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Confidence vs. Arrogance ape with blue sky, vast expanses of tranquil and wonderful oceanic stillness. Beautiful isn’t it. If you were watching TV, reading a magazine, meditating you might not notice it. That stillness is your true nature and you can’t experience that by relaxing in front of TV. It requires a certain tension to find it. Now imagine you are in the scene, now you are on the water in a boat, now there is a different perspective, now it is not a scene but an experience of a scene, there is a sense of self consciousness. Now you will tell me how it feels to be in that scene. One is the spontaneous awareness of a scene, the other is a personal experience “I” .When you think of a true leader do you envision someone with the quiet confidence of Michael Dell or the blatant arrogance of Donald Trump? In the competitive world of business a reserved attitude of humility can often be misinterpreted as a sign of weakness. However if you’ve ever negotiated with a truly confident and humble person you’ll find that their resolve is often much greater than the feigned confidence of the arrogant.Great contrasting examples of confidence vs. arrogance as it applies to leadership would be the quite confidence of World War II General’s Omar Bradley and Dwight Eisenhower vs. the often outrageous arrogance of General’s George Patton and Douglas MacArthur. All four were great strategists and tacticians, but two of the four definitely went down in history as better leaders who commanded greater loyalty and respect from peers and subordinates alike.The truth of the matter is that few things have inspired and motivated me over the years like the quiet confidence and humility of great leaders. I would much rather listen to the self-deprecating humor of confident person making fun of themselves than the mean spirited attacks of an arrogant person waged at someone else’s expense. More importantly, I would much rather work for, or along side of, the understated than the overstated.While arrogant people can and often do succeed in business I believe that it comes at a great personal and professional cost. Arrogance rarely results in lasting relationships built on a foundation of loyalty and trust. Rather arrogant people typically find themselves surrounded by exploitive individuals who are all to happy to ride the “gravy-train” in good times, but at the first sign of trouble all you will see is their backs as they run This is the difference between who you are naturally and who you become with ego. The ego creates self consciousness, a sense of ME in everything. When we are “in” every scene, the dialogue is “me, me ,me ,me, I, I, I, I , I” the conversation is I feel this, I believe this, I want this, I like that, I am doing this and soon I will be doing that. It is my business, my house, my cat, my dog” In this dialogue you and everything around you are merged, inseparable. You will even say “my children” The benefit of this conversation is that you take everything personally so you are highly self conscious about what you do. The problem is that you expect this “Me, or that I, to be fixed and rigid. You build your life around “mine, My, our, me, I, us”. That is akin to saying the boat in the ocean is fixed and the ocean is happening around it. Or, more poignantly, sitting on earth, which is spinning through space, and saying, “ah look at all the stars in space spinning around my earth, me, my home” The ego thinks it i Attributes of a Good Outsource Manufacturing Partner J came to me totally turulated, her husband had packed up and left her. She was distraught. She described the disaster in a way you’d expect her to. He did this and I feel that, and poor me and nasty him. I said to her “you only have two choices, see this differently or just give it time. You can’t change the reality that he left, you can only change how you deal with it” She didn’t want to wait for the three years it takes to get over most dramas, she wanted to get through this now, permanently and without holding anger for the rest of her life. It took 2 hours.Careful consideration must be given when choosing and working with an outsource manufacturing partner. Although each situation is unique, there are common characteristics that make for a reliable outsource partner.One company that carefully analyzed the determining factors of a successful outsource partnership is VIASYS Healthcare, a global leader in health care technology. VIASYS manufacturers, markets, and services medical devices, instruments, and medical/surgical products for use in respiratory care, neurocare, medical systems, and orthopedics. VIASYS is known for its solid history of innovation, superior product performance, and a commitment to customer service, yet they achieved this success while outsourcing more than 75 % of the assembly of each of its product lines. To complicate matters even more, VIASYS currently outsources