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Actual for You - Reality Bites-Breaking the News
While registering a domain name is usually a good thing, it can have some pitfalls. One of them is when your private domain name information becomes available to the internet community through the whois system.Whois refers to a request for information regarding the domain name registrant, administrator, tech support person and billing contact. Each of these sections must be filled with valid name, address and email information. The problem is, this information is totally public and accessible by anyone with a connection to the internet. That means anyone that wants to send you spam can access your email information with ease.The other reason why some people seek private domain name registrations is to avoid being tracked by the search engines. Why would someone worry about that? This would mainly apply to people who have registered multiple domains for the purpose of making money with them like with Google's adsense program. They thought goes that a search engine could theoretically shut down all websites with the same contact information in it. This tactic is being disputed by others who argue that companies like Google have access to the main Registrar's database of whois information and therefore bypass the private domain name registration services.So how does it work? Simply put, another company will act like a proxy for you and put their inform
Scripts for telling
Asking to postpone the wedding could fit into any of the six categories above. In such cases, choose the response you would most like to receive, to make sure your experience of telling the truth works out the way you would like. For example, if you're postponing the wedding because of serious second thoughts, that falls into the 'bad news' category.
In a country that settles each night in front of the television, it just seems strange that more and more people are finding the allure of the computer screen sometimes more important. There is no doubt that children do as their parents do. They enjoy exploring the vast world of the Internet. They are excited to get that new computer game. But, how much time in front of the computer screen is the right amount of time?There is no doubt going to be a number of people that come out and say that children are spending far too much time in front of the computer. They may end up telling us that their eyes will go back or something. Regardless of what they will say, we know now that it is important to limit the amount of time children use the computer. We know this because we know that it just makes sense that children who play on the computer too much loose the physical aspects of life along with the elements of pretend play that actually teach them quite a bit.As parents, it is up to us to limit what the child is doing. It is up to us to provide for them something worthwhile to do while they are on the web as well. In this, we mean that you, Mom or Dad, need to commit to knowing which games they are playing and which websites they plan to visit. Here's a great way to limit what they are actually doing.Instead of allowing them to surf and end up on some ba
There are incidents in our life where we have to disclose some news or have to say something to people close to us...known to us where we are aware that it may hurt them. For Example read the following:
1) You have to tell your sub-ordinate that he is sacked or he has to resign. 2) All in your team got increments and promotions, except two people...disclose this news to them. 3) You father is serious and he is in hospital...sharing this news with your sibling. 4) Your daughter has appeared for “Chartered Accountant Exams” but failed...now share it with her. 5) Giving “honest” feedback to your spouses...about their looks. 6) Giving “honest” comment to your friends about their behavior and habit.
There are many such incidents. One time or another we've all been there. You want to tell someone how you really feel. But how do you say this difficult thing to a person you care about without damaging, or even destroying the relationship? It's easy to say something we know will be welcomed: "I like your new suit" or "The package you were waiting for just came." Even something potentially embarrassing -"You've got chili between your teeth"-is easy to say to a friend who's going out on a date and would be horrified if you didn't tell him. About 95% of the things we need to tell other people are easy because they're welcome or routine or they confirm the sense that everything is OK. It's the other five- percent that gives us trouble.
Often in those cases, we back off and say nothing. But in silence, while incredibly tempting, is usually not the best option. Too often it's not an option at all, because the other person will eventually learn the truth anyway. Better to speak up and at least have some control over how the message is conveyed. But what, exactly, should you say? We all how easy it is to say something the wrong way and have the situation blow up in our faces. That's why certain truths are called bombshells. Deep down we all want the same thing. We want to say what needs to be said, feel good about ourselves for saying it and make good things happen when we do.
Tell the truth but meet the need
The need is what the other person is left feeling when you've dropped your bombshell. If you tell your boss: "The report will be ready tomorrow, as we agreed," you haven't created a need, you've fulfilled one. But if you say, "The report won't be in till Friday. Sorry!" you're creating an unmet need in someone very important-your boss-so you're afraid to say it. Your answer: tell the truth but meet the need. If you do that, you convert something that's hard to say into something you're brave enough to say. But how do you know what the other person's need will be? Just ask yourself what the other person is afraid of, and do or say something to help him feel less afraid. For example, you don't have to be a genius to guess that if your fianc?e hears you want to postpone the wedding, he might:
? Need not to be humiliated in front of friends and family;
? Need to feel reassured that in this case postponement doesn't mean cancellation;
? Need to know what feelings prompted the postponement. (Has he done something wrong? Do you still love him?)
