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Attract More Buyers to Your Book: Use Metaphors
Surprise your potential buyers. Give them chocolate frosting!After we entered school we had a lot to learn. We left the sand box, the nap, and the all day playing with our imagination. No wonder we have lost touch with our original, playful, creativity. Now in the information age we expect to read short, concise pieces. Yet, we can, if we play a little, add more of our original ideas to our books if we use metaphor.Metaphor means wedding a word to an image, sound or feeling. Metaphor is a fusing of dissimilar entities into one new image. Metaphor asserts a likeness between two unlike things. Images are word pictures that give language power and richness by involving our senses in the experience. When you wed an image or feeling to something totally unexpected, you produce a new pattern--a metaphor that creates a powerful picture and reader enjoyment.The purpose of metaphor is to intensify your awareness of the image

hallenge, as long as you see it so.
• No pleasure on earth will make you happy for long.
• The purpose of relationship is not happiness
• Everybody is a mirror of you. Like them or not.
• To be loved is to be supported and challenged
• To find happiness through challenge is creativity
• Creativity is beauty, growth and happiness.
• To fix a challenge is to birth sadness.
• Love and stress cannot coexist
• Stillness is love.
• Stillness is not static. It is loving kindness in action
• Humility and immunity are one in the same topic
• Looking for solutions, causes the problems.
• If your partner doesn’t challenge you, life will.
• Death is the symptom of lack of challenge.
• Peace is another word for dead.

To write this material is a non commercial exercise. Because two things drive the steer around the corral. Hope (for an escape) and fear (of the future). That is the basis of the self help industry. Create hope, eliminate fear. But these laws of nature say, “there will always be support and challenge so don’t hope for a life without some unhappiness, and there will always be another discomfort in the future.

But if we spend our life, with false

The Inner Side of Marketing on the Internet to Explode Your Profits!
“Love as principle, order as basis, and progress as end.”AUGUSTE COMTE.To day you stand on the threshold of a new discovery, a personal renewal. You have rediscovered the underlying force that moves the world...In life as well as business on the Internet!Love. you must believe in this all pervading positive force. You are human, so are your customers, most whom you may have never seen face to face! But still, they are HUMAN! In the past you have held back. From now, you will let go. You will let go your ego, and bask in the glow of humility as you willingly let yourself be enveloped in love when you serve your customers.You realize that to experience love, you must give it away. You must give love by way of serving your customers; that you may receive love in return by way of repeat business.‘Give that you may receive.’ Yes, you will give your love without reservation. You will give in abu

When there is something wrong, we need to fix it.
Then, if our business is low in profit, we fix it.
If our leg is broken, or our bowel is blocked, we fix it.
If our car gets stolen, we fix that, we ring the police and insurance
Right?
If we have a back pain, we fix that too, we go to a back doctor.
OR even if our memory is lost, we go to a head doctor.
But sometimes we go to the doctor when there is no problem
Just not happy. And we call this, self help.

Now there are many definitions of “just not happy”. If you go to a person who specializes in ADD, you will have ADD. And if you are not happy, and go to a person who specializes in Depression, no doubt you have depression. And if you go to a seminar that teaches about consciousness, then your unhappiness is caused by unconsciousness. Or if you are unhappy, and go to a seminar on relationships, it’s your relationship that is to blame. And this is why, self help guru’s drive fancy cars. Bu the problem is not caused just by the guru doing “in my theme” diagnosis. You chose the seminar, or the book. Self help, does not necessarily mean self diagnosis.

Beware of any diagnosis. There are millions of experts in “psychology of happiness” who read one Deepak Chopra book, or two, and who will give you advice. Free. Which is what it is usually worth. Maybe you are normal. And the diagnosis just feeds your desire to “brand the problem”. Because usually with a diagnosis comes a solution. At a price. The price is not dollars. The price is time.

