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Actual for You - Questions about Love, Life and the Laws of Nature - Making Relationships Last
Credit cards may be convenient since it gives you the luxury to spend more than what you can actually afford, but they can also land you in serious financial problems if not used properly. The use of credit cards in America is increasing by the day, and unfortunately, many are struggling with debt caused due to over spending. As a responsible credit card user you must try to lead a financially sound life, and you can begin by getting rid of your credit card debts.Never overextend the use of your credit card, as that will land you in a debt with high interest. Getting into credit card debt is very easy, but it may be very difficult to come out of it. Therefore, it is better to be cautious from the beginning, rather than finding yourself in a financial quandary.Stop overspendingIt is never too late to pull yourself out of the debt you are buried in it. The most important step is to curb your temptation to overspend. Try to limit your expenses as far as possible by keeping one or two credit cards at the most. More cards will mean more balance to pay off. This will quickly put you in a cycle of debt.Do not use your credit card to buy a lifestyle that is unaffordable for you; instead, use cash to make your purchases. If you want to buy something that you cannot afford, then you need to save money until you collect the required amount.In case of an emergency, you will have to use your credit card, of course, but make a strategy for payment of the balance before using the credit card. To do this, you need to make a budget and see that you use your credit card according to the budget. If you find your expenditure going out of budget, then it is advisable to stop using the credit card.Cover your balanceMaking minimum payments for your credit card bills each month may seem to be convenient, b
On your Web site you say that you can't change yourself or another person, you can only help someone appreciate who they really are, and help them to express their authenticity in the healthiest way and to make choices that support "their way." Is this a Law of Nature?
A:
No, this is a consequence of a Law of Nature. Laws of Nature do not dictate how people should and shouldn’t act. That’s the realm of religion and psychology. I call that mumbo jumbo mainly because I find it all so complex, opinionated and diverse in its translation. I am not a psychologist or a philosopher. With my mind I’d go mad trying to sort out right from wrong! No the Laws of Nature do not prescribe behavior. They do, however, set down principles from which we can see what is causing us to go loopy -- they reveal the emotion and myths that run our lives.
There is nothing missing in our lives. We are everything we want to be. It’s just that sometimes what we’ve got and what we want are in conflict because we got our wealth in love and we want it in money. Now, what we don’t appreciate we lose, so a person who is really wealthy in love, walking around wanting to change their life is fine, but if they are saying, “oooh I am so poor,” but they are really very abundant in love wealth (nothing is ever missing, just changes in form) then they may also lose their love life. See, it’s a matter of contentment. If we can say “thank you” for what we have, we get what we wa
Every great corporation we see today started as a business idea. It must have started as a small business and developed into a large-scale business over time and effort. Having this in mind, success of these small businesses should be taken very seriously in order to have a virile and sustainable economic growth in any nation like ours.For example in Africa, Nigeria has about 35% return on investment, which is the highest in the world today, with this, there is room for small businesses to thrive and survive beyond 5 years of establishment. The government has also seen the importance of small business success that they came up with the idea that banks and financial institutions should set aside a certain percentage of their profit after tax (about 10%)to serve as loans and grants to entrepreneurs even without collateral or interests.i also know that this obtains in other economies of the world where small scale business owners are given every support needed to thrive.7 secrets entrepreneurs need to know and do to have a successful small business are:Set goals and be focusedSetting of goals is very important because it is the foundation upon which the business is built. Goals give your business direction and focus; goals can be set for a short term, medium term or on long term bases. They should be specific and time based e.g. a plan to make a profit of $5000 in September 2007, it must be a plan you can achieve, and can also be measured at any point in time. Goals must be written out clearly as a business plan and followed accordingly.Be an effective leaderA good and effective leadership is needed to run the business even when the business has one or two employees. The leader should see opportunities, organize and coordinate how to achieve the set goals. He should also: ? Comm
You describe yourself as an “ordinary Aussie bloke.” Did your upbringing in "the bush" contribute to your receptivity to The Laws of Nature?
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When I say ordinary Aussie bloke, I mean that we Australian men seem able to laugh at ourselves. We don’t take things too seriously unless it’s about protecting our home or a mate in trouble. It’s the Aussie spirit. It’s unique in its light-hearted goodness. My upbringing in the bush was very much about trust. My step mum beat the crap out of me daily, the kids at school thought I was a weirdo (I moved to the bush from a little green, friendly and isolated country town in Tasmania that no one had ever heard of in this tough and rough bush environment). Poor old Dad was busting his chops working to try to overcome his grief from my mother’s death (I was two and a half years old and was beside her in a car when she died.)