to Canada, Mexico, the United Kingdom, Germany, Italy, China, and Thailand. Their two biggest outsourcing facilities are in China and Guadalajara, Mexico.Managing this many outsource relationships is a huge task and required them to create a criterion matrix to choose and measure their different outsource partners. After careful consideration, they focused on four major criterions: Quality (the most important), Cost Savings, Work Relationships, and Geography (the least important). Specifically, the criterion is defined as follows:Quality: Within each outsourcing facility quality and control tests are done for each product by the team of Operations and a team of Supply and Quality engineers. If the products do not pass the control tests, the product is discharged. Product testing and inspection is very critical for VIASYS since they provide health care products that consumers rely on for life support. Cost This second law of nature challenges our conventional way of looking at things. The ego sees the world and thinks how can I change it, your true nature sees the world as asks how can I change my attitude to it. In other words the ego wants the world to look how it sees right, and to look less like it sees wrong. Whereas the true nature, knows the world is perfect and it is our ego that’s screwed up. The two most important words for the ego, are blame and victim. The two enemies of our true nature are blame and victim, because by using these two instruments of deception we can avoid what nature intended. We can avoid growth. We need to make a choice around how we are going to think about life. To think one way when all is going well, and another when all is not going well is delusional. There are those who don’t have any interest in spiritual practice or healing, until something goes wrong. But this is a delusion of the ego, it wants an all upside existence. When all is great “who cares about balance”? When all is crappy, “I do” but this individual does not understand the teaching of natural law. It says that the downer they are trying to heal with balance, was caused by imbalance. It is a way of life, this balanced thinking, not just a one off flash in the pan when life is crappy. P came to me for help. He was a tennis pro and was rated in the worlds top 100. He was having periods of depression after tournaments. We looked at the process of his thinking and it was all based on winning. When he won he was as high as a kite, but after he was low and depressed. I explained the laws of balance, uppers and downers, he got it. I said so are you going to cool your celebrations of uppers. He replied “no way, now I know what causes the downers, it’s ok, I’ll just take a few days off with my dog on the beach to let them go through me.” We make choices, if those choices are about accepting rather than fighting reality, we have grown. More than a better or worse way to be in the world, this second law of nature is about how to think about our choices, have real expectations and stay centered in life. We all want to deal with the challenges of life in the best and most effective way possible. To deal with the dramas as they happen and stay open hearted and devoted to our family and work. We don’t want problems, especially the same ones recurring over and over. Yet, for the most part they do. We can change our city, change our lover, change our job but nothing helps in the long term, until we change the way we think about things. For me, it is like not being bitten by the same dog twice. If something happens that disturbs my heart or mind, I try to find the cause so that it won’t be an issue if it happens again. I went through a divorce that hurt. I healed my pain after 2 years but didn’t want it all to happen again. Or, if it did happen again, I didn’t want to nearly die like that first time again. So, I studied the science of letting go, of relationship and applied the laws of nature to the whole thing. After getting past blame and victim, which took another 2 years I found the answers and since then, I have had several important relationships break and Instead of becoming vitriolic, I have been able to stay loving all the way through those breakups. It still hurts, but I know how to deal with the hurt so much faster. In knowing the difference between my constructed ego, conditioned responses and true nature, drama has become an opportunity to grow through my own blockages. Like one relationship where I invested over $150,000 in a business together and when we broke up she took my half of the business. I looked at it from a different viewpoint, not a victim (she took) instead of invested (helped her). This way, I didn’t waste my whole energy fighting in court and got back to living with love. I stay friends with her even now. Really is shouldn’t take more than an hour or so to deal with this stuff, instead of years of resentment. Nature never grows in straight lines. Every day the weather is