To brand a steer at a rodeo, the cowboy, or cowgirl lassoes the steer. Because the steer runs everywhere. It knows it’s going to be captured, and the brand is going to hurt So, it runs. Where does it run? It doesn’t care where it runs. It runs. It runs everywhere where the cowboy or cowgirl is not. The winner of the competition is the cowboy or cowgirl who brands the steer fastest. Because why waste time. Lets get it over with.

Now the steer thinks something is wrong with it. Right? It thinks “oh Shit” I must have food allergy, or hypertension, or mad cow or something, so it goes running around trying to find a solution. But really, there is nothing wrong. In fact if there was something wrong, the steer would be killed and eaten.

So this is the same when I work with people. They are sometimes unhappy. So they read self help books, and go to seminars and get some ideas that something is wrong with them. They learn to walk on hot coals, or break an arrow, or dance to drums. Like the steer, anything is better than the lasso. And even if they read a book they only say that the book was good, if it confirms what they think. So, self diagnosis, and self help is an oxymoron. Just look in a health food shop, many of the people are sick and stay that way because of only one thing, because they think they are sick. They often treat themselves for illness, and therefore never get a chance to be well.

Another way to avoid the lasso, is to become spiritual. That means, for most unhappy people that they can now condemn the cowboy or cowgirl, and not run away. There should be peace and happiness in the world. So instead of really becoming happy, they try to coat the world in a layer of leather, instead of wearing sandals.

What are the parallels between what I do, and the lasso? Maybe the dentist is the better metaphor. You really never ever want to go to the dentist. Although I did meet one lady who had orgasms in the dentist chair. Most of us, go to the dentist, because we have an ache or need a check up. We tried brushing and using fluoride in the water, and cloves, and so many different pain killers, but in the end, really it’s simple. Go to the dentist.

But in the self help industry, well, is there ever a goodbye? If I think I have a problem (AKA the self help guru) then, I always have that need to fix it. And like the steer I will run around and around, reading books, and listening to people who are not happy, in order to get happy. I might even move to a far off country, run away from the challenges, find a new lover, do anything really. But the last thing we want to change, like the last resort of going to the dentist, is our problem.

Here are a few laws, a few simple laws. If you apply these laws, you might change the cause of your own, and others unhappiness. I hope they are of interest to you. Then, instead of trying to fix and make yourself better (which you can’t) you might start to smile and celebrate the beauty of life, by trekking up to the summit of a hill in Nepal, or kiss a baby instead of trying to fix what isn’t broken.

• Everybody spends 50% of their life energy, unhappy.
• All depression is caused by the addiction to happiness
• Blaming yourself or someone else for unhappiness perpetuates it.
• Being right, causes pain.
• For everything you fix, another thing to fix is born
• There is a beauty in challenge, as long as you see it so.
• No pleasure on earth will make you happy for long.
• The purpose of relationship is not happiness
• Everybody is a mirror of you. Like them or not.
• To be loved is to be supported and challenged
• To find happiness through challenge is creativity
• Creativity is beauty, growth and happiness.
• To fix a challenge is to birth sadness.
• Love and stress cannot coexist
• Stillness is love.
• Stillness is not static. It is loving kindness in action
• Humility and immunity are one in the same topic
• Looking for solutions, causes the problems.
• If your partner doesn’t challenge you, life will.
• Death is the symptom of lack of challenge.
• Peace is another word for dead.

But if we spend our life, with false

SEO Keyword Tags - Do You Need SEO Keyword Tags?
SEO or search engine optimization is a process of improving the traffic to your web site usually through search engine results. It is a technique of making your web site such that it is easily located by search engines and is given a high ranking in the search engine results page.Keyword tags are the applicable keywords related with or allocated to a part of information. SEO keyword tags are not made for the visitors going through your web site but as source of information for the web spiders searching your web site. SEO tags are the ones who can make your web site rankings high or lay your web site in the last ranks of any search engine results page. SEO keyword tags are utilized by the search engines to compute the keyword density of the web site, which next assesses the relevancy of the web site's content to the general subject of the web page.Although there are people who do not consider the SEO keyword tags important i

s” who read one Deepak Chopra book, or two, and who will give you advice. Free. Which is what it is usually worth. Maybe you are normal. And the diagnosis just feeds your desire to “brand the problem”. Because usually with a diagnosis comes a solution. At a price. The price is not dollars. The price is time.