Living amongst this kind of chaos, a kid searches for their own source of comfort and love (the Laws of Nature say that nothing is missing in life). I found comfort and love by the riverbank, playing in the bush, hanging out with Aboriginal kids that no other white person trusted. It was here that I learned not to trust words, just people. So, Nature was Mum for me. I felt her spirit in trees and rivers and branches and food that came from the earth. I felt her spirit in the wind and in the hot sun, her warm heart. This was how I learned to love. I learned to love by loving the earth
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At what point in your life did you become aware of The Laws of Nature? Was it a process or more of a single moment of clarity you had upon reading about them?
A:
I went through a hell of my own in the midst of a divorce. My three beautiful children sailed off on a yacht with their Mum and her new love. I really went down the tubes after that. I did therapy and Zen and yoga and more Zen and danced with Native American people all over the place. But ten minutes after I did any healing, the pains would come back. Something would remind me of my children and bingo, there I was, angry, sad and resentful.
I trekked in Nepal and many parts of the world alone, trying to find my own heart. I lost it, and the soul that feeds it, or so I thought, so I just went back to nature, to Mum, to be nurtured. One day I was looking at the sunrise. The moon was also in the sky. On this beautiful morning I got lost in thought. I drifted to the place where I was when the kids were born. When I watched them hatch into this world I just felt a miracle happen in me. So, sitting on the beach, I was back in that energy. I was so filled with tears and so happy. I looked at the moon and I realized I was in the same universe as my kids, in the same atmosphere as my kids, in the same realm of love with them. We were connected, inseparable and suddenly I was home again! I jumped up and started to dance like a mad man, I could see there was nothing to heal. All the healing had failed because there was nothing to heal. For the first time, I knew the formula for love. I had always mixed up my expectations of doing something good -- being a good father, providing, nurturing and caring – with love. Love is what nature does. She doesn’t care if you are here or gone, she loves. And there it was, the breakthrough. I separated emotion, expectation, philosophy, religion, beliefs and all that mumbo jumbo of complexity from real love.
Then I went back over all my studies of religion, the mysteries, metaphysics and poetry, and I just asked myself: “what’s behind these?” That’s when I became aware that behind every single expectation, emotion, philosophy and religion are five undisputable and universal Laws of Nature. They’re universal because from the smallest molecular structure to the widest galaxy these laws exist. And I found these laws written in ancient texts. And now it’s my job to bring them to others.
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What is it about you that makes you an ideal messenger for The Laws of Nature? What personal strengths help with the delivery of your message?
A:
None. Really. It’s totally not about the messenger…but there is one thing that makes me a little different from the average person selling love potions, and self-help blab, blab, blab. I don’t care about my approval rating. I say it as it is. The Howard Stern of the spiritual world. As an Aussie bloke I tell it as it is. I don’t mind a good fight, and I am not interested in shoving the message down people’s throat. I guess I am a good messenger for a message that says “BE REAL,” but a million other people could do it, if they had the conviction and the certainty.
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Can you describe a Law of Nature?
The first Law of Nature is balance. It says: positive thinking people are negative thinking people. There can’t be an upper without a downer. Positive thinking must be met with balance. We tend to look at life really selfishly, like “what is right for me?” I agree that positive is best for me, but I can’t then condemn all the negativity in my lover, or my business partner, and run around saying, “Oooh you are so negative.” No, I can say “Welcome to my world and have a beautiful day – thank you for expressing what I am repressing. Thank you for carrying the negativity that frees me to express my positivity.” You know 50 % of the world is yin, and 50% is yang. You go yang, someone goes yin. Simple isn’t it?
There are two sides to everything and everyone. We are all sinners and angels and worthy of love for it. We can’t change, we can only put a mask on and why do that? People become as you treat them, so I suggest that my students always look for both sides of everything and don’t get self indulgent and deluded by believing half-truths. For loving and good life, balance the positive and the negative firmly, then focus on the positive.
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On your Web site you say that you can't change yourself or another person, you can only help someone appreciate who they really are, and help them to express their authenticity in the healthiest way and to make choices that support "their way." Is this a Law of Nature?
