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Outside Influences - Who or What is Getting in the Way of Your Success?
When most people start their entrepreneurial journey, they tell almost nobody. These new entrepreneurs are afraid that other people will tell them that being an entrepreneur is not a career choice. They are afraid that people will judge them as “dreamers.” They are afraid that others will tell them that it is not possible. After all of this negative influence, new entrepreneurs begin to believe that success is not possible. They begin to believe that they are on a dead-end path that can only lead to financial hardship. If you let them, these negative influences can alter or even destroy your goals and dreams.Not all outside influences are negative. Many times, friends and family members will support your journey. You have to hold onto these positive influences and block out the negative flack. The positive influences you receive will help fuel your motivation and drive.There are many ways to deal with negative influences. First, you can refrain from telling people about your entrepreneurial journey. The positive side of this choice is that people cannot criticize your choice if they do not know it. The negative side of this choice is that you may be blocking out people who want to support you. You should not have to sacrifice support in order to prevent negative influences.Second, you can ignore the negative influences. This may be easier said than done if the negative influence comes from somebody important to you. However, if you truly desire to achieve your version of success, you can “ignore” the negative influence and explain to that person that your entrepreneurial journey is very important to you. This should prevent any future negativity from that person.Last, you can use the negative influence as motivation. We all know that positive reinforcement helps to motivate; however, some people use negative influences as a means of motivation. These kinds of people use the negativity as fuel for a “I told you so” kind of motivation. These people are motivated for the sole purpose of proving others wrong. I am not a supporter of this type of motivation, because everything you do should be for the benefit of yourself and your loved o

for people who want to be safe and conform. So sex becomes their only outlet. In fact it is not sex or relationship at all that causes this obsession. It is that one moment of release, that moment of emptiness that we call loneliness, that moment of orgasm that causes this obsession. Emptiness is a human desire.

So why does the mind conform? Why are we obsessed with second hand knowledge? Why do we try to create relationships that are built on patterns? to understand these questions we must understand a little more about mind science.

It is quite a strange obsession this need to conform. It is not freedom, which most people aspire to. It is not independence which the spirit wants in order to express it’s love. So the fact that we drive so hard to repeat what others have told us, in bibles and gita books seems to be driven by something very strong, given that the cost is so high.

Credit Card Tips
Credit cards can be a blessing or a curse. Here are some tips to help you keep your credit cards under control.Check your statement carefully each month for errors and possible fraud. Identity theft is common and you only have 60 days to report in writing any disputed charges. As soon as you notice an error, immediately call the issuer’s 800 number reporting your claim and send a letter “certified mail/return receipt requested” confirming your phone conversation.Resist offers for too many cards and higher credit limits. This can work against you when applying for a bank loan, since lenders look not only at your outstanding debt but also at your available credit.If you’re carrying a large balance on several cards, consolidate the total debt onto the card with the lowest interest rate. Use the higher rate card for purchases you intend to pay off each month. Just be sure not to run up new debt on this high interest card.Always pay as much as you can on your debt each month. Credit card companies suggest a minimum payment because that’s how they make their money. Some companies’ minimums are even less than monthly interest due. By paying only the suggested minimum, a $3,000 debt could take as long as thirty years to pay off and cost you thousands of dollars in interest payments.If you’re a good customer, credit card companies want your business and, therefore, are open to negotiation. If you pay in full each month, ask them to waive the annual fee. If you carry a balance and pay on time, ask for a lower interest rate. If you’re offered a card with a truly better deal, ask your present issuer to match the competitive offer. If they’re not willing to negotiate, cancel and switch to the lower interest card.Of course, the best thing you can do is to get credit cards with no annual fee and pay off the total balance on time every month. That’s when credit cards become a real blessing.

Solving problems in relationships requires honesty, integrity and a downright simple understanding of where the answers are not....

1/ Nobody does anything to you more that you do to yourself

2/ Blame doesn’t work

3/ If you can’t go back you are carrying baggage

4/ Sex is not the answer

5/ you are the same person, in or out of relationship

6/ Love is not attachment, control, possession, need or anything like that.

7/ Laughter is health

8/ Busy – ness kills love.

9/ Everything is possible without changing anything.

The person who is in relationship, fearing loneliness, fearing a repeat of the past is committing a very high form of abuse. They are living in an independence, a bubble of delusion unable to open to truth they apply the laws of relationship and set boundaries like this is what I want and this is what I need. and this is what I don’t need. So they are loving with their mind. Mind love is mind games, substituting ideas for investment, substituting their rules for love. In this relationship the hardness of rock can be compared to it. Like a religious seeker, or a devotee, they cannot love, just repeat their priest or guru, and say this is how it is, this is how it shoud be. It’s like western people wearing a sari and saying “I am indian” a false representation. there cannot be love in this situation, only imprisonment of the spirit.