Classify your truth
The cleverer you are on what you want make happen as a result of telling the truth, the easier it is to decide what to say. So it's important to know about the six categories of 'difficult truths'. To figure it out, ask yourself: "What response from the other person would make me feel satisfied?" Here are the guidelines:
1. If you'd be satisfied to hear this person say she forgives you, the truth you want to communicate is a confession. 2. If you'd be satisfied to hear this person say she'll try to change, your truth is criticism. 3. If you'd be satisfied to hear this person say she'll try to change, your truth is a request. 4. If you'd be satisfied to hear this person say he acknowledges your feelings, your truth is simply a communication of how you feel. 5. If you'd be satisfied to hear this person say he accepts you, even with this new information, your truth is a sensitive, personal disclosure. 6. If you'd be satisfied to hear this person say she accepts what you are saying and doesn't blame you for it, your truth is a piece of bad news.
Scripts for telling
Asking to postpone the wedding could fit into any of the six categories above. In such cases, choose the response you would most like to receive, to make sure your experience of telling the truth works out the way you would like. For example, if you're postponing the wedding because of serious second thoughts, that falls into the 'bad news' category. B
Your Ideal Client Is Easy To Market ToMany times people begin their business with very loosely defined concepts about who will gladly buy what they are selling. This vague and ambiguous approach to business can lead you into a marketing maze that has the potential to drain you financially and emotionally.If you don’t have a clear understanding of your ideal client, it’s time you went back and laid a solid foundation for building your business. Answer these three questions and you will have the knowledge you need to design and effective marketing strategy.1. Who is your Ideal Client (IC)? The more you know about their distinguishable demographics, psychographics, and consumer habits, the better. You should be able to describe your IC as a specific type of person with a specific need. You should be able to describe their likes, dislikes, and their pattern of seeking out resolutions and opportunities as it relates to what you offer. Take the time to know as much about your IC as possible. The insider’s view will allow you to speak their language and feel their pain in a way that leads to empathetic marketing.2. What problems and/or desires does your IC have that will inspire them to do business with you? Your solution needs to perfectly answer the question they are asking. If your IC is not asking a question you will have to work too hard to ma
Often in those cases, we back off and say nothing. But in silence, while incredibly tempting, is usually not the best option. Too often it's not an option at all, because the other person will eventually learn the truth anyway. Better to speak up and at least have some control over how the message is conveyed. But what, exactly, should you say? We all how easy it is to say something the wrong way and have the situation blow up in our faces. That's why certain truths are called bombshells. Deep down we all want the same thing. We want to say what needs to be said, feel good about ourselves for saying it and make good things happen when we do.
Tell the truth but meet the need
The need is what the other person is left feeling when you've dropped your bombshell. If you tell your boss: "The report will be ready tomorrow, as we agreed," you haven't created a need, you've fulfilled one. But if you say, "The report won't be in till Friday. Sorry!" you're creating an unmet need in someone very important-your boss-so you're afraid to say it. Your answer: tell the truth but meet the need. If you do that, you convert something that's hard to say into something you're brave enough to say. But how do you know what the other person's need will be? Just ask yourself what the other person is afraid of, and do or say something to help him feel less afraid. For example, you don't have to be a genius to guess that if your fianc?e hears you want to postpone the wedding, he might:
? Need not to be humiliated in front of friends and family;
? Need to feel reassured that in this case postponement doesn't mean cancellation;
? Need to know what feelings prompted the postponement. (Has he done something wrong? Do you still love him?)
Classify your truth
The cleverer you are on what you want make happen as a result of telling the truth, the easier it is to decide what to say. So it's important to know about the six categories of 'difficult truths'. To figure it out, ask yourself: "What response from the other person would make me feel satisfied?" Here are the guidelines:
1. If you'd be satisfied to hear this person say she forgives you, the truth you want to communicate is a confession. 2. If you'd be satisfied to hear this person say she'll try to change, your truth is criticism. 3. If you'd be satisfied to hear this person say she'll try to change, your truth is a request. 4. If you'd be satisfied to hear this person say he acknowledges your feelings, your truth is simply a communication of how you feel. 5. If you'd be satisfied to hear this person say he accepts you, even with this new information, your truth is a sensitive, personal disclosure. 6. If you'd be satisfied to hear this person say she accepts what you are saying and doesn't blame you for it, your truth is a piece of bad news.
Scripts for telling
Asking to postpone the wedding could fit into any of the six categories above. In such cases, choose the response you would most like to receive, to make sure your experience of telling the truth works out the way you would like. For example, if you're postponing the wedding because of serious second thoughts, that falls into the 'bad news' category.
