working) 6ft. or more above lower levels.Personal fall arrest systems Means a system used to arrest an employee in a fall from a working level. It consists of an anchorage, connectors, a body belt or body harness and may include a l THREE CRITICAL CHOICES AT WORK What made the difference? Walt Disney made the same three critical choices that heroes have made for thousands of years in order to turn tragedy into triumph. HE CHOSE HIS FOCUS First, Walt chose his focus. Instead of focusing on his bitterness and anger, instead of focusing on his miserable rat and mouse infested environment, he focused on the next most immediate steps he needed to take in order to survive. He chose to move forward. He chose to focus on what was in front of him, not what was behind him. He focused on the few resources he had left. He poured himself into his work and he started over. HE CHOSE HIS BELIEFS Second, Walt chose to believe. He could have decided his career as a cartoonist was over, and that he could never make it in Hollywood. He could have chosen to believe he could not compete against the “big boys” and disappeared into oblivion. After all, at that time, the only movies being made in Hollywood had real live actors, not cartoon characters. There was no full-length cartoon movie industry at that time, and no one knew whether there was even a viable market for full-length cartoon movies. Despite all this, Walt chose to believe, and he chose to keep believing every new day that the sun came up. Through this tenacious belief, and hard work, he single handedly created a whole new industry. HE CHOSE HIS EXPECTATIONS Third, Walt chose his expectations. He knew he could create cartoon characters that audiences would love because he had done it before. Failure was not an option. He expected to succeed, and this gave him the motivation to keep moving forward. Remember, “they” may take away your office, your status, and your income. But they can’t take away your determination to succeed, your inherent abilities, your intelligence or your creativity. These are the very things that have brought you all of your past successes. These gifts, talents and abilities haven’t gone anywhere. Wherever you go, they are still with you! LEFT FOR DEAD IN THE ANDES MOUNTAINS In 1985, Joe Simpson broke his leg on his descent of a 20,000 foot mountain in the Peruvian Andes. Then after a second fall left him dangling in mid-air off a cliff, his partner, Simon Yates, cut the rope that tied them together. This rope was Simpson’s last and only hope for survival. Simpson dropped into a long, narrow ice tube that went straight down. His body came to rest precariously on a narrow ice bridge between two much deeper vertical drops. He had two choices. He could either sit there until death slowly overtook his freezing body, or he could plunge into the dark unknown to meet death on his own terms. He had one ice screw left, which he banged into the wall of ice. Then he threaded his rope through it and somehow managed to tie a crude knot in the end of it. This became his anchor as he lowered his body into the deep, dark, icy unknown. To his surprise, his body eventually c Coastal Vacation Warning o oblivion. After all, at that time, the only movies being made in Hollywood had real live actors, not cartoon characters. There was no full-length cartoon movie industry at that time, and no one knew whether there was even a viable market for full-length cartoon movies. Despite all this, Walt chose to believe, and he chose to keep believing every new day that the sun came up. Through this tenacious belief, and hard work, he single handedly created a whole new industry. HE CHOSE HIS EXPECTATIONSCoastal vacations has been around for quite sometime but there's a few things very wrong with their business opportunity, and if you're seriously thinking about joining I think you should know these few but very serious warnings about coastal vacations...First of all, when you join any program online the buzz about it should be positive and right off the bat we have at least 2 things that stick out like a sore thumb in coastal vacations. The first thing is there is a stigma attached with the business opportunity because it's associated with the phrase "scam" or "pyramid scheme." Even though I believe coastal vacations is neither, nevertheless they have had a few dissapointed customers who have spread this type of falicy around the internet which makes it much harder for you to get a sale. Then there is the many, many competing directors you have to deal with and it won't be easy if you're just starting out with the program regardless of the team you're on.So what are you to do? Well, you should join a program that's fresh and new and has a good buzz going online with less competition. Is there such a program? Yes there is and it's called "Perfect Wealth Formula." It's Brand New and the buzz on the internet is totally positive. Perfect Wealth Formula doesn't require you to give up your first 2 sales before you can start making a profit, with this new and exciting opportunity you'll be in profit Third, Walt chose his expectations. He knew he could create cartoon characters that audiences would love because he had done it before. Failure was not an option. He expected to succeed, and this gave him the motivation to keep moving forward. Remember, “they” may take away your office, your status, and your income. But they can’t take away your determination to succeed, your inherent abilities, your intelligence or your creativity. These are the very things that have brought you all of your past successes. These gifts, talents and abilities haven’t gone anywhere. Wherever you go, they are still with you! LEFT FOR DEAD IN THE ANDES MOUNTAINS In 1985, Joe Simpson broke his leg on his descent of a 20,000 foot mountain in the Peruvian Andes. Then after a second fall left him dangling in mid-air off a cliff, his partner, Simon Yates, cut the rope that tied them together. This rope was Simpson’s last and only hope for survival. Simpson dropped into a long, narrow ice tube that went straight down. His body came to rest precariously on a narrow ice bridge between two much deeper vertical drops. He had two choices. He could either sit there until death slowly overtook his freezing body, or he could plunge into the dark unknown to meet death on his own terms. He had one ice screw left, which he banged into the wall of ice. Then he threaded his rope through it and somehow managed to tie a crude knot in the end of it. This became his anchor as he lowered his body into the deep, dark, icy