A:
No, this is a consequence of a Law of Nature. Laws of Nature do not dictate how people should and shouldn’t act. That’s the realm of religion and psychology. I call that mumbo jumbo mainly because I find it all so complex, opinionated and diverse in its translation. I am not a psychologist or a philosopher. With my mind I’d go mad trying to sort out right from wrong! No the Laws of Nature do not prescribe behavior. They do, however, set down principles from which we can see what is causing us to go loopy -- they reveal the emotion and myths that run our lives.
There is nothing missing in our lives. We are everything we want to be. It’s just that sometimes what we’ve got and what we want are in conflict because we got our wealth in love and we want it in money. Now, what we don’t appreciate we lose, so a person who is really wealthy in love, walking around wanting to change their life is fine, but if they are saying, “oooh I am so poor,” but they are really very abundant in love wealth (nothing is ever missing, just changes in form) then they may also lose their love life. See, it’s a matter of contentment. If we can say “thank you” for what we have, we get what we wan
While there are of course many ways to profit from the phenomenal success and growth of the internet, the sale of private label books is one of the most unique opportunities in the world of internet business. Selling ready made and highly useful private label books is one of those rare business opportunities that virtually anyone can take advantage of, and private label books are one of the most potentially profitable niches in the world of the internet.To understand just what makes private label books so potentially profitable, it is helpful to understand how many people use the internet. A large percentage of average web surfers use the internet to search for information, and those who have valuable and in demand information to sell stand to make a great deal of money from that information. Private label books are a great way to supply eager buyers with the information they crave at a fair price.Of course having this ready to sell information at your disposal will do you no good if no one knows it is there. In order to achieve success with any type of business it will be necessary to market the business effectively. There are a great many marketing options available to web site owners, including banner ads, search engine ads, affiliate marketing deals, and the like. It is important to try a number of approaches and to gauge the response to each. It is vital to know which types of advertising are providing the most bang for the buck.Fortunately, the same information that makes private label books so valuable can also play a role in the marketing of the private label book business. Using valuable private label information on the web site can help to attract visitors and boost search engine rankings, and that in turn can help to drive more visitors to the web site and generate more first time business.
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At what point in your life did you become aware of The Laws of Nature? Was it a process or more of a single moment of clarity you had upon reading about them?
A:
I went through a hell of my own in the midst of a divorce. My three beautiful children sailed off on a yacht with their Mum and her new love. I really went down the tubes after that. I did therapy and Zen and yoga and more Zen and danced with Native American people all over the place. But ten minutes after I did any healing, the pains would come back. Something would remind me of my children and bingo, there I was, angry, sad and resentful.
I trekked in Nepal and many parts of the world alone, trying to find my own heart. I lost it, and the soul that feeds it, or so I thought, so I just went back to nature, to Mum, to be nurtured. One day I was looking at the sunrise. The moon was also in the sky. On this beautiful morning I got lost in thought. I drifted to the place where I was when the kids were born. When I watched them hatch into this world I just felt a miracle happen in me. So, sitting on the beach, I was back in that energy. I was so filled with tears and so happy. I looked at the moon and I realized I was in the same universe as my kids, in the same atmosphere as my kids, in the same realm of love with them. We were connected, inseparable and suddenly I was home again! I jumped up and started to dance like a mad man, I could see there was nothing to heal. All the healing had failed because there was nothing to heal. For the first time, I knew the formula for love. I had always mixed up my expectations of doing something good -- being a good father, providing, nurturing and caring – with love. Love is what nature does. She doesn’t care if you are here or gone, she loves. And there it was, the breakthrough. I separated emotion, expectation, philosophy, religion, beliefs and all that mumbo jumbo of complexity from real love.
Then I went back over all my studies of religion, the mysteries, metaphysics and poetry, and I just asked myself: “what’s behind these?” That’s when I became aware that behind every single expectation, emotion, philosophy and religion are five undisputable and universal Laws of Nature. They’re universal because from the smallest molecular structure to the widest galaxy these laws exist. And I found these laws written in ancient texts. And now it’s my job to bring them to others.
Q:
What is it about you that makes you an ideal messenger for The Laws of Nature? What personal strengths help with the delivery of your message?