But if we spend our life, with false

House Cleaning - The Low Investment Fallacy
You can buy books telling you what a low investment, high growth opportunity residential house cleaning can be. We believe that the house cleaning’s 50% per annum failure rate speaks for itself. It is an attractive industry, but it is the potential for limitless scale and profits from cleaning nice homes, not the misconception about low investment, which makes it attractive. Most certainly the industry does require a low level of investment relative to many specialty retail, restaurant or manufacturing industries, and it has fantastically greater potential for scale, but it is irresponsible for experts to tout prospects for high growth and profits based on an operating model of operating from home with a cell phone and a bucket.We are not saying that entry into our industry requires investment. In fact, for those cleaning themselves, or employing just one or two others to clean with them, it is possible to get into the industry wi

learn to walk on hot coals, or break an arrow, or dance to drums. Like the steer, anything is better than the lasso. And even if they read a book they only say that the book was good, if it confirms what they think. So, self diagnosis, and self help is an oxymoron. Just look in a health food shop, many of the people are sick and stay that way because of only one thing, because they think they are sick. They often treat themselves for illness, and therefore never get a chance to be well.

But if we spend our life, with false

A Guide to Snack Vending Machines
Snack vending machines come in a number of different formats and styles. Most snack machines are see-through or glass-front merchandisers. This is because the customer likes to see what he or she is getting, and likes to be able to browse. Soda machines are usually solid, because most people know what a can of soda looks like and exactly how big it is; however, even that is changing as more manufacturers realize that most consumers think with their eyes. This is especially true of vending machines, where almost every purchase is an impulse purchase. On the other hand, some employees of companies that have vending machines on-site rely on those vending machines every day for a lunch break snack. Some snack vending machines have closed-faced interfaces, but that is rare.You can buy snack machines that dispense only six types of snacks, or you can obtain a machine system with hundreds of choices, that can take up an entire wall. It i

e. Go to the dentist.

But if we spend our life, with false

Is Refinancing A Mortgage Really Worth The Hassle?
There are a few reasons for one considering refinancing a mortgage. Some people think that it is the best way to consolidate debt and some find mortgage refinance as a way to liquidate equity by applying for Cash-Out-Refinance. Refinancing, especially with bad credit may not be solution for your situation due to the high rates and prepayment penalties involved.Refinancing for the Purpose of Improving Credit RatingsLow credit ratings make a mortgage refinance expensive and not always worth while. If you plan on refinancing only to improve your credit score you might find that it isn't the best scheme. Truth of the matter is that you can repair your credit by paying your monthly payments on time. After several months you will see your credit score climb without the need of mortgage refinancing.Reducing Monthly Payments by Refinancing a Bad Credit Mortgage LoanPeople who have an Adjustable Rate Mortgage (ARM) and

But if we spend our life, with false expectation. Based on some movie, like “What the bleep” or we are running toward some mirage of self peace and spirituality which makes our love conditional on getting supported, then we will end up in a box, surrounded by toys, and people who agree with us, and unhappy. Why not have realistic expectations. The cowboy or cowgirl is going to lasso you eventually. They are mother nature. You can’t run from it. If I were that steer. I wouldn’t run. I’d stop, get branded, share the prize money and go back to the coral where the cows are. Realistic expectations, understanding human nature, frees you to love, instead of running around trying to follow some ideal that the author never lived.

Today, learn to laugh at the difficulties, smile at the challenge. Stay silent instead of talk. Listen instead of action. Look for support and challenge in every circumstance and welcome both equally. Learn to love life by having an honest appreciation of the laws that make it so. See where people have filled their head with ideas, which is their right, and will spend the rest of their living days, searching for fantasies. Religious fantasies, relationship fantasies. Blaming the world. See them, as a part of you, and smile. We can’t change the fact that our ego gets off on fantasy, just smile and recognize yourself and instead of reacting, embrace it.

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