different. Trees grow fast one season and slow the next. It seems, if we observe that nature grows in cycles, and we see these cycles are between chaos and order, (same as challenge and support, growth and rejuvenation) that our lives too, have periods of calm and periods of turmoil. Some people think that turmoil is normal and productive, others think that calm is normal and productive. But neither is true. There is a tension which is called life, that tension is an active tension, a joyful bright and affirmative tension. Below that tension, life becomes slothful and valueless, self depreciating. Above that tension life becomes stressful, hyperactive and rigid. Your body knows the difference. Jammed shoulders and stiff necks come from hyper tension obesity and “pot belly” come from sloth. Your body knows the ideal tension. So it is not a matter of avoiding tension or challenge because this is just one side of natures coin. Nor is a matter of infatuation with sloth and peace. Maximum growth occurs between too much and too little tension and we, like nature will swing along this path, making adjustments as we go. Those infatuated with peace will get huge challenge. Those infatuated with challenge will get huge peace. H came to me. He had a stroke some 12 months before and was undertaking remedial work to get functionality back into his body and mind. He wanted to heal at the cause, and we discussed the sudden “rest” that he had been given by nature. “I was always healthy, happy, working on the business, keeping fit, doing yoga. I can’t understand why me” I asked “ how much of your life was devoted to just being. To just being you” He replied “ we used to go on holidays and I would watch the TV every night with my wife” I responded “yes, that is not what I am talking about. I mean closing down, really concentrating on rest, allowing your whole being to be in the moment” He replied “I don’t understand what you are talking about” I said “I know and welcome to a stroke” Imagine a magnificent ocean, a wide expanse of magnificent seascape with blue sky, vast expanses of tranquil and wonderful oceanic stillness. Beautiful isn’t it. If you were watching TV, reading a magazine, meditating you might not notice it. That stillness is your true nature and you can’t experience that by relaxing in front of TV. It requires a certain tension to find it. Now imagine you are in the scene, now you are on the water in a boat, now there is a different perspective, now it is not a scene but an experience of a scene, there is a sense of self consciousness. Now you will tell me how it feels to be in that scene. One is the spontaneous awareness of a scene, the other is a personal experience “I” . This is the difference between who you are naturally and who you become with ego. The ego creates self consciousness, a sense of ME in everything. When we are “in” every scene, the dialogue is “me, me ,me ,me, I, I, I, I , I” the conversation is I feel this, I believe this, I want this, I like that, I am doing this and soon I will be doing that. It is my business, my house, my cat, my dog” In this dialogue you and everything around you are merged, inseparable. You will even say “my children” The benefit of this conversation is that you take everything personally so you are highly self conscious about what you do. The problem is that you expect this “Me, or that I, to be fixed and rigid. You build your life around “mine, My, our, me, I, us”. That is akin to saying the boat in the ocean is fixed and the ocean is happening around it. Or, more poignantly, sitting on earth, which is spinning through space, and saying, “ah look at all the stars in space spinning around my earth, me, my home” The ego thinks it i Getting Published in Fantasy - Why is it so Hard? al law. It says that the downer they are trying to heal with balance, was caused by imbalance. It is a way of life, this balanced thinking, not just a one off flash in the pan when life is crappy.Fantasy is a genre where most books are produced by a very few (big) publishing houses in the UK and USA. These are the houses that can afford to take the risk on large print runs because they have many other titles too. They produce a few fantasy titles (bad luck, authors) in big volume. Big volume is necessary for most kinds of book printing, but fantasy is the most critical, certainly within fiction.Let's see why. I'm a fantasy fan. I won't buy a fantasy title unless it is (a) thicker than a doorstop (b) reasonably priced. I don't buy hardcovers or large format (expensive) paperbacks - I look for that small fat little book which opens up to a world where I can get lost for days and days. The fatter the better.Mass-produced magicSo to sell, the fantasy book needs to be long, most often double or triple the length of the common novel. That means it costs almost three times the amount to produce. And yet, the average selling price for these books is very close to that of your mainstream