You probably know by now that affiliate programs provide one of the most popular ways to make money on the Internet. But making a living online from them is hard enough with different people telling you different things. However, there are some techniques you can follow to increase your chances of success.The following five ways can multiply your affiliate sales and, more importantly, your name recognition which will mean more affiliate sales to come.-- Offer a free e-course with affiliate link(s) added throughout.This will get people to: 1) visit your site if you're leading them to a subscribe form and/or 2) allow you to follow-up with them several times. You'll have a better chance of making the sale and you'll get some traffic.Don't come up with just anything -- it has to be a quality e-course with valuable information that people can actually use/learn from. Otherwise, your reputation goes downhill and so will your ability to sell anything.-- Do some offline advertising for free publicity.You could do press releases, radio or television interviews, classifieds in newspapers or magazines, posting fliers in your local market, etc. Your imagination is your only limit (besides the law, in some cases, so check ;).Not many people think about going offline when they have an online business, and still less actually do it. You
Tell the truth but meet the need
The need is what the other person is left feeling when you've dropped your bombshell. If you tell your boss: "The report will be ready tomorrow, as we agreed," you haven't created a need, you've fulfilled one. But if you say, "The report won't be in till Friday. Sorry!" you're creating an unmet need in someone very important-your boss-so you're afraid to say it. Your answer: tell the truth but meet the need. If you do that, you convert something that's hard to say into something you're brave enough to say. But how do you know what the other person's need will be? Just ask yourself what the other person is afraid of, and do or say something to help him feel less afraid. For example, you don't have to be a genius to guess that if your fianc?e hears you want to postpone the wedding, he might:
? Need not to be humiliated in front of friends and family;
? Need to feel reassured that in this case postponement doesn't mean cancellation;
? Need to know what feelings prompted the postponement. (Has he done something wrong? Do you still love him?)
Classify your truth
The cleverer you are on what you want make happen as a result of telling the truth, the easier it is to decide what to say. So it's important to know about the six categories of 'difficult truths'. To figure it out, ask yourself: "What response from the other person would make me feel satisfied?" Here are the guidelines:
1. If you'd be satisfied to hear this person say she forgives you, the truth you want to communicate is a confession. 2. If you'd be satisfied to hear this person say she'll try to change, your truth is criticism. 3. If you'd be satisfied to hear this person say she'll try to change, your truth is a request. 4. If you'd be satisfied to hear this person say he acknowledges your feelings, your truth is simply a communication of how you feel. 5. If you'd be satisfied to hear this person say he accepts you, even with this new information, your truth is a sensitive, personal disclosure. 6. If you'd be satisfied to hear this person say she accepts what you are saying and doesn't blame you for it, your truth is a piece of bad news.
Scripts for telling
Asking to postpone the wedding could fit into any of the six categories above. In such cases, choose the response you would most like to receive, to make sure your experience of telling the truth works out the way you would like. For example, if you're postponing the wedding because of serious second thoughts, that falls into the 'bad news' category.
Much is written about the how to achieve business success. From the Balance Scorecard for business to The On-Purpose Business, business owners have a wealth of information to turn their hard efforts into bountiful success. Yet, success still eludes many.What I have recently discovered as a small business coach, is that there are 3 distinct and separate capacities that every business has regardless of size and how these are used determines The Success Advantage Factor. Planning Execution Measurement How the business leverages, balances and aligns these capacities within each area or department or dashboard is the Success Advantage Factor.Who Says Elephants Can’t Dance? by Louis V. Gertner, he shared that IBM did great planning, but had a terrible time in the capacity of execution and measurement. Research suggests that many small business coaches are missing the boat because they fail to measure their progress. Business consultants, Jason Jennings and Laurence Haughton, in their book It’s Not the Big that Eat the Small . . . It’s the Fast that Eat the Slow revealed that most business executives spent less than 15 minutes a day planning the future.Each
? Need not to be humiliated in front of friends and family;
? Need to feel reassured that in this case postponement doesn't mean cancellation;
? Need to know what feelings prompted the postponement. (Has he done something wrong? Do you still love him?)
Classify your truth
The cleverer you are on what you want make happen as a result of telling the truth, the easier it is to decide what to say. So it's important to know about the six categories of 'difficult truths'. To figure it out, ask yourself: "What response from the other person would make me feel satisfied?" Here are the guidelines:
1. If you'd be satisfied to hear this person say she forgives you, the truth you want to communicate is a confession. 2. If you'd be satisfied to hear this person say she'll try to change, your truth is criticism. 3. If you'd be satisfied to hear this person say she'll try to change, your truth is a request. 4. If you'd be satisfied to hear this person say he acknowledges your feelings, your truth is simply a communication of how you feel. 5. If you'd be satisfied to hear this person say he accepts you, even with this new information, your truth is a sensitive, personal disclosure. 6. If you'd be satisfied to hear this person say she accepts what you are saying and doesn't blame you for it, your truth is a piece of bad news.