A:
None. Really. It’s totally not about the messenger…but there is one thing that makes me a little different from the average person selling love potions, and self-help blab, blab, blab. I don’t care about my approval rating. I say it as it is. The Howard Stern of the spiritual world. As an Aussie bloke I tell it as it is. I don’t mind a good fight, and I am not interested in shoving the message down people’s throat. I guess I am a good messenger for a message that says “BE REAL,” but a million other people could do it, if they had the conviction and the certainty.
Q:
Can you describe a Law of Nature?
The first Law of Nature is balance. It says: positive thinking people are negative thinking people. There can’t be an upper without a downer. Positive thinking must be met with balance. We tend to look at life really selfishly, like “what is right for me?” I agree that positive is best for me, but I can’t then condemn all the negativity in my lover, or my business partner, and run around saying, “Oooh you are so negative.” No, I can say “Welcome to my world and have a beautiful day – thank you for expressing what I am repressing. Thank you for carrying the negativity that frees me to express my positivity.” You know 50 % of the world is yin, and 50% is yang. You go yang, someone goes yin. Simple isn’t it?
There are two sides to everything and everyone. We are all sinners and angels and worthy of love for it. We can’t change, we can only put a mask on and why do that? People become as you treat them, so I suggest that my students always look for both sides of everything and don’t get self indulgent and deluded by believing half-truths. For loving and good life, balance the positive and the negative firmly, then focus on the positive.
Q:
On your Web site you say that you can't change yourself or another person, you can only help someone appreciate who they really are, and help them to express their authenticity in the healthiest way and to make choices that support "their way." Is this a Law of Nature?
A:
No, this is a consequence of a Law of Nature. Laws of Nature do not dictate how people should and shouldn’t act. That’s the realm of religion and psychology. I call that mumbo jumbo mainly because I find it all so complex, opinionated and diverse in its translation. I am not a psychologist or a philosopher. With my mind I’d go mad trying to sort out right from wrong! No the Laws of Nature do not prescribe behavior. They do, however, set down principles from which we can see what is causing us to go loopy -- they reveal the emotion and myths that run our lives.
There is nothing missing in our lives. We are everything we want to be. It’s just that sometimes what we’ve got and what we want are in conflict because we got our wealth in love and we want it in money. Now, what we don’t appreciate we lose, so a person who is really wealthy in love, walking around wanting to change their life is fine, but if they are saying, “oooh I am so poor,” but they are really very abundant in love wealth (nothing is ever missing, just changes in form) then they may also lose their love life. See, it’s a matter of contentment. If we can say “thank you” for what we have, we get what we wa
So you took the time to look at your successful employees and identify those characteristics that caused them to work well with your company and fit with your culture.This week's challenge is to develop questions that will help you identify those characteristics in people you don't even know. You should develop these questions before you even start to review resumes so you know what you're looking for.There are several different types of questions to ask. First is more of the “Did you ever do this” on your past job. Questions like this help you get more details about what the candidate has actually listed on their resume (and can help you weed out those who embellished a bit).Think about the skills that are required in the job you're hiring for. Will this position have to analyze data on a daily basis? Ask them a question like “In any of your past jobs, did you ever have responsibility for looking at spreadsheets and finding anomalies?” or “A large part of the responsibilities of this job is to look at spreadsheets of data and investigate anything that seems abnormal from what you noticed the month before. Does that sound like something that you've had responsibility for in the past? Can you tell me more about your experience with that?” Then look at (or if they're on the phone, listen for), their reaction. Does it sound like they are excited by this question because they have a lot of experiences to talk to you about, or do they give some sort of short, vague answer? Does the description of their experiences demonstrate that they have the patience and diligence to dig into data, look for what seems off, and then have the follow-through to find out what happened? Also note that by using the phrase “A large part of the job is” you're being very upfront with them about what to expect, and giving them a
Then I went back over all my studies of religion, the mysteries, metaphysics and poetry, and I just asked myself: “what’s behind these?” That’s when I became aware that behind every single expectation, emotion, philosophy and religion are five undisputable and universal Laws of Nature. They’re universal because from the smallest molecular structure to the widest galaxy these laws exist. And I found these laws written in ancient texts. And now it’s my job to bring them to others.
Q:
What is it about you that makes you an ideal messenger for The Laws of Nature? What personal strengths help with the delivery of your message?