We need a home. We need a physical and emotional home. Yes, this is really important. Emptiness is the lack of a home. We fear emptiness, because now our mind is not validated as representing our home (knowledge and righteousness) our emotions are found to be delusional they are no longer validated as being our home. Our money can be stolen or our possessions lost, so if these are our home we become fearful that our lover will steal our safety, living always in worry and problems. Our dreams are no home, they are hopes and ambitions and blind recitation of second hand knowledge is really no home because it takes so little to debunk it. Emptiness exists behind all this. Behind the bricks and mortar that you call home, behind the veil of your spiritual or religious practice there is loneliness and emptiness. Here is the love that is possible.

Homelessness is Godliness. You won’t want to accept it because your ego will be fighting for it’s own survival. How can I live without the bricks and mortar and the rights and wrongs of my morality? And you are right to argue this. How can you live without the contructions? there is in fact no need to live without them, but the day you validate them as something measurable, something real and significant, then you have forfeit the very reason your own soul incarnated into this life. If there is no love, then all that is really the barrier, there cannot be a God in a heart that cannot love.

We build homes. Titles, trophies, families, wealth, careers, knowledge, we can repeat, store, possess and accumulate so much that if the earth stopped turning we’d still be wealthy. But we cannot build a home to camouflage our emptiness.

Nothing. Empty. A vacuum. A black hole in the universe. A nothingness that is unbarable. The experience of the meditator. the witnessing of the depressed. The hopelessness of the suicide victim. A place condemned by the material surface of the shallow worlds of repition nad conformity, yet, sanctified by those who know love. Santified by all the great teachers, prophets and leaders of depth, emptiness, the place of genius, and brilliance in music, art and mathematics. the empty mind, is the sacred mind, the spirit of the mountain, here, now, empty but for this moment of existence. this is love.

Spirituality applied is the athlete who knows nothing other than this one millisecond of performance. This is the business person who, in a flash knows choices, a child on a swing who goes one swing to far, the love who falls without regard for the cost. This is the magic of love. Emotiness, the highest note sung by a performer.

So rare is this moment in the average life that we have become obsessed with sex. Because in the moment of climax this experience occurs. Months of persuit just for that one moment of climax, manipulation, distortion just for that one moment, when all else goes blank and the world ends. So complex has this become that the average person cannot even invest the effort in partnering for it would bring to much disturbance to their pleasure hunt, and hence they masturbate.

Obsessed with substitution, the average person can fall in love for moments, then, remember how it was forever. They have little preparedness to find the emptiness that guarantees love. If the average person were excited about nothing, inspired by life itself then the trend toward sex and the industry it sporns would be less. But this is not the case. Corporations design jobs for people who want to be safe and conform. So sex becomes their only outlet. In fact it is not sex or relationship at all that causes this obsession. It is that one moment of release, that moment of emptiness that we call loneliness, that moment of orgasm that causes this obsession. Emptiness is a human desire.

Article Traffic - Compelling Article Writing Steps To Generate Traffic III
Keep in mind that the ultimate objective is to generate traffic to your web site, so include a link to your site. You will generally provide this in your ‘bio’ section, often called a ‘resource box’, where you can provide some personal details and a link to your web site. Make sure that when the reader clicks to visit your site, they are sent to a page that is relevant to the topic. That page should also have an opt-in form, and a request to fill it in for more information or even a free gift. You don’t have to sell anything at this stage. Once you have the email address you will be able to sell at your leisure.Now submit your article to as many article directories as you can find. This in itself generates traffic, since you will get one link back to your site for every article accepted by each directory. Search engines value these links, especially if you have designed them to lead back, not to your home page, but to a page inside your site. Google, especially, values internal links to home page links.This stepped approach to article writing is now working to provide you with improved search engine listings that lead to traffic, and also traffic from those who visit your site through the link. It is also helping to build your list. It becomes an even more powerful traffic generator when other people or companies copy your article to their website to use as content. You now have more back links for every time this is done, and the potential for a lot more visitors.This is why it is important that you understand how compelling article writing steps can help you to generate traffic. You get four different ways to generate a massive influx of traffic to your site, but not only that. You can direct that traffic to any page in your web site that you wish to. That is a powerful way in which to use your article writing abilities.

, this is how it shoud be. It’s like western people wearing a sari and saying “I am indian” a false representation. there cannot be love in this situation, only imprisonment of the spirit.