Scripts for telling
Asking to postpone the wedding could fit into any of the six categories above. In such cases, choose the response you would most like to receive, to make sure your experience of telling the truth works out the way you would like. For example, if you're postponing the wedding because of serious second thoughts, that falls into the 'bad news' category.
You're happily humming along, religiously seeking work on a daily basis, feeling positive and confident and enthusiastic. Then one day you wake up and can't summon the energy to get out of bed. The sun may be shining but suddenly your world is gray and bleak. It seems that nothing you are doing is getting you where you want to go and you just don't have the inner strength to keep going.Don't fight it. Accept it and expect it. Job search is terribly demanding emotionally and mentally. It will wear you out, drain your enthusiasm, and leave you exhausted, depressed, and apathetic. No one can hit on all cylinders every day. The body and the mind demand an occasional break or they will force it by refusing to obey your call to get going.Go with the flow by giving yourself the break you need. Allow the day to develop as seems natural for you. If you feel like staying in bed all day, do it - and enjoy it. If you want to watch television all day, or go to the mall, do it without guilt or self-reproach. If you want to putter in the garage, or take a swim, or just eat everything in the house, let yourself go.Reframe your outlook from "I should be looking for work instead of goofing off" to "I need this break to get myself back together." Enjoy your day off unapologetically, knowing that it was a wake-up call to take care of yourself, an important activity in
Scripts for telling
Asking to postpone the wedding could fit into any of the six categories above. In such cases, choose the response you would most like to receive, to make sure your experience of telling the truth works out the way you would like. For example, if you're postponing the wedding because of serious second thoughts, that falls into the 'bad news' category. But if you'd be happy if your fianc?e simple said something like, "Yes, I hear how you feel. I certainly understand. I've felt uncertain myself from time to time. It's natural to feel that way," then you're simply communicating how you feel-and why give him a heart attack by making it sound as though you don't love him? You can tell your truth so your fianc?e knows that he only has to listen to your feelings; he doesn't have to take any action.
Once you've figured out which is your truth, you can begin to evaluate the other person's needs and figure out what to say. Let's apply the meet-the-need principle to each type of bombshell - in the next installment.
Incidents from your life
Asking for something difficult : You're an accountant for an ad agency. There's an attractive, hip copywriter you want to ask out. But you're afraid he'll think that, being a numbers person, you're not just his type. What's his need in the face of truth that you're attracted to him? You're not sure, but you figure he's got to be afraid of getting stuck on a long, drawn-out date with someone who doesn't share his interests. So you ask him out for a mid-week lunch at a restaurant, he says yes. People get upset when you ask them for something because they feel trapped and powerless. You need to make sure they feel free to decline, but also free to accept because they won't get stuck in anything.
Bringing bad news: You're working on a project at your job. You could have told your boss sooner that you wouldn't finish on time and given him a chance to deal with your being late, but you kept hoping you'd be able to catch up. Now it's really late and you're sure he'll be furious, so you're really afraid to tell him. You can't meet your boss's greatest need, which is to have the project on time. So think through the next step: When he hears the truth, what will he be afraid of? Perhaps his big fear is getting in trouble with his boss. So when you tell your bad news, make it perfectly clear that you're willing to fall on the sword and take full blame for what happened. In general, when people hear bad news, they're subject to hopelessness and panic. So give the other person a sense of hope, particularly about his worst fears, and clear directions for what will happen next - in this case, by assuring your boss that you'll complete the project by a certain date. So, the more important someone is to you, the more care and thought you should put into telling this person the truth that's in your heart.
Confessing a secret : You and another woman are partners in a business that is doing well, but you're both stretched to the limit. A few months ago she said: "Thank God neither of us is going to get pregnant," but now you have to tell her that you are pregnant. How can you meet her need when you tell her this secret? Start thinking about what she'll be afraid of: being swamped and the business going under. How to meet the need: you could suggest that while you'll keep you share of the profits, you'll also pay for someone to temporarily take your place. And you can promise to be as available as possible until you return to work. In this way, you're meeting her practical needs while showing that you know you can't just go do whatever you want.
One reason people go nuts when you confess a guilty secret is that they feel betrayed. They need to know that you understand what your betrayal means, and one way to do that is to offer to pay some substantial price that not only balances things between you but convinces them that you know what you've done.
Criticizing someone: Your mother constantly criticizes you and you're sick of it. You want to tell her that, but we all know how mothers are. She might say: "Fine, I won't ever say anything."
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