unknown. To his surprise, his body eventually c Success Sucks! alents and abilities haven’t gone anywhere. Wherever you go, they are still with you!Let's be straight up honest for a moment....success can really suck. Not all success, of course. Just the kind that sneaks up behind and knocks you down. The wading-through-the-swamp-wrestling-alligators kind of success that leaves you panting, breathless, staring deep into the gator's mouth.How does success go so terribly wrong? And could it happen to you? Oh yeah. It's as simple as having a great idea, promoting it, and discovering that you are utterly unprepared for the impact your business idea will have on the world.It started about 18 months ago, when our company was just me and my business partner, two bright guys with what we thought was a great idea to promote. And that's how Article Marketer was born.Word spread like crazy...apparently there are enough business owners out there looking for a reliable way to drive web traffic that we touched a nerve. It was a classic case of "finding a need and filling it." Online business owners signed on in droves, submitting tons of articles and referring new customers all the timeEnter success... the success you dream of, hope for, work towards, expect to achieve in maybe two or three years...and it ends up in your lap overnight. Would YOU be ready for it? We weren't. Sure, we had plans for scalable solutions, staffing, new features, customer support. Plans that we expected to implement over the next year or so, not overnight.< LEFT FOR DEAD IN THE ANDES MOUNTAINS In 1985, Joe Simpson broke his leg on his descent of a 20,000 foot mountain in the Peruvian Andes. Then after a second fall left him dangling in mid-air off a cliff, his partner, Simon Yates, cut the rope that tied them together. This rope was Simpson’s last and only hope for survival. Simpson dropped into a long, narrow ice tube that went straight down. His body came to rest precariously on a narrow ice bridge between two much deeper vertical drops. He had two choices. He could either sit there until death slowly overtook his freezing body, or he could plunge into the dark unknown to meet death on his own terms. He had one ice screw left, which he banged into the wall of ice. Then he threaded his rope through it and somehow managed to tie a crude knot in the end of it. This became his anchor as he lowered his body into the deep, dark, icy unknown. To his surprise, his body eventually came to rest on a flat surface of snow. Then he saw a thin ray of light shining from the opposite side of the cavern. There was a forty-five degree slope of ice leading up to where he could just barely see a pinpoint of daylight. This was the way out – if only he could reach it. He bent over and dug a small foothold for each of his boots, which were equipped with crampons (metal claws) for climbing. Then he pounded his ice axe into the wall of ice above him and slowly lifted his bad leg, then his good leg into the footholds, while pulling his body up with the ice axe. Each time he put weight on his bad leg, searing pain exploded up and down his leg. He would scream and curse out loud. Then he would repeat the process. It was at this moment that he made a critical decision. He chose to focus on the pattern rather than the pain. Simpson says, “The flares of pain became merged into the routine and I paid less attention to them, concentrating solely on the patterns.” He was so intent on focusing on the pattern that he refused to even look up to the object of his climb for fear that it would remind him of the little progress he had made and how far he still had to go. He knew where he was going, but it was more important to focus on the pattern. The pattern was working – one inch at a time – but it was working. After what seemed like an eternity, he popped his head up through the snow to see a ring of spectacularly beautiful mountains and blue sky. He had made it. But now he had to figure out a way to get down the rest of the mountain with a broken leg. Simpson was forced to experiment and find different patterns of behavior to determine the most efficient and least painful way to get down the 20,000 foot mountain. He tried walking, but fell repeatedly. Nevertheless, he tried to fall forward in the direction he knew he needed to go. When he could not stand, he crawled, then tried to stand and walk again. He walked, fell and crawled over and over again for several days and nights without food or water. His focus made the difference between death and survival. He would pick a spot in the distance and focus on it. Then he would give himself a deadline by which he had to get to it. When he finally got there, he would pick out another spot in the distance and repeat the pattern. It was a slow, agonizing process and his body got weaker and weaker as he went. But, through the sheer force of his will and the voice inside his head that kept commanding his mangled body forward like a cruel drill sergeant, after several days, he finally got close enough to his campsite where his shouts could be heard. What can we learn from Joe Simpson’s epic tale of survival and Walt Disney’s incredible comeback? CHOOSE YOUR FOCUS First, when you find yourself reeling from a shocking act of betrayal, make a conscious choice to focus on the immediate next steps needed for survival – rather than on your bitterness and anger. If you dwell on your anger it will consume all of your creative energy and brain cells – the same brain cells that you will need to come up with your next move. Second, focus on the resources, skills, gifts, talents and friends you have left – even though they may be few. Third, don’t throw good money after bad. Don’t pursue litigation unless you absolutely are being forced to do so. When you choose to litigate rather than recuperate, the only ones who get rich are the lawyers. Most lawyers joke that the winner in any lawsuit is the one who has lost the least amount of blood in the fight. History shows there are no real winners except the lawyers. Turn the energy generated by your anger into a new resolve to succeed against all odds. That’s the best way to get even. CHOOSE YOUR BELIEFS Make a conscious choice to believe there is a way out. There is always a way out. You can survive this and even prosper on the other side of this tragedy. But first you have to make a very deliberate and conscious choice to believe it. Then you have to pursue it. CHOOSE YOUR EXPECATIONS Joe Simpson and Walt Disney both survived severe acts of betr
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