Credit Card Hazards That Can Cripple Your Finances
You are pre-approved! Every time I check my mail there is at least one or two pre-approved credit card applications. You get them too, I'm sure. You can even have terrible credit and they still continue to flood your mailbox. And if you just filed bankruptcy you will get more of them than you know what to do with!Credit card debt is so easy to get into--over and over again. Most people don’t feel like they are spending real money until the bill comes, and then it’s too late. The credit card companies know how to make it very tempting to fall back on any good habits we’ve created and just spend away. It’s hard to get away from, but we have to resist temptation.When establishing good credit, one of the things we’re told to do is to get a credit card and then use it to spend wisely. Experts advise us to pay our bills on time and not to exceed the credit limit. However, no one really talks to us when we get that first card about how easily and quickly we hit that limit, or how easy it is to miss that first monthly payment. Once you get behind, it can be really hard to catch up. Oftentimes, credit cards come with introductory interest rates that are nothing or very low. But many times, those rates soon change and you can find yourself with a full balance on your card with an 18 or 20 percent interest rate! That interest rate can then put you over your limit, if your not paying at least the minimum payment, now making you susceptible to over-the-limit fees. Before you know it, you are getting bad reports on your credit reports for credit card debt on a card that you haven’t even had very long.Unfortunately, when times are hard, abusing credit cards is all too easy. When the economy is bad and cash is tight, it is all too easy to put your daily living expenses on your credit cards. If there is any kind of pattern like this in your credit card spending, it can build huge credit card debt pretty quickly. If you are not making your credit card payments, the credit card companies do inquiries to verify your address or other information. Every time they make an inquiry on your credit report, it makes you look like even more of a high risk, further worsening

s of my morality? And you are right to argue this. How can you live without the contructions? there is in fact no need to live without them, but the day you validate them as something measurable, something real and significant, then you have forfeit the very reason your own soul incarnated into this life. If there is no love, then all that is really the barrier, there cannot be a God in a heart that cannot love.

Winning With Diversity - The Next Phase
*Diversity refers to the broad mix of people currently or soon to be a part of your organization. It exists whenever you encounter anyone who has a view of the world, or "paradigm", different from your own. **Managing diversity is a deliberate effort to create a work environment that allows these differences to contribute equally to the common goals of the organization.Managing diversity emerged as a key strategic issue in the1990's. Unfortunately, for some, it has also emerged as the latest new management fad. As such, there has been a lot a talk recently about the value of diversity training. After all, several companies took a pioneering approach to diversity and were among the first to "do something" to address the issue. Typically, the “something” they tended to latch onto was diversity awareness training. In fact, these companies are now in their second or third year of awareness training on diversity.Diversity training is certainly a necessary part of any diversity initiative, but it is not the only part. How often have you attended a really outstanding training session and have been really turned on by the experience, only to return to the workplace and face the same mess you left. What usually happens is the glow of the training experience quickly fades as you face the reality of your work environment. There has to be more.Recently, many organizations have begun to recognize the value of implementing diversity as a business strategy. Many large corporations (The Prudential Insurance Company, Hewlett-Packard, Alabama Gas Corporation), governmental agencies (Department of Transportation, U.S. Postal Service) and professional associations (bankers, insurance industry, utility executives) are beginning to understand how diversity affects their mission. In fact, many large non-profit service organizations (United Way, Girl Scouts, Habitat for Humanity) have also adopted a diversity strategy as part of their plan for success.Why is diversity on the agenda of so many organizations? Because things have changed. The people served by these organizations have changed. The people working for them have ch

oment of existence. this is love.

List Building – Why Should You List Build?
List building can be one of the most lucrative exercise you perform online, and yet you may be thinking, well, my web site has a conversion rate of 1%, I am making money online without list building, why should I list build?First of all, that is a valid question. And I recommend that when you first begin, rather than making a shift to using squeeze pages instead of sales pages for your entry point, that you create a squeeze page and then split the traffic that you send to your sales page, and send a percentage of it to the new squeeze page.This will allow you to test and track your income per visitor to your sales page, versus your income per visitor to the new squeeze page, and once you are confident that the list will make you more money, then you switch to using the squeeze page exclusively.Let me share with you some hypothetical statistics.Let us initially assume that your unique visitor conversion rate to your sales page is 1%, which is fine.Now, let us assume that instead, you were to funnel your traffic to a squeeze page that converts a visitor into a subscriber at a rate of 33%.So, to break even with your sales page, you need to convert 3% of your subscribers into buyers.Now, I have been able to achieve that conversion rate on some of my sales pages where I will redirect my new subscriber immediately after they have subscribed to my list.After that, you have the opportunity to continue to mail to those subscribers and repeatedly send them to your web sales page, increasing your long term unique visitor sales page conversion rate even more. Also, you now have the opportunity to present similar offers to your subscribers, offering additional income, income you would not have received, had you sent your visitors directly to a sales page.

