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A Seed is Nothing More than an Organic ZIP File
Have you ever stopped to consider what a seed is? A seed is nothing more than a safety shell that contains the specific information inside to grow into a certain type of plant. Let's call this an organic zip file? The metaphor is a good one and although computers and plants are much different when you think about it, really they are similar in this regard.Now lets take a USB Thumb drive which has a small program in it. Once it is plugged into the computer it unzips and starts launching files. So you see a seedling is similar to launching a program from a USB thumb drive. Of course not wishing to take anything away from your belief in a god the computer technology of a USB zip drive can go one-step further.You see, technology allows us to reverse evolution in computer programs which is something we cannot do in nature. In other words a USB drive can take a program away, erase its files and store it in the d

es someone else deserve the power to make your life so miserable? Why would you want to give that power to someone who is abusive? Don't allow it anymore. If you do not want to spend the rest of your life in "Emotional Hell", take a chance, find the courage and take control of your life. If your life is so unhappy now, do you think it would get worse? The answer is "no". You will begin to live again.

How To Build Long Lasting Relationships
Relationships are a vital part of human life. From the kids in pre-school class, to the teenager who meets with his first love, to the junior executive who needs to get ahead in his career, to the business owner who needs to give his workers a sense belonging; it is obvious that we all need relationships. It is also a well known fact that, the quality of the relationships you keep will have a significant impact on the quality of your life and your sense of fulfillment. It is therefore important for you to know how to maintain your quality relationships, and this article reveals a very important way to add value to your relationships.The foundation of every successful relationship is effective communication. To build a sound relationship, you need to learn how to express your exact feelings to the other person; but more importantly, you need to be a very good listener. Everyone has something to tell, it could be w

If you are in a relationship, the following are serious signs that something is very wrong. Learn the patterns of abuse, learn what to do, learn how to get your life back.

ARE YOU BEING MISTREATED? Is your partner in the relationship rude to you? Does he put you down...tell you that you are stupid...or "can't do anything right" ? Does he seem to always be angry at you for something? Do you find yourself saying "I'm sorry" even if you have no real idea of what you did supposedly did wrong - but saying the words so that he will speak to you again? Does he ever disappear for a night- and then not care that you've been worried sick over where he was? Are you constantly being accused of cheating on him with other men, but it is your mate who disappears and sneaks around? Is he uncaring and cruel, perhaps not showing concern if you are injured or upset about a personal situation? Are your opinions worthless to him? Does he pass off your words as if you are nothing? Are you getting blamed for making him upset, but he will never admit that he's does anything wrong? Is the relationship is based on sex, but you sense that that's all it is- sex- and you know it's not thought of as "making love"? All of the above are signs of verbal and/or emotional abuse!

ARE YOU IN FEAR? Has your partner threatened you ? Pushed you? Grabbed you by the hair? Thrown objects at you? Spit on you ? Slapped, hit or otherwise hurt you? Do you live in fear, wondering when he will "snap" next? After he has done these things to you, does he apologize and promise to never do these things again ? Does he threaten to kill you if you leave him? Or do harm to himself? Does he coax you into staying in the relationship by fear or guilt? Do you feel hopeless, lost and worthless? If so, then he achieved what he wanted.

IF THESE APPLY TO YOU:People who have a very strong emotional attachment for another , are sometimes blind to the horrible treatment they are receiving. Or even if they know they are being mistreated, they will hang on. Why ? One reason is that they are craving "true love" and pray that the other person will change their ways. After all, so much time was put into this relationship, and may be willing to wait around to them to start treating you correctly. The other reason is fear. Plain and simple, fear of this abuser can make you feel terrified down to your bones. Despite the fear you are feeling, you can change your life. First understand that the problem is not you. You may have been told over and over again that you "bring out the worst in him" , "Push his buttons" or other brainwashing techniques. You must take them for what they are: a form of controlling you. The next step is to come to complete realization that despite pleading, begging, crying and talking until you are exhausted, you are powerless to control him. All you can control is what you will now do with the situation. You've heard this advice before, and you will hear it again, you can not change anyone! If someone is putting you through emotional Hell, help yourself...you need to ask yourself a very important question...

IS IT WORTH IT? Chances are, if things are so unstable, it is taking a toll on your life. If you find yourself unable to concentrate at work, give proper attention to children, family or good friends, and/or not giving yourself needed attention...then...is it really worth it ? Does someone else deserve the power to make your life so miserable? Why would you want to give that power to someone who is abusive? Don't allow it anymore. If you do not want to spend the rest of your life in "Emotional Hell", take a chance, find the courage and take control of your life. If your life is so unhappy now, do you think it would get worse? The answer is "no". You will begin to live again.

About Your Small Business Website...It's Not Personal
Are you treating your small business website like it's your personal website? Avoid some of the mistakes many small mom-and-pop businesses make with their websites.Do you:-- display family pictures that are unrelated to your business? -- link to all of your personal favorite websites? --have cutesy graphics that appeal to you but don't relate to your business? --have cutesy "web tricks" just because you think they're "fun" or "cool"? --have "shout-outs" to friends and family?There's nothing wrong with adding "personality" to your website. But if you're like most small business owners, your website has a job to do -- grow your business. Don't get in its way or spend effort on things that don't help it achieve that goal! How does your website grow your business? By solving your customers' problems and getting them to trust you enough to give you their time or money.Trust

or upset about a personal situation? Are your opinions worthless to him? Does he pass off your words as if you are nothing? Are you getting blamed for making him upset, but he will never admit that he's does anything wrong? Is the relationship is based on sex, but you sense that that's all it is- sex- and you know it's not thought of as "making love"? All of the above are signs of verbal and/or emotional abuse!

