us resentful. We have to process the negative stuff so it doesn’t block our love. It is like moving sand through the hourglass. In the top is the ego. In the bottom is love. We take the experiences at the top, everyday emotion, and move them to love. The more we process through the hourglass, the bigger our love can be.

Emotion is therefore the language of the ego. Emotion is the most wonderful honesty about how you feel, think and see life. But if you think your emotions are anything but a witnessing of your own “unconsciousness”, you may have a big problem in life. Emotions block love. No relationship, sacred or otherwise, can thrive when a couple considers their emotion

Emotion is energy in motion. It swings between right and wrong, attracted and repelled and it is, at the base of the cone, as far away from love as you can emotionally reach. This emotional consciousness is “I’ve got to” do this and “I have to” do that, really violent and polarized positions.

Most of this comes from taking the moral high ground. We are basically saying, “I blame your actions for how I feel”.

People avoid the confrontation that love brings using blame. This moral high ground, high above the rocky swamps of real life communication, is designed to avoid love. To stay dry, while all else is wet, to keep the ego fully intact, avoid dealing with the issues that created it, and blame (judge) others for causing how a person feels.

“You did this and caused me to feel upset”. This is a righteous heart. This person will be so hard on them self, they will probably have to be single. The more willing you are to say, “I don’t know, or maybe”, the less righteous you are, the less emotional your swings of emotion. As your emotional swings get smaller and smaller, less energy is spent on being right, and more energy is spent on growing and staying in love.

People who use blame throw hand grenades and send barbs at the “enemy” in order to stay hidden. The more the “enemy” reacts to their blame, the bigger their sand banks get, and that sand bank is called righteousness. Those right people build big bunkers and only invite friends who agree with them in to the bunker. If you are the lover, you are the enemy. Then they go find a seminar or a book and say “I enjoyed that book or seminar” only if it agrees with their position on life. And if it doesn’t agree with them they say “that teacher was too intellectual or I don’t like that way of thinking” really, all they are doing is building bunkers and putting up more sand bags. The sad thing is what they are blocking, is love. Bunkered in, safe, they can’t relax because love lets people in.

The first principle in Natural Law, that there are two sides to everything, including you, your partner and your relationship, there is nothing to change, only something to love. The wisest thing you can do is to say, “What I judge in you I judge in me”. Hold your hand out in front of you, make a fist, and point only one finger at someone, then look and see how many fingers are pointing back at you. This is what self-righteousness causes. You are actually judging yourself, when you blame others.

So, we use challenges to grow love. Every time we get challenged, emotionally negative, we process it, and turn it into love. That way, we stay in the honeymood. We can’t just ignore the negative stuff because it builds up, causes abuse, and makes us resentful. We have to process the negative stuff so it doesn’t block our love. It is like moving sand through the hourglass. In the top is the ego. In the bottom is love. We take the experiences at the top, everyday emotion, and move them to love. The more we process through the hourglass, the bigger our love can be.

Emotion is therefore the language of the ego. Emotion is the most wonderful honesty about how you feel, think and see life. But if you think your emotions are anything but a witnessing of your own “unconsciousness”, you may have a big problem in life. Emotions block love. No relationship, sacred or otherwise, can thrive when a couple considers their emotions

that created it, and blame (judge) others for causing how a person feels.

“You did this and caused me to feel upset”. This is a righteous heart. This person will be so hard on them self, they will probably have to be single. The more willing you are to say, “I don’t know, or maybe”, the less righteous you are, the less emotional your swings of emotion. As your emotional swings get smaller and smaller, less energy is spent on being right, and more energy is spent on growing and staying in love.

People who use blame throw hand grenades and send barbs at the “enemy” in order to stay hidden. The more the “enemy” reacts to their blame, the bigger their sand banks get, and that sand bank is called righteousness. Those right people build big bunkers and only invite friends who agree with them in to the bunker. If you are the lover, you are the enemy. Then they go find a seminar or a book and say “I enjoyed that book or seminar” only if it agrees with their position on life. And if it doesn’t agree with them they say “that teacher was too intellectual or I don’t like that way of thinking” really, all they are doing is building bunkers and putting up more sand bags. The sad thing is what they are blocking, is love. Bunkered in, safe, they can’t relax because love lets people in.

The first principle in Natural Law, that there are two sides to everything, including you, your partner and your relationship, there is nothing to change, only something to love. The wisest thing you can do is to say, “What I judge in you I judge in me”. Hold your hand out in front of you, make a fist, and point only one finger at someone, then look and see how many fingers are pointing back at you. This is what self-righteousness causes. You are actually judging yourself, when you blame others.

So, we use challenges to grow love. Every time we get challenged, emotionally negative, we process it, and turn it into love. That way, we stay in the honeymood. We can’t just ignore the negative stuff because it builds up, causes abuse, and makes us resentful. We have to process the negative stuff so it doesn’t block our love. It is like moving sand through the hourglass. In the top is the ego. In the bottom is love. We take the experiences at the top, everyday emotion, and move them to love. The more we process through the hourglass, the bigger our love can be.