fiction titles. So you've got a product which has a low selling price and a high cost price. The only way to get your cost per book down is to drive the size of the print run up. Short runs or on-demand printing just don't work when you've got a 650+ page book.Mass markets mean lower pricesIn a niche market (like non-fiction - Paragliding in South Africa) you could sell a book that thick for R350 ($50 or ?24) because there is limited competition and the information has high value to a small number of people. In a mass market such as 'fiction', even 'fantasy fiction', there are so many wonderful books out there which your title will compete with, and they dictate the price - as set by the mass market P came to me for help. He was a tennis pro and was rated in the worlds top 100. He was having periods of depression after tournaments. We looked at the process of his thinking and it was all based on winning. When he won he was as high as a kite, but after he was low and depressed. I explained the laws of balance, uppers and downers, he got it. I said so are you going to cool your celebrations of uppers. He replied “no way, now I know what causes the downers, it’s ok, I’ll just take a few days off with my dog on the beach to let them go through me.” We make choices, if those choices are about accepting rather than fighting reality, we have grown. More than a better or worse way to be in the world, this second law of nature is about how to think about our choices, have real expectations and stay centered in life. We all want to deal with the challenges of life in the best and most effective way possible. To deal with the dramas as they happen and stay open hearted and devoted to our family and work. We don’t want problems, especially the same ones recurring over and over. Yet, for the most part they do. We can change our city, change our lover, change our job but nothing helps in the long term, until we change the way we think about things. For me, it is like not being bitten by the same dog twice. If something happens that disturbs my heart or mind, I try to find the cause so that it won’t be an issue if it happens again. I went through a divorce that hurt. I healed my pain after 2 years but didn’t want it all to happen again. Or, if it did happen again, I didn’t want to nearly die like that first time again. So, I studied the science of letting go, of relationship and applied the laws of nature to the whole thing. After getting past blame and victim, which took another 2 years I found the answers and since then, I have had several important relationships break and Instead of becoming vitriolic, I have been able to stay loving all the way through those breakups. It still hurts, but I know how to deal with the hurt so much faster. In knowing the difference between my constructed ego, conditioned responses and true nature, drama has become an opportunity to grow through my own blockages. Like one relationship where I invested over $150,000 in a business together and when we broke up she took my half of the business. I looked at it from a different viewpoint, not a victim (she took) instead of invested (helped her). This way, I didn’t waste my whole energy fighting in court and got back to living with love. I stay friends with her even now. Really is shouldn’t take more than an hour or so to deal with this stuff, instead of years of resentment. Nature never grows in straight lines. Every day the weather is different. Trees grow fast one season and slow the next. It seems, if we observe that nature grows in cycles, and we see these cycles are between chaos and order, (same as challenge and support, growth and rejuvenation) that our lives too, have periods of calm and periods of turmoil. Some people think that turmoil is normal and productive, others think that calm is normal and productive. But neither is true. There is a tension which is called life, that tension is an active tension, a joyful bright and affirmative tension. Below that tension, life becomes slothful and valueless, self depreciating. Above that tension life becomes stressful, hyperactive and rigid. Your body knows the difference. Jammed shoulders and stiff necks come from hyper tension obesity and “pot belly” come from sloth. Your body knows the ideal tension. So it is not a matter of avoiding tension or challenge because this is just one side of natures coin. Nor is a matter of infatuation with sloth and peace. Maximum growth occurs between too much and too little tension and we, like nature will swing along this path, making adjustments as we go. Those infatuated with peace will get huge challenge. Those infatuated with challenge will get huge peace. H came to me. He had a stroke some 12 months before and was undertaking remedial work to get functionality back into his body and mind. He wanted to heal at the cause, and we discussed the sudden “rest” that he had been given by nature. “I was always healthy, happy, working on the