A:
None. Really. It’s totally not about the messenger…but there is one thing that makes me a little different from the average person selling love potions, and self-help blab, blab, blab. I don’t care about my approval rating. I say it as it is. The Howard Stern of the spiritual world. As an Aussie bloke I tell it as it is. I don’t mind a good fight, and I am not interested in shoving the message down people’s throat. I guess I am a good messenger for a message that says “BE REAL,” but a million other people could do it, if they had the conviction and the certainty.
Q:
Can you describe a Law of Nature?
The first Law of Nature is balance. It says: positive thinking people are negative thinking people. There can’t be an upper without a downer. Positive thinking must be met with balance. We tend to look at life really selfishly, like “what is right for me?” I agree that positive is best for me, but I can’t then condemn all the negativity in my lover, or my business partner, and run around saying, “Oooh you are so negative.” No, I can say “Welcome to my world and have a beautiful day – thank you for expressing what I am repressing. Thank you for carrying the negativity that frees me to express my positivity.” You know 50 % of the world is yin, and 50% is yang. You go yang, someone goes yin. Simple isn’t it?
There are two sides to everything and everyone. We are all sinners and angels and worthy of love for it. We can’t change, we can only put a mask on and why do that? People become as you treat them, so I suggest that my students always look for both sides of everything and don’t get self indulgent and deluded by believing half-truths. For loving and good life, balance the positive and the negative firmly, then focus on the positive.
Q:
On your Web site you say that you can't change yourself or another person, you can only help someone appreciate who they really are, and help them to express their authenticity in the healthiest way and to make choices that support "their way." Is this a Law of Nature?
A:
No, this is a consequence of a Law of Nature. Laws of Nature do not dictate how people should and shouldn’t act. That’s the realm of religion and psychology. I call that mumbo jumbo mainly because I find it all so complex, opinionated and diverse in its translation. I am not a psychologist or a philosopher. With my mind I’d go mad trying to sort out right from wrong! No the Laws of Nature do not prescribe behavior. They do, however, set down principles from which we can see what is causing us to go loopy -- they reveal the emotion and myths that run our lives.
There is nothing missing in our lives. We are everything we want to be. It’s just that sometimes what we’ve got and what we want are in conflict because we got our wealth in love and we want it in money. Now, what we don’t appreciate we lose, so a person who is really wealthy in love, walking around wanting to change their life is fine, but if they are saying, “oooh I am so poor,” but they are really very abundant in love wealth (nothing is ever missing, just changes in form) then they may also lose their love life. See, it’s a matter of contentment. If we can say “thank you” for what we have, we get what we wa
Payday loan by phone is a quick way to get cash advance when you face an emergency financially. Payday loan is a short term loan that is designed to help you get control of your finances during temporary monetary crisis. The loan application is easy. You can simply phone a payday loan lender and have someone on the other end to complete the application form for you. The money can be available in your bank account within the same day or next.Ways to Get Payday LoansThere are several ways to obtain fast cash advance through a payday loan. Traditionally, you will have to go to a local loan shop and fill in an application form manually. The downside of this is that you will have to spend time for the trip to the shop. It may become worse if you would have to waste extra time to line up in a queue just to lodge the application form at the counter. There may be several paper works that you would have to enclose along with the application form too. Some of which could be the copy of your driver’s license, pay slip stub, electricity bill, etc.The quickest way is to submit the loan application form online. You simply follow the link at the end of this article to get access to online payday loan companies. You don’t need to fax anything as your details are processed online in a secure environment. You can also pick up the phone and have someone from the company to complete the application form for you, but as you are online already why not you enter your details yourself and submit the form easily.What are the Requirements?Unlike any other loans, payday loans are issued by financial institutions that are independent of banks or governments agencies. Given that the loans are meant to help people overcome their cash urgency quickly, payday loan companies generally do not ask
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Can you describe a Law of Nature?
The first Law of Nature is balance. It says: positive thinking people are negative thinking people. There can’t be an upper without a downer. Positive thinking must be met with balance. We tend to look at life really selfishly, like “what is right for me?” I agree that positive is best for me, but I can’t then condemn all the negativity in my lover, or my business partner, and run around saying, “Oooh you are so negative.” No, I can say “Welcome to my world and have a beautiful day – thank you for expressing what I am repressing. Thank you for carrying the negativity that frees me to express my positivity.” You know 50 % of the world is yin, and 50% is yang. You go yang, someone goes yin. Simple isn’t it?