Emotion is therefore the language of the ego. Emotion is the most wonderful honesty about how you feel, think and see life. But if you think your emotions are anything but a witnessing of your own “unconsciousness”, you may have a big problem in life. Emotions block love. No relationship, sacred or otherwise, can thrive when a couple considers their emotion

that sand bank is called righteousness. Those right people build big bunkers and only invite friends who agree with them in to the bunker. If you are the lover, you are the enemy. Then they go find a seminar or a book and say “I enjoyed that book or seminar” only if it agrees with their position on life. And if it doesn’t agree with them they say “that teacher was too intellectual or I don’t like that way of thinking” really, all they are doing is building bunkers and putting up more sand bags. The sad thing is what they are blocking, is love. Bunkered in, safe, they can’t relax because love lets people in.

The first principle in Natural Law, that there are two sides to everything, including you, your partner and your relationship, there is nothing to change, only something to love. The wisest thing you can do is to say, “What I judge in you I judge in me”. Hold your hand out in front of you, make a fist, and point only one finger at someone, then look and see how many fingers are pointing back at you. This is what self-righteousness causes. You are actually judging yourself, when you blame others.

So, we use challenges to grow love. Every time we get challenged, emotionally negative, we process it, and turn it into love. That way, we stay in the honeymood. We can’t just ignore the negative stuff because it builds up, causes abuse, and makes us resentful. We have to process the negative stuff so it doesn’t block our love. It is like moving sand through the hourglass. In the top is the ego. In the bottom is love. We take the experiences at the top, everyday emotion, and move them to love. The more we process through the hourglass, the bigger our love can be.

Emotion is therefore the language of the ego. Emotion is the most wonderful honesty about how you feel, think and see life. But if you think your emotions are anything but a witnessing of your own “unconsciousness”, you may have a big problem in life. Emotions block love. No relationship, sacred or otherwise, can thrive when a couple considers their emotion

rything, including you, your partner and your relationship, there is nothing to change, only something to love. The wisest thing you can do is to say, “What I judge in you I judge in me”. Hold your hand out in front of you, make a fist, and point only one finger at someone, then look and see how many fingers are pointing back at you. This is what self-righteousness causes. You are actually judging yourself, when you blame others.

So, we use challenges to grow love. Every time we get challenged, emotionally negative, we process it, and turn it into love. That way, we stay in the honeymood. We can’t just ignore the negative stuff because it builds up, causes abuse, and makes us resentful. We have to process the negative stuff so it doesn’t block our love. It is like moving sand through the hourglass. In the top is the ego. In the bottom is love. We take the experiences at the top, everyday emotion, and move them to love. The more we process through the hourglass, the bigger our love can be.

Emotion is therefore the language of the ego. Emotion is the most wonderful honesty about how you feel, think and see life. But if you think your emotions are anything but a witnessing of your own “unconsciousness”, you may have a big problem in life. Emotions block love. No relationship, sacred or otherwise, can thrive when a couple considers their emotion

us resentful. We have to process the negative stuff so it doesn’t block our love. It is like moving sand through the hourglass. In the top is the ego. In the bottom is love. We take the experiences at the top, everyday emotion, and move them to love. The more we process through the hourglass, the bigger our love can be.

Emotion is therefore the language of the ego. Emotion is the most wonderful honesty about how you feel, think and see life. But if you think your emotions are anything but a witnessing of your own “unconsciousness”, you may have a big problem in life. Emotions block love. No relationship, sacred or otherwise, can thrive when a couple considers their emotions a foundation. Those emotions are so changeable. One day the sun is out and you feel good; then the full moon sends you into a tailspin. You can’t base your relationship with someone you love on feelings and emotions. It is a disaster, like a leaf blowing in the wind. The wind (emotions) blow you left, you go left and shut down, they blow you right and you are infatuated and happy. It is like a little child in a candy shop. No love can last in that whirlwind of emotional drama.

This is the choice you have. You can love people but not be prepared to enter a relationship with them. That is a friendship. You can love someone and enter a relationship with them and this means to face the challenges that a relationship brings in order to stay in love. But if you expect to be in a relationship with someone, and not face your ego, not confront your hero’s and be caught in your own judgments, then you are not really wanting love. You are wanting peace, and in relationship, like nature, peace brings disease.

To be in relationship and hold love you need to stay vigilant to your ego. For example, our ego might want to see our partner as only a kind person. Our ego, if we empower it, says this is a good thing. Then we feel pleasure and this causes us to have a happy emotion, the ego is happy, because there is kind without cruel. But is this real, sustainable, true love or is it the ego creating the grounds for a disaster in our relationship? Imbalanced ideas is our emotional projection onto them. That is not a true awareness of them, not love, just our projection. In other words we become blind to the truth, because that is what we want, emotional infatuation is “high pleasure” and this we mistake for love.

We can easily mistake love for an emotional upper, so we project onto them and say, “I love you because I feel pleasured emotion, you are so kind, you are without cruel, so I will let you into my heart. You are like my hero, so you are called “good and lovable”. And you over there, you contradict my hero expectation, (remind me of someone I don’t like in my past who was cruel, so “I lock you out.”

This is where the conflict between emotions and love cause us most pain. Long term relationships cannot be based on this projection of fantasy, or delusions. In reality, all people have two sides. The more a person projects their “goodness” on you, the more they have mastered hiding their “badness” but it will, in the long term, surface. Some people learn how to hide their other side, and therefore get under your half life radar. That is the emotional definition of love. Your radar is looking for half a person, and so you get half, the good half, and long as your illusions are justified, you can