business, keeping fit, doing yoga. I can’t understand why me” I asked “ how much of your life was devoted to just being. To just being you” He replied “ we used to go on holidays and I would watch the TV every night with my wife” I responded “yes, that is not what I am talking about. I mean closing down, really concentrating on rest, allowing your whole being to be in the moment” He replied “I don’t understand what you are talking about” I said “I know and welcome to a stroke” Imagine a magnificent ocean, a wide expanse of magnificent seascape with blue sky, vast expanses of tranquil and wonderful oceanic stillness. Beautiful isn’t it. If you were watching TV, reading a magazine, meditating you might not notice it. That stillness is your true nature and you can’t experience that by relaxing in front of TV. It requires a certain tension to find it. Now imagine you are in the scene, now you are on the water in a boat, now there is a different perspective, now it is not a scene but an experience of a scene, there is a sense of self consciousness. Now you will tell me how it feels to be in that scene. One is the spontaneous awareness of a scene, the other is a personal experience “I” . This is the difference between who you are naturally and who you become with ego. The ego creates self consciousness, a sense of ME in everything. When we are “in” every scene, the dialogue is “me, me ,me ,me, I, I, I, I , I” the conversation is I feel this, I believe this, I want this, I like that, I am doing this and soon I will be doing that. It is my business, my house, my cat, my dog” In this dialogue you and everything around you are merged, inseparable. You will even say “my children” The benefit of this conversation is that you take everything personally so you are highly self conscious about what you do. The problem is that you expect this “Me, or that I, to be fixed and rigid. You build your life around “mine, My, our, me, I, us”. That is akin to saying the boat in the ocean is fixed and the ocean is happening around it. Or, more poignantly, sitting on earth, which is spinning through space, and saying, “ah look at all the stars in space spinning around my earth, me, my home” The ego thinks it i The Struggle Against Bad Credit orce that hurt. I healed my pain after 2 years but didn’t want it all to happen again. Or, if it did happen again, I didn’t want to nearly die like that first time again. So, I studied the science of letting go, of relationship and applied the laws of nature to the whole thing. After getting past blame and victim, which took another 2 years I found the answers and since then, I have had several important relationships break and Instead of becoming vitriolic, I have been able to stay loving all the way through those breakups. It still hurts, but I know how to deal with the hurt so much faster.The number of Americans struggling with bad credit is not showing any signs of decreasing. Rather this segment of the American population is rising in numbers. This reality, does not come as a surprise to most people.Most consumers can attest to the fact that rising health insurance costs, gas prices, education fees, rent and mortgages costs are taking a toll on the best of us. Add this predicament to job cuts, low increases in pay and your have a perfect storm of consumers relying on their credit cards and loans to pay for their everyday expenses.If you’ve been through the pain of a car repossession, bankruptcy or foreclosure – you may feel like, you will never get out of the hole.This is not true.The key to restoring your financial health is to understand that the situation is temporary. Bad credit is not a permanent situation. Your FICO score is an indication of how you’ve handled lines of credit, in the past. What this means is that, if you are serious about fixing your credit, you can get a new line of credit and start paying your bills on time. This will prove to your creditors that you are responsible.If you have not done so already, you can get a copy of your government credit report – it’s free per the Fair Credit Reporting Act (FCRA). Your credit report will detail any loans and credit card bills that are delinquent and/or in good standing.Anytime, is a good time to start rebuilding your credit. Start today. In knowing the difference between my constructed ego, conditioned responses and true nature, drama has become an opportunity to grow through my own blockages. Like one relationship where I invested over $150,000 in a business together and when we broke up she took my half of the business. I looked at it from a different viewpoint, not a victim (she took) instead of invested (helped her). This way, I didn’t waste my whole energy fighting in court and got back to living with love. I stay friends with her even now. Really is shouldn’t take more than an hour or so to deal with this stuff, instead of years of resentment. Nature never grows in straight lines. Every day the weather is