The History of SEO
Based upon what SEO has become in recent years, it may be surprising to some that search engine optimization can trace its roots back to beginning of the internet when the world wide web was nothing more than a relatively small collection of research pages.At this time was when many of the pioneers of internet development and "optimization" were makes the first strides at creating a viable search engine so that the birth of SEO goes hand in hand with the birth of the search engine.In 1990, university student Alan Emtage's search system Archie was introduced and followed by Gopher. Three years, later, the development of search engines was well underway with Mathew Gray's World Wide Web Wanderer. By 1994, modern search engines emerged with the appearance of Lycos, Galaxy and Yahoo. At every step, some form of SEO was tagging along, but it wasn't until 1994 that many companies were beginning to experiment wit

nship by fear or guilt? Do you feel hopeless, lost and worthless? If so, then he achieved what he wanted.

Networking Tips for Mobile Car Washes
If you run a mobile carwash business perhaps you have considered different ways to get new customers? Surely, you realize that most of your business comes from word-of-mouth advertising, however there are other easy inexpensive ways to get business and increase your word-of-mouth advertising.All mobile carwash owners should also been networking with other small-business owners in your town or community. Are you a member of your local Chamber of Commerce? If not, you should be and perhaps you should be a member of a local service club such as the Rotary, Kiwanis, Optimists, Elks or Lions Club.Why not join a committee acted local Chamber of Commerce were you can meet people? For instance why not join the transportation committee and meet all the business owners who own bus companies, taxicabs, rent a car companies or are involved in public transportation.All of these people know people who might s

he worst in him" , "Push his buttons" or other brainwashing techniques. You must take them for what they are: a form of controlling you. The next step is to come to complete realization that despite pleading, begging, crying and talking until you are exhausted, you are powerless to control him. All you can control is what you will now do with the situation. You've heard this advice before, and you will hear it again, you can not change anyone! If someone is putting you through emotional Hell, help yourself...you need to ask yourself a very important question...

I'm Afraid to Tell You What I am Thinking!
Most of us learn to hold back on some of our truths when we first start dating. We might not tell him about our crazy old boyfriend who used to pull our chair out from under us on the first date. We might not tell her that the way she says the world “Insurance” with the inflection in the wrong place drives you crazy. So we learn to hold back truths in the service of getting to know each other and not running her off before we have had a chance to find out if there is more.Over time, if we have any skill at intimate connection, we are able to start disclosing more and more information about our past and our likes and dislikes. But some of us find speaking our truths to our partners a real challenge. We may have a hard time letting them know when they don’t shave it scratches our skin raw. We might struggle with telling them when we have made a huge mistake that we are embarrassed about. Our fear of being seen

WHAT DO YOU DO ? Begin by getting emotionally ready to leave. It helps by thinking back to a time in your life when happiness was the norm. It does not have to be a past relationship...maybe it was a time in your single life when you can remember being happy and feeling free. Do you remember when you didn't feel sick? When you would wake up in the morning and be ready to begin your day - with no aching in your heart? When you would go to sleep at night, feeling at peace? Allow yourself the chance to have that life again. If you decide that you are brave enough to get your life back, make sure to do it completely. No phone calls, no looking back and no regrets. You can have peace again.

Leaving can be one of the most difficult things you will ever do in your life. It requires planning and a huge amount of courage on your part to leave this relationship. Before you leave, bring any proof you have of the abuse. If you have any injuries, ie: bruises, cuts, etc, take pictures of all of them. This will come in handy later, if you go through any processes in the court system. You should definately contact your local court and request a restraining order. Most men who are abusive and act as if they are not scared of anything, will back away from you if threatened with jail time. A restraining order can be immediately ordered, if you go to the police after he has injured you. Do not be afraid that he will get arrested and seek revenge. When he is in jail, that is your safe time to escape.

If you have any family that you can stay with, this is an option. However, if you do not feel safe and are worried that he may bother you, harrass you or even do something worse to you, finding a shelter may be the best option. Check your local directory, ask your local police or go online to find battered woman shelters in your area. These "shelters" are usually pleasant homes, made to protect woman. They appear to be every-day multi-family homes from an outsider's view. Inside is your safe haven to hide, as you begin to prepare for your new life. They will help you with food and clothing if needed. The woman running these shelters can point you in the direction regarding obtaining housing, government help, finding a job, childcare and more.

If you have children and are afraid of having child custody issues, rest assured, in most cases the court system is highly sympathetic to these cases. If you obtain a restraining order, you can have it include your children also. If you will be divorcing this abusive person, you can request that they go through anger management courses before being able to have visitation. You may also request no visitation, based on his abusive behavior. If visitation is ordered, you can then request that the visits are supervised, based on your belief that he could present harm to your children and/or put them in an unhealthy environment.

When you actually start "living" again, the freedom is very sweet. It will not matter if you went from living in a big home while being a housewife to a small apartment and working as a clerk! The freedom is just too sweet to care about those things. If you have children, the joy you will receive knowing that you are raising them in a violent-free atmosphere is irreplaceable.

If you think all of this can not be done, know that it has been done. I have personally lived through all of the above. I am now free, happy and unafraid of life. We can't change the choices we made that brought us to be with the abuser, but we can change what happens next. No looking back, no regrets. Peace be with you.

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