There are two sides to everything and everyone. We are all sinners and angels and worthy of love for it. We can’t change, we can only put a mask on and why do that? People become as you treat them, so I suggest that my students always look for both sides of everything and don’t get self indulgent and deluded by believing half-truths. For loving and good life, balance the positive and the negative firmly, then focus on the positive.
Q:
On your Web site you say that you can't change yourself or another person, you can only help someone appreciate who they really are, and help them to express their authenticity in the healthiest way and to make choices that support "their way." Is this a Law of Nature?
A:
No, this is a consequence of a Law of Nature. Laws of Nature do not dictate how people should and shouldn’t act. That’s the realm of religion and psychology. I call that mumbo jumbo mainly because I find it all so complex, opinionated and diverse in its translation. I am not a psychologist or a philosopher. With my mind I’d go mad trying to sort out right from wrong! No the Laws of Nature do not prescribe behavior. They do, however, set down principles from which we can see what is causing us to go loopy -- they reveal the emotion and myths that run our lives.
There is nothing missing in our lives. We are everything we want to be. It’s just that sometimes what we’ve got and what we want are in conflict because we got our wealth in love and we want it in money. Now, what we don’t appreciate we lose, so a person who is really wealthy in love, walking around wanting to change their life is fine, but if they are saying, “oooh I am so poor,” but they are really very abundant in love wealth (nothing is ever missing, just changes in form) then they may also lose their love life. See, it’s a matter of contentment. If we can say “thank you” for what we have, we get what we wa
There is a debate in the financial services industry over commission versus fee-based compensation. As an investor, it’s important that you understand the differences. Otherwise, it can end up costing you tens of thousands of dollars and great frustration.If you’ve read any of my weekly articles, you know that I am opposed to investors working with a commission-based advisor. I often receive angry emails from brokers and agents berating me for ‘misleading’ investors. They say that over time an investor will end up paying less in a commission-based product versus paying an ongoing management fee of 1% per year.On the surface, this appears to be true. If you invest $100,000 into a mutual fund with a 5.75% front-end commission, you will have $5,750 deducted from your account on the first day. If instead, you paid 1% of the value of the account each year for seven years then you would end up paying $7,000 in fees—not counting the fees from the account increasing in value. As the value of the account goes up, so does the amount paid in management fees. On the other hand, the up-front commission was only based on the initial investment.Why on earth, then, do I say that it is more expensive to pay a commission?First, this simple example above does not take into account the true costs associated with investing over that seven-year period. It’s true that if you owned the same investment for seven years and didn’t make any changes along the way, that you would benefit from paying a commission versus fees.The problem is that there will only be a handful of every 100 people who will hang on to the investment that long. Studies have shown that the average length of mutual fund ownership is less than 2 years! It’s not unusual for an investor to go back to the broker that received the initial commission (or to
On your Web site you say that you can't change yourself or another person, you can only help someone appreciate who they really are, and help them to express their authenticity in the healthiest way and to make choices that support "their way." Is this a Law of Nature?
A:
No, this is a consequence of a Law of Nature. Laws of Nature do not dictate how people should and shouldn’t act. That’s the realm of religion and psychology. I call that mumbo jumbo mainly because I find it all so complex, opinionated and diverse in its translation. I am not a psychologist or a philosopher. With my mind I’d go mad trying to sort out right from wrong! No the Laws of Nature do not prescribe behavior. They do, however, set down principles from which we can see what is causing us to go loopy -- they reveal the emotion and myths that run our lives.
There is nothing missing in our lives. We are everything we want to be. It’s just that sometimes what we’ve got and what we want are in conflict because we got our wealth in love and we want it in money. Now, what we don’t appreciate we lose, so a person who is really wealthy in love, walking around wanting to change their life is fine, but if they are saying, “oooh I am so poor,” but they are really very abundant in love wealth (nothing is ever missing, just changes in form) then they may also lose their love life. See, it’s a matter of contentment. If we can say “thank you” for what we have, we get what we want. The form can change, not the content. We can change love dollars for Australian dollars, or our health Yen for Japanese Yen. Easy.
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Can you briefly describe the 5 great keys to lifelong happiness?