different. Trees grow fast one season and slow the next. It seems, if we observe that nature grows in cycles, and we see these cycles are between chaos and order, (same as challenge and support, growth and rejuvenation) that our lives too, have periods of calm and periods of turmoil. Some people think that turmoil is normal and productive, others think that calm is normal and productive. But neither is true. There is a tension which is called life, that tension is an active tension, a joyful bright and affirmative tension. Below that tension, life becomes slothful and valueless, self depreciating. Above that tension life becomes stressful, hyperactive and rigid. Your body knows the difference. Jammed shoulders and stiff necks come from hyper tension obesity and “pot belly” come from sloth. Your body knows the ideal tension. So it is not a matter of avoiding tension or challenge because this is just one side of natures coin. Nor is a matter of infatuation with sloth and peace. Maximum growth occurs between too much and too little tension and we, like nature will swing along this path, making adjustments as we go. Those infatuated with peace will get huge challenge. Those infatuated with challenge will get huge peace. H came to me. He had a stroke some 12 months before and was undertaking remedial work to get functionality back into his body and mind. He wanted to heal at the cause, and we discussed the sudden “rest” that he had been given by nature. “I was always healthy, happy, working on the business, keeping fit, doing yoga. I can’t understand why me” I asked “ how much of your life was devoted to just being. To just being you” He replied “ we used to go on holidays and I would watch the TV every night with my wife” I responded “yes, that is not what I am talking about. I mean closing down, really concentrating on rest, allowing your whole being to be in the moment” He replied “I don’t understand what you are talking about” I said “I know and welcome to a stroke” Imagine a magnificent ocean, a wide expanse of magnificent seascape with blue sky, vast expanses of tranquil and wonderful oceanic stillness. Beautiful isn’t it. If you were watching TV, reading a magazine, meditating you might not notice it. That stillness is your true nature and you can’t experience that by relaxing in front of TV. It requires a certain tension to find it. Now imagine you are in the scene, now you are on the water in a boat, now there is a different perspective, now it is not a scene but an experience of a scene, there is a sense of self consciousness. Now you will tell me how it feels to be in that scene. One is the spontaneous awareness of a scene, the other is a personal experience “I” . This is the difference between who you are naturally and who you become with ego. The ego creates self consciousness, a sense of ME in everything. When we are “in” every scene, the dialogue is “me, me ,me ,me, I, I, I, I , I” the conversation is I feel this, I believe this, I want this, I like that, I am doing this and soon I will be doing that. It is my business, my house, my cat, my dog” In this dialogue you and everything around you are merged, inseparable. You will even say “my children” The benefit of this conversation is that you take everything personally so you are highly self conscious about what you do. The problem is that you expect this “Me, or that I, to be fixed and rigid. You build your life around “mine, My, our, me, I, us”. That is akin to saying the boat in the ocean is fixed and the ocean is happening around it. Or, more poignantly, sitting on earth, which is spinning through space, and saying, “ah look at all the stars in space spinning around my earth, me, my home” The ego thinks it i No Fax Instant Payday Loans neither is true.No fax instant payday loans help people who live from one payday to the next. One may need cash in a hurry when they have an unexpected financial crisis. An instant payday loan is just like any other payday loan, only that you get it very quickly with no fax required through an online payday lender.In most other cases, when you are trying to have your loan application processed, you need to go through a lot of paper work and loan officers, who more often than not, slow up the process. In any case, you are looking for a small amount loan to tide you over your short-term financial emergency, and these long-winded processes unnecessarily cause delays, which could be irritating. This is another reason why no fax instant payday loan is very popular. It cuts through all the delays.Instant Payday Loan – Quick And EasyOne reason why an instant payday loan is quick and easy to obtain is that it does not involve a credit check. There are certain requirements to qualify for such a loan, such as proof of a job and the minimum salary requirements, having a checking account, and your being above the legal age of 18. Your credit rating is no bar on your qualification for getting an instant payday loan.You