We conform in order to gain intimacy. Intimacy is associated with security. A person who is insecure will seek intimacy through the process of conformity. This means that the individual is seaching for security through intimacy, and to do this they must label things as safe and unsafe. So, if they are labeled as a bhudist for example it might be safe. They could also label others as safe and unsafe by diagnosing them as depressed or liars. That is how we try to make sense of the world, by giving it a label. then there is security and in security there is intimacy of sorts. It is an open letter demanding conformity to a precedent of principles. Basically a request to ask the lover to lie or die.

Patterns are build out of conformity to a dogma, laws or principles. Patterns overcome fear, so the insecure person will demand patterns. They gain access to security by overcoming their fears by creating patterns for themselves and particularly others to follow. So, these patterns are helpful but they too cost. To live by patterns is to deny internal freedom, to deny love, it is a mind game in which disorder in relationship is guaranteed.

What builds patterns in relationships? Comparison is the first thing. That means that one person might compare themselves and their lover to someone else and demand that they meet that expectation. Like even comparison to how their ex husband or wife was not. We can build expectations out of the opposites can’t we. We can build ideals and models of who we are looking to be with based on who we don’t want to be with. Automatically by doing this we inject the mind into love and then there cannot be love. Can you see this?

Disorder in relationship is poison to it. Understanding can turn chaos to order. So knowledge is the enemy of order. Knowledge is disorder. Fools know everything. That person who knows how it can be, should be or could be done is the fool because this person mistakes knowledge for love. Knowledge blocks love. what you know about somebody only eliminates your insecurity, blocks your fears. Your knowledge is based on your information. That information you can say is wise or unwise but it comes from the mind, whether you call it intuition or not, it comes out and through the mind. So, disorder in the mind, is the result of knowledge, and knowledge comes mostly from experience. Experience is emotional incompleteness until it is love.

Experiences that are anything but love are delusional. So you might say, “I fell out of love with someone” and then want to fall in love with someone else, but you are actually lying to yourself. You became fearful, insecure and therefore you needed some knowledge in order to justify running away from that insecurity and you called them good or bad. But they are not the cause. You are the cause, your insecurity and need for patterns is the cause, because you are unable to face real love.

If you even leave a relationship it is unlikely that it would succeed if you went back because you will now have partial knowledge. You will not have understanding, or if you do, it will be blame and incomplete. Mostly we analyse things in order to know them and justify our judgements of them. To go back to a relationship you must not know anything. To go back, which is the best path, you must really just fall in love and have amnesia. What past? What other lovers? Who would care about such things? Only a person who is afraid of being hurt or afraid of falling down in love.

That is the key you see. Falling down in love is the necessity of it. You must be disappointed in order to really be into the sacredness of love. That void is falling down over and over. It only hurts your ego. Really love cannot hurt, or be hurt, only your ego can be hurt, and isn’t that the mind, getting less and less control so that intimacy can appear. I don’t mean conformity or safety I mean truth.

One lady who came to me for advice was obsessed with lies. She lied to her mother, her father, her ex husband and her lover. She lied to her son and her friends. She wanted patterns that were predicatable in her life so she lied in order to giove people the impression she was a conformist, a patterned individual so that she could have security. Her fear was that if she were honest she would be intimate with people. That intimacy would be real and take the form of love, both acceptance and rejection of herself. She wanted only pleasure in love so she lied. Everybody knew she lied. she thought that they didn’t know. It was real because did get rejected but not for being herself, she got rejected because she lied to everyone.

Those people who want patterns – to conform must surround themselves with fools also. They are looking for more knowledge, actually confirmation of the same wounded knowledge that they possess. They look for flattery, and because of that, there can be no innocence in their life.

An innocent mind, has amnesia. It forgets the past. Not because it is avoiding it ot running away from it but because it has found only love in the past and therefore it sees only one white wall, one clear sheet of paper which it calls the past. The whole past merges into that one clean sheet of p

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The best way to teach is to write. The best way to learn is to read. Who know better to write than Grandma or Grandpa. Who knows better to read than the people that respect them the most. Their children and grandchildren. When you talk or write with friends and relatives it's exciting. You talk about the things you did and the things you love.

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The political system of the United States is based on democratic principles. America has a government ‘of the people, by the people and for the people’ (A. Lincoln). This means that the American people have a choice in making the laws and the right to decide who will be the leader of their nation.

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