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This is how we all think. We think if I know the 5 Laws of Nature, I will have lifelong happiness. But that is absolutely mumbo jumbo…. Life long happiness is a marketing campaign proposed by people like myself, the Buddhists and most new age gurus to sell books, get audiences and win a good bank balance. But there is really nothing that can cause life long happiness. Life is not about being happy all life long, but we don’t know this. So we buy the books, believe the marketing, go to the workshops, join the religions, and in most cases, judge the people who cause us discomfort.
Really, this is where the buck must stop, with people like me. The Laws of Nature, on the other hand, argue that:
- You are going to have an equal balance of happy times and sad times
- If you don’t appreciate the sad times, they get worse
- Evolution happens at the border of happy and sad
- We never find the balance between these two, we cycle like a drunk staggering down the street from one side to the other
- The person who is looking for all peace, all happiness, all goodness in their relationship or work life is a fool. They are drunker than the rest of us. That person will stagger between extremes. They’ll be more emotionally shocked when their hard-won peace and tranquility gets disturbed by reality.
The Laws of Nature simply reveal the lies that marketers promote, and the delusion that people try to manifest in their lives -- that there can’t be any existence in any walk of life without challenge and discomfort.
That’s humility. Staying thankful for the small things means you don’t get complacent and think that you are infallible. In a relationship this is even more critical. The time to invest in humble gratitude is when things are going well, not when they are down and out. When things are up, there is the unseen down. You need to be humble to these Laws of Nature then you don’t get shocks.
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You say that Happiness come from contentment and contentment comes when you stop trying to be someone else. Was there a time in your life when you found yourself trying to be something you weren't or have you always managed to make good lifestyle choices for yourself?
I still try to be someone else. I am not content all the time. Crikey! don’t put me on the pedestal and say that I can practice all I teach 24/7. No way. I go up and down just as nature has warm days and storm days. But, the big difference is that when I become unhappy or unhealthy I know I have gone against one of the Laws of Nature. Unhappiness for me only comes when I don’t like who I am and I try to fix it, which just make matters worse. If I am unhappy, unlike a lot of people who think they’ve made a bad decision or need to fix themselves, I say the opposite. Instead of therapy or self-help, I believe I am worthy of love for who I am, and the only person who needs to know that is me. Nothing needs to change, only something to appreciate. What you appreciate grows and what grows is happy.
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You say that your message is not about "self help." I think of self-help as people writing or talking about a topic they know well and me learning. I take from books and lectures the "pearls of wisdom" that resonate for me. What is your definition of self-help? Isn't your goal to help people and corporations to look inward in order to better express themselves in the world?
Yes, I guess you are right. But the self-help industry is so filled with people who learned to be a yoga teacher last week and wrote a book this week. Our industry is the most unregulated, dangerous, self-proclaiming, money-spinning messing-with-people industry on earth. You need a license to give someone a massage. But you can mess with people’s hearts, minds and spirit if you just say “Oh, I am a native blood, therefore I have wisdom” or “I am Chinese therefore I am Tao” or “I am completely disconnected from reality, therefore I can sell books on angels.” You must see this yourself -- there are as many good results from self-help as bad… I think self-help leads to self-obsession, and self-obsession is about being loved, being lovable, being good, being happy. And the truth is none of those things ever made one human being happy. Helping others, loving others, loving beauty, appreciating people, this makes us happy because in doing that we forget our “self.” My favorite quote says to effect that self-help doesn’t work. It can’t, because the ultimate end is to discover there is no self, and therefore nothing needs help.
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I love your statement that "people become as you treat them, and what you appreciate grows." One of the reasons awareness resonates so strongly for me is that I've found you can't appreciate what you don't notice! Does this idea fit in with what you meant?
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I’ve noticed, that if I don’t notice what is noticeable, then I get put on notice that my notice is not enticing. This is a very strong observation that you make. One that I think we can all learn from.
The forth Law of Nature is appreciation. So, I fill my head and heart with appreciation. Now, the complexity is that sometimes stuff happens and you don’t appreciate it, instead you want to run away from it, or fix it. But bloody hell, how far can you run? You can run all the way to Nepal, and still find the things that were annoying you in Sydney, or New York or in a commune, or in an ashram in India. Annoyance about things we don’t appreciate follows us.
When we talk about personal growth, most people measure this personal growth in how happy, w
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