need to borrow money and need to return it by your next payday. You have to pay a small fee, of course. A payday loan lender, who gives you your loan instantly, normally charges between $10 and $20 for every $100 you borrow.Unlike the traditional loans, which at times take a long time for There is a tension which is called life, that tension is an active tension, a joyful bright and affirmative tension. Below that tension, life becomes slothful and valueless, self depreciating. Above that tension life becomes stressful, hyperactive and rigid. Your body knows the difference. Jammed shoulders and stiff necks come from hyper tension obesity and “pot belly” come from sloth. Your body knows the ideal tension. So it is not a matter of avoiding tension or challenge because this is just one side of natures coin. Nor is a matter of infatuation with sloth and peace. Maximum growth occurs between too much and too little tension and we, like nature will swing along this path, making adjustments as we go. Those infatuated with peace will get huge challenge. Those infatuated with challenge will get huge peace. H came to me. He had a stroke some 12 months before and was undertaking remedial work to get functionality back into his body and mind. He wanted to heal at the cause, and we discussed the sudden “rest” that he had been given by nature. “I was always healthy, happy, working on the business, keeping fit, doing yoga. I can’t understand why me” I asked “ how much of your life was devoted to just being. To just being you” He replied “ we used to go on holidays and I would watch the TV every night with my wife” I responded “yes, that is not what I am talking about. I mean closing down, really concentrating on rest, allowing your whole being to be in the moment” He replied “I don’t understand what you are talking about” I said “I know and welcome to a stroke” Imagine a magnificent ocean, a wide expanse of magnificent seascape with blue sky, vast expanses of tranquil and wonderful oceanic stillness. Beautiful isn’t it. If you were watching TV, reading a magazine, meditating you might not notice it. That stillness is your true nature and you can’t experience that by relaxing in front of TV. It requires a certain tension to find it. Now imagine you are in the scene, now you are on the water in a boat, now there is a different perspective, now it is not a scene but an experience of a scene, there is a sense of self consciousness. Now you will tell me how it feels to be in that scene. One is the spontaneous awareness of a scene, the other is a personal experience “I” . This is the difference between who you are naturally and who you become with ego. The ego creates self consciousness, a sense of ME in everything. When we are “in” every scene, the dialogue is “me, me ,me ,me, I, I, I, I , I” the conversation is I feel this, I believe this, I want this, I like that, I am doing this and soon I will be doing that. It is my business, my house, my cat, my dog” In this dialogue you and everything around you are merged, inseparable. You will even say “my children” The benefit of this conversation is that you take everything personally so you are highly self conscious about what you do. The problem is that you expect this “Me, or that I, to be fixed and rigid. You build your life around “mine, My, our, me, I, us”. That is akin to saying the boat in the ocean is fixed and the ocean is happening around it. Or, more poignantly, sitting on earth, which is spinning through space, and saying, “ah look at all the stars in space spinning around my earth, me, my home” The ego thinks it i Applying Student Loan Consolidation Online ape with blue sky, vast expanses of tranquil and wonderful oceanic stillness. Beautiful isn’t it. If you were watching TV, reading a magazine, meditating you might not notice it. That stillness is your true nature and you can’t experience that by relaxing in front of TV. It requires a certain tension to find it. Now imagine you are in the scene, now you are on the water in a boat, now there is a different perspective, now it is not a scene but an experience of a scene, there is a sense of self consciousness. Now you will tell me how it feels to be in that scene. One is the spontaneous awareness of a scene, the other is a personal experience “I” .It is important to know the benefits of applying to consolidate your student loans online via the internet. First of all, if you apply your student loan consolidation online, it really makes a confusing process much simpler. You can always get help from the loan experts on the site of your choice to help you decide what sort of offer is best for you. You might feel a little bit overwhelmed and often think that it is a hard and complicated process, but the truth is, it is really easy. Just click through the forms and fill them out. 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If you still have doubts, do check out the company with the Better Business Bureau and Google their name for blog posts on scam watch websites. This is to make sure that the company is a real established company and not some scam websites.You can still continue to make your payments as usual unless the website you've chosen This is the difference between who you are naturally and who you become with ego. The ego creates self consciousness, a sense of ME in everything. When we are “in” every scene, the dialogue is “me, me ,me ,me, I, I, I, I , I” the conversation is I feel this, I believe this, I want this, I like that, I am doing this and soon I will be doing that. It is my business, my house, my cat, my dog” In this dialogue you and everything around you are merged, inseparable. You will even say “my children” The benefit of this conversation is that you take everything personally so you are highly self conscious about what you do. The problem is that you expect this “Me, or that I, to be fixed and rigid. You build your life around “mine, My, our, me, I, us”. That is akin to saying the boat in the ocean is fixed and the ocean is happening around it. Or, more poignantly, sitting on earth, which is spinning through space, and saying, “ah look at all the stars in space spinning around my earth, me, my home” The ego thinks it is the center and that all else is floating past. It has opinions about everything and will give advice but rarely receive it unless it agrees with pre existing beliefs. So the ego becomes rigid, it becomes solid, or at least people hope that it is solid. Then, challenge happens and the only way to stay solid, is to accuse the ocean of making a mistake, or the stars for holding a full moon, or the past life for bringing bad karma. All blame so that the ego, which is really nothing but a collection of erroneous beliefs, can stay rigid and fixed. This is like a tree in the forest refusing to bend when the wind blows, because “that wind should never be blowing here in the first place” Y’s origins are European. Her heritage is Catholic and her mother died recently. Her mother was 90 years old and had cancer. The mother died overnight with very little discomfort. Y went into drama and grief, she held that grief for months and months. When she finally came to me for a consult I asked why. Her answer was “because this is normal for our culture” I asked her what she wanted from me and her response was “I want to forget my mother because it is time to get over this grief” I said “That is not how you get over grief, grief isn’t necessary in the first place” Her response was “it is in my family” I offered my condolences and told her I couldn’t help. When the way things are becomes fixed, we have no way to change the consequence. When the ego becomes so fixed, it is like calcification in the muscles of our body, no blood can travel there, so no healing can take place. Similarly, when the ego becomes rigid, no love, no consciousness can travel there, only rigid thoughts can enter. So, whether that lady Y, sat on the couch, watched TV, or did yoga meditation for the next 10 years, the ego was fixed, her beliefs unquestionable, nothing could penetrate her ego. Only her own death could make that shift. We want something solid to base our life upon, but we have forgotten who we really are so we have started basing our life on that sense of I, or Me, or we. We have begun to believe that the intangible, flexible, ever changing, ever growing, adaptive ego, is fixed and so all the worlds problems become the conquest between egos. Your thoughts, which you think are “right” and my thoughts which you think are “wrong” and your right to act to change or exclude me. Instead of this ego based thinking you can wake every day, ignorant. Yes, that is what I said, ignorant. You can wake every day as if you know nothing about anyone. You can enter the world open minded, open hearted, treating every challenge as an opportunity to expand your ignorance, and therefore become wiser, rather than righter. This chapter lists those opportunities and helps you grow, evolve and mature through them, rather than fix and avoid. F, came to me for a consultation. He was a corporate tycoon and had a net worth of over a billion dollars. He was in his 50’s and his partner was in her 20’s. He was an athletic, clever and ethical businessman, with what seemed to be a quite stable existence. But, he was addicted to alcohol. The first 2 consultations we had, he turned up drunk so I refused to work with him. Finally we made an appointment at 7.ooam and managed to share the morning. I opened the meeting. “so tell me where you are at”
F cried right there in front of me, for 10 minutes he cried. Me “wake up each day and ask, how can I take more responsibility. When a person starts looking to retire from responsibility, they retire from growth and life. And nature destroys anything that isn’t fulfilling its purpose. Purpose